dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 My motherinlaw was that dense. Everyone was meeeeeaaaaaan to her for noooooooooo reason; all she ever did was looooooove everyone and try to be friendly and helpful. And--- it wasn't faaaaaaaair. She had a personality disorder; a recognized mental disorder, a form of emotional stunting. It was almost like some form of Aspbergers. She couldn't 'understand' anything that went against the grain of her own wants and expectations of how the world SHOULD work. She had her own definition of 'fair' and anyone who didn't agree with her was meeeeeeean. She literally, absolutely and completely could not see cause and effect in her own actions. Her 'friends' would agree with everything she said--as they edged away. She'd get caught in lies--and then think it was mean if she were called a liar. She'd invite herself over--and then complaint she was unwelcomed. She'd stab people in the back--and then whine that no one liked her. She'd be told, DO NOT GIVE THE BABY JELLYBEANS, and the first opportunity she had, she'd give the baby jellybeans. And when the baby was not allow to be alone with her anymore, she couldn't understaaaaaaaand, everyone was being meeeeeeeean for nooooooo reeeeeason, and it wasn't faaaaaaaiiiiiiiiir, and she gave her babies jellybeans and nothing ever happened, none of THEM choked to death; all she was trying to do was be nice! She would never take no for an answer, EVER. Nothing that ever happened to her was the result of her own bad judgement or meanness or selfishness. In her world, she was the most loving, sweet, helpful, timid, sensitive thing God ever put on earth---and if you didn't see her that way too, you were being meeeeeeeean to her for noooooooooo reeeeeeeeeason and she just didn't understaaaaaaaand. This guy's the same. OMG, you must be the girl that married my husband's brother!
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Well it's a family issue she said to the class, and has mentioned to me in an email she was having some issues. I have an idea what it is but didn't say anything. I was acting concerned though and honest when I asked her whats wrong, because I can tell the problem is stressing her just by the mood she's in on some days. I really was trying to be nice and see if she would open more, but she shut me down. Which at least it told me that she really doesn't want to talk to me much at all. Which I can accept that. I just ask that she doesn't treat me differently because she doesn't like me. I don't know why I'm always nice to her. Her loss! Well can she lose you now?
Author one goal Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Well can she lose you now? LOL. Well she is single and that. I guess she doesn't want a boyfriend, or have a romantic relationship with anyone.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 LOL. Well she is single and that. I guess she doesn't want a boyfriend, or have a romantic relationship with anyone. *facepalm* With YOU, dude. With YOU. /end facepalm
oaks Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 LOL. Well she is single and that. I guess she doesn't want a boyfriend, or have a romantic relationship with anyone. Well, now that she's missed her chance with you I'm sure she's doomed to be single forever. Oh, wait, she's hot. Never mind.
MarlyStar Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 There's nothing wrong with her, one goal. The problem is you. Choosing not to date you does not equate to being mean, choosing not to date you does not equate to wanting to be alone forever, choosing not to date you does not mean there's something wrong with her at all. You are very lucky she has not reported you to the University, especially after some of the more recent campus shootings. You fit the profile of the psychologically unbalanced. You email excessively, you asked her out inappropriately, you confronted/argued with her about her not wanting to go out with you, you are prying into her personal business, you are using all media you can think of to force yourself on her (email, in person, facebook), you are clearly obsessed, you are hypersensitive to criticism, you are aggrieved about nothing (so she didn't FB you and she did FB others? So you are only getting an A- in her class? That's not worth being obsessing over), you are incapable of understanding another person's point of view, the red flags go on and on. There is something really abnormal about your interaction with her--not hers with you--but YOUR interaction with her. It's YOU. Why can't you see it? That's the spooky part. Normal people might not see it at the time, but when pointed out to them, they do see it ("Hey, I guess you're right, I blew it..."). But not you. You are very worrisome.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Glad that you are starting to move past her OP. How much longer do you have in the class?
