EyesWideOpen Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I think it's safe to say his area of expertise isn't Conversational Analysis. *chuckle* Got that right! Yes I'm in school. It's not like you can ask them out the first day of class? I think given the progression in this thread, it's probably the safest and simplest solution to answer this as such: You should wait a minimum of ten years from when you first encounter the girl before asking her out. There. Now you have a very definitive answer. It doesn't get any more simple than that. Good luck!
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Why don't these colleges want teachers dating students?
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Why don't these colleges want teachers dating students? No college allows teachers to date students.
oaks Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Why don't these colleges want teachers dating students? Ok, now I know you're just trolling because nobody is really that dense.
P&R Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Why don't these colleges want teachers dating students? Did you really need to ask that question? It's a conflict of interest.
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Did you really need to ask that question? It's a conflict of interest. I was just wondering because if we are adults in college there shouldn't be any rules for it.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I was just wondering because if we are adults in college there shouldn't be any rules for it. The professor has power over you. She (or he) can give you a higher grade than the others, because they're dating you. Seriously, did you not realize that?
johan Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You should ask her out one more time before the term ends. Persistence is pretty attractive to women who play hard to get like she is.
oaks Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 You should ask her out one more time before the term ends. Persistence is pretty attractive to women who play hard to get like she is. Maybe if he turns up at her house with a bunch of flowers she'll finally see him as more than just a student.
Intricategirl Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 This is the Michelangelo of trolling. Seriously high art. Johan, you owe me a new monitor. Mine is now covered in coffee. It *almost* sprayed from my nose.
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 You should ask her out one more time before the term ends. Persistence is pretty attractive to women who play hard to get like she is. then she could get me in trouble for harassment.
anne1707 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 then she could get me in trouble for harassment. No. Really?????
EyesWideOpen Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 No. Really????? OMFG I'm seriously dying laughing. This is good stuff! :lmao: Really though OneGoal...if she hasn't already gotten you in trouble for harassement, then that means she isn't going to. That means she must like you and wants to have sex with you. I bet if you were to show up at her office naked with a contraceptive she'd jump all over the opportunity. You should give it a try!
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I bet if you were to show up at her office naked with a contraceptive she'd jump all over the opportunity. You should give it a try! Even better, bring a rattlesnake and a midget. Then she will fall in love with you.
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Is there anything I can do to repair things incase I ever run into her in the future she wont feel the way she does towards me?
Cracker Jack Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 The best way to repair things is by moving on with your life and not focusing on her anymore.
whichwayisup Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Is there anything I can do to repair things incase I ever run into her in the future she wont feel the way she does towards me? Nope. You have to let this go. She doesn't like you that way.. Go have a good cry and get it out of your system, and get busy, focus your attention elsewhere. Your friends, your family, hobbies, school work, studying.. Just not on her anymore. In the future if you run into her, walk the other way. You have no control over how she feels about you so you trying to win her over won't work.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Is there anything I can do to repair things incase I ever run into her in the future she wont feel the way she does towards me? You just don't get it, do you? And I doubt you ever will. And I thought Charlie Sheen was a trainwreck!
Author one goal Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Nope. You have to let this go. She doesn't like you that way.. Go have a good cry and get it out of your system, and get busy, focus your attention elsewhere. Your friends, your family, hobbies, school work, studying.. Just not on her anymore. In the future if you run into her, walk the other way. You have no control over how she feels about you so you trying to win her over won't work. Well I needed a art credit and saw she happend to teach one of the classes this summer. I didn't sign up for it. Can you imagine if she had me as a student again lol?
Back Burner Gal Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 And she is being mean when compared to other students. She isn't snapping at other students. I'm the only one that I've seen her talk like that. Ok so I asked her out. However why must she be mean to me even when I'm asking about school, or ignoring me when I have something that I need to ask? before I asked her out she wasn't like that. She can be upset all she wants because I asked her out, but why must she take it out on me? Like I said with facebook other students are her friend on there. So how is that not bad for her career, but would be bad if she added me? What is the difference? She isn't snapping at the other students because the other students didn't send her 12 emails in 8 weeks. The other students didn't ask her out. The other students didn't have a discussion with her about her rejection. She's taking her upset out on you because YOU are the one CAUSING the upset. Should she take out her upset with you on another one of the students? The other students get to be her facebook friends because they didn't email her 12 times in 8 weeks, they didn't ask her out, they aren't being pushy and obtuse (if oh so polite). What's the difference between the other students and you? The difference is __________________. (you fill in the blank, think hard now, you have been given a lot of clues).
