moosegreen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 we have been on and off for about 3 years and shes always started off loving me and making me feel awesome...anyway this time its the something shes stopped doing the small things to make me feel good and stuff, anyway i told her how i felt about it how its going back to the way it was ( her treating me poorly..is why we split the last 2 times) and she said to talk about it later cuz she was going out....its been 2 or 3 days and she has int been interested in talking about it ....so isint that enough to show she dosint really care?
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 we have been on and off for about 3 years and shes always started off loving me and making me feel awesome...anyway this time its the something shes stopped doing the small things to make me feel good and stuff, anyway i told her how i felt about it how its going back to the way it was ( her treating me poorly..is why we split the last 2 times) and she said to talk about it later cuz she was going out....its been 2 or 3 days and she has int been interested in talking about it ....so isint that enough to show she dosint really care? Are you looking for a relationship with someone to make you feel better about yourself? I'm not trying to accuse or antagonize. But from the information you've brought forward, I'm wondering how you define her treating you poorly. I've known guys who have very unrealistic expectations of constant ego stroking and catering from their women. I've also known guys who have very reasonable expectations but are with girls who are disloyal, abusive, etc. So what's the case with you? How is she not treating you well. I ask only because how you define being treated well has a lot to do with the answer.
Author moosegreen Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 well....first off...when we first started seeing each other she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me but just not right then....i found out she was sleeping with a hockey buddy of mine....so a month or 2 she asked if we could try that again i said yes....so at the end of that era she was always canceling plans with me to be with her friends about at least 50% of the time...she became un reliable... she would only tell me she loved me when she was high or drunk witch i told her i didn't not like... she lied about where she was going and who she was with ALOT... she kept buying weed from my hockey buddy that she slept with witch i told her not to do and then at the end she said she didint know if she loved me or wanted to be with me...plus all the little things...shes been doing some of these things now...i told her to quit smokeing and weed to show me shes serious about us and she had told me she did...anyway that was a lie also she was talking to some guy on the internet from plenty of fish....so i dont think that im being needy or whatever it is you said there....i feel pritty stuped sometime giving her so many chances
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 well....first off...when we first started seeing each other she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me but just not right then....i found out she was sleeping with a hockey buddy of mine....so a month or 2 she asked if we could try that again i said yes....so at the end of that era she was always canceling plans with me to be with her friends about at least 50% of the time...she became un reliable... she would only tell me she loved me when she was high or drunk witch i told her i didn't not like... she lied about where she was going and who she was with ALOT... she kept buying weed from my hockey buddy that she slept with witch i told her not to do and then at the end she said she didint know if she loved me or wanted to be with me...plus all the little things...shes been doing some of these things now...i told her to quit smokeing and weed to show me shes serious about us and she had told me she did...anyway that was a lie also she was talking to some guy on the internet from plenty of fish....so i dont think that im being needy or whatever it is you said there....i feel pritty stuped sometime giving her so many chances Okay, wow. So, essentially...she possibly has substance absue issues, and at the very least values weed more than your relationship. She has issues with fidelity. She's not honest. She's off and on the fence about whether she actually has feelings for you. Yeah...I'm going to say that this girl is not treating you with the respect you deserve. It is her place to fix it, and as hard as it is to accept...you need to realize she likely isn't going to. Especially if you continue to give her chances. Unless you've done some equally sh*tty things to her...I don't think you should even give her a chance to fix it....
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