Author one goal Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Glad that you are starting to move past her OP. How much longer do you have in the class? Approx one month to go. She teaches another class I could use but I wont take her again. It would hurt too much because she wont date me and she doesnt like me. There are other students shes friends with more. She wouldnt open up to me. I tried everything I could to get a date or try and be friends but she wants nothing to do with me. Like she shut me down on thur after class.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 It is better that she shut you down then give you false hope. Take it as a blessing.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Well now I know why you call yourself " onegoal"- you have nothing better to do than persue this poor woman relentlessly ( Ialso noticed you have a tendency to call her a " nice girl" which sounds exceptionally condescending considering she is your professor. If not by age, at least by merit and status, she should be referred to as a woman). By the way, how much do you weigh? Because after reading 8 pages of you complaining about how this poor woman has done you wrong, you might have to subtract at least 10 lbs from your full weight and apply that to how thick your skull must be not to understand the pure logic of leaving her alone.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I think the OP must suffer from some sort of personality disorder. Just the way he's responded to people on here, not to mention the way he's treated his teacher, proves that he is mentally sick. I told him to seek therapy, and I stand by that assertion. I don't think we should make fun of the mentally ill.
Author one goal Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Well now I know why you call yourself " onegoal"- you have nothing better to do than persue this poor woman relentlessly ( Ialso noticed you have a tendency to call her a " nice girl" which sounds exceptionally condescending considering she is your professor. If not by age, at least by merit and status, she should be referred to as a woman). By the way, how much do you weigh? Because after reading 8 pages of you complaining about how this poor woman has done you wrong, you might have to subtract at least 10 lbs from your full weight and apply that to how thick your skull must be not to understand the pure logic of leaving her alone. I only told her I thought she was a nice girl once. That is when I talked to her after class that one day after asking her out. I used girl because it makes her sound younger, and sounds cute. It made her smile a bit. She's in her late 30s.
MarlyStar Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I think the OP must suffer from some sort of personality disorder. Just the way he's responded to people on here, not to mention the way he's treated his teacher, proves that he is mentally sick. Personality disorders are notoriously resistant to treatment. But I agree with you.
Author one goal Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 Personality disorders are notoriously resistant to treatment. But I agree with you. I'm not crazy. I just like her because she's hot, and her personality. I don't have a personality disorder. I had a crush on a hot chick.
anne1707 Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I had a crush on a hot chick. No. You stalked your teacher. Just as you have stalked and harassed other women as indicated repeatedly by your past threads. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/search.php?searchid=15881663
Author one goal Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I didn't stalk her! I don't send her tons of emails, or follow her around. I just asked her out once.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 I didn't stalk her! I don't send her tons of emails, or follow her around. I just asked her out once. 12 emails seems like tons.
Author one goal Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 12 emails seems like tons. But only two were related to asking her out. The rest were class related. I know she wont go out with me. I noticed how she shot me down on Thur when I tried to get her to open up more with me, she just walked away.
Art_Critic Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 12 emails seems like tons. I haven't sent my Mom or Wife 12 emails in the last 3 months.. Dude.. you have such a messed up viewpoint of a dateable woman.. Your professor was never dateable... ever... Being hot isn't the bar for being dateable.. My wife is hot... you want to ask her out too ?
Kamille Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 One goal, has a girl you weren't interested in ever hit on you?
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Everyone is hot nowadays. It was friggin' 75 degrees out there today.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Sorry dude, but you need to go over the reactions of posters on both threads and see if you find a common theme. Usually it is "STOP." And the fact that you didn't listen once is very telling.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Yes, it's the Spring, warm weather. Everyone is hot. Even my neighbor's small terrier dog. That is a hot dog. What say you, one goal? Are you into bestiality? (Maybe this will get him to finally stfu!)
dreamingoftigers Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 Yes, it's the Spring, warm weather. Everyone is hot. Even my neighbor's small terrier dog. That is a hot dog. What say you, one goal? Are you into bestiality? (Maybe this will get him to finally stfu!) Probably more likely to earn you an infraction. Onegoal, find a new focus, kay?
Author one goal Posted April 10, 2011 Author Posted April 10, 2011 I haven't sent my Mom or Wife 12 emails in the last 3 months.. Dude.. you have such a messed up viewpoint of a dateable woman.. Your professor was never dateable... ever... Being hot isn't the bar for being dateable.. My wife is hot... you want to ask her out too ? Well she's single, and doesn't have any kids. So I didn't consider her undateable. I asked her out BECAUSE she is single.
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