Back Burner Gal Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Ok, now I know you're just trolling because nobody is really that dense. My motherinlaw was that dense. Everyone was meeeeeaaaaaan to her for noooooooooo reason; all she ever did was looooooove everyone and try to be friendly and helpful. And--- it wasn't faaaaaaaair. She had a personality disorder; a recognized mental disorder, a form of emotional stunting. It was almost like some form of Aspbergers. She couldn't 'understand' anything that went against the grain of her own wants and expectations of how the world SHOULD work. She had her own definition of 'fair' and anyone who didn't agree with her was meeeeeeean. She literally, absolutely and completely could not see cause and effect in her own actions. Her 'friends' would agree with everything she said--as they edged away. She'd get caught in lies--and then think it was mean if she were called a liar. She'd invite herself over--and then complaint she was unwelcomed. She'd stab people in the back--and then whine that no one liked her. She'd be told, DO NOT GIVE THE BABY JELLYBEANS, and the first opportunity she had, she'd give the baby jellybeans. And when the baby was not allow to be alone with her anymore, she couldn't understaaaaaaaand, everyone was being meeeeeeeean for nooooooo reeeeeason, and it wasn't faaaaaaaiiiiiiiiir, and she gave her babies jellybeans and nothing ever happened, none of THEM choked to death; all she was trying to do was be nice! She would never take no for an answer, EVER. Nothing that ever happened to her was the result of her own bad judgement or meanness or selfishness. In her world, she was the most loving, sweet, helpful, timid, sensitive thing God ever put on earth---and if you didn't see her that way too, you were being meeeeeeeean to her for noooooooooo reeeeeeeeeason and she just didn't understaaaaaaaand. This guy's the same.
thatdog Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Word of the day = EMPATHY look it up, get a book on it, study it. Don't speak to this or any other woman again until you at least have a semblance of an idea as to what this word means and how to use it.
Author one goal Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 Word of the day = EMPATHY look it up, get a book on it, study it. Don't speak to this or any other woman again until you at least have a semblance of an idea as to what this word means and how to use it. I know what it means. Still to be honest I don't think she should have got snappy like that. I tried asking her what her personal problems were she was talking about, and she just said bye and walked away. I tried to act nice and concerned but she didn't want to open up to me.
Lilmisus Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 I know what it means. Still to be honest I don't think she should have got snappy like that. I tried asking her what her personal problems were she was talking about, and she just said bye and walked away. I tried to act nice and concerned but she didn't want to open up to me. No teacher opens up to a student about their personal problems. At least none that I know that are trying to be and stay professional. Maybe in high school a couple did, because the high school I went to, we were like a family, and a couple of our teachers were like father or mother figures or some of our closest friends. This wasn't the case here, you weren't trying to be a friend, you were trying to get her to open up, trust you, and hopefully realize what a great guy you were. To be nice would be to drop the whole thing and not even ask what's wrong when you know that the answer is you. Teachers and students should NOT have that type of relationship where you can be their counselor or their shoulder to cry on, or the person to date. They are there to teach you and possibly guide you, that's it. At least while the semesters going on.
Author one goal Posted April 9, 2011 Author Posted April 9, 2011 No teacher opens up to a student about their personal problems. At least none that I know that are trying to be and stay professional. Maybe in high school a couple did, because the high school I went to, we were like a family, and a couple of our teachers were like father or mother figures or some of our closest friends. This wasn't the case here, you weren't trying to be a friend, you were trying to get her to open up, trust you, and hopefully realize what a great guy you were. To be nice would be to drop the whole thing and not even ask what's wrong when you know that the answer is you. Teachers and students should NOT have that type of relationship where you can be their counselor or their shoulder to cry on, or the person to date. They are there to teach you and possibly guide you, that's it. At least while the semesters going on. Well it's a family issue she said to the class, and has mentioned to me in an email she was having some issues. I have an idea what it is but didn't say anything. I was acting concerned though and honest when I asked her whats wrong, because I can tell the problem is stressing her just by the mood she's in on some days. I really was trying to be nice and see if she would open more, but she shut me down. Which at least it told me that she really doesn't want to talk to me much at all. Which I can accept that. I just ask that she doesn't treat me differently because she doesn't like me. I don't know why I'm always nice to her. Her loss!
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