Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Just ask to be transferred out of the class. If you complain, you MUST own up to the fact that you created this by asking her out and made a big mistake and you're worried that how she's treated you since then, that she is going to give you low marks out of spite. it is a conflict of interest... Again, OWN what you did to the Dean if you talk to him...Admit it was stupid to ask a teacher who teaches your own class, out. True. However that opens up a new can of worms. If she is mad at me already, she really could blow a fuse if I told the dean. She could claim harassment and get me expelled from school which then would open up a legal can of worms. She has tenure, so they would side with her anyways. I don't want her to get in trouble. She seems like a nice girl, she just hates me. I don't want anyone to get in trouble over this. I just want her to treat me fairly.
Kamille Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I partially feel bad for the dude since he put it on here before he asked her, and some people told him to go ahead and do it (he just didn't listen and chose to do it over e-mail instead of in person like everyone there said to do). According to those, they didn't see what harm could come from it..and teacher's are probably used to it (if I remember correctly). I just wish that those of us with more common sense would have seen that thread before he sent the e-mail asking her out. It would have saved us a WHOLE lot of drama, and his feelings wouldn't have been hurt, and only two girls would have told him no in the past year as opposed to three. I participated in that thread and pointed out, a few times, that every single respondent who had teaching responsibilities were unanimous: Don't ask her out during the term. She'll say no, and it will be awkward. If I posted a thread about whether or not I should hit on a teacher and 5 teachers told me not to do it while 10 non-teachers told me to go for it, I would listen to the 5 teachers. Wouldn't you?
Art_Critic Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I thought it was unprofessional when I had a question about class and the way she was snappy. ... I understand she has issues going on, but I don't think she should take her fustrations out on me, especially when it has to do with my school work. She' .... The problem OG is that you haven't listen to or taken any advice from LS, If you had you wouldn't be crying in your Wheaties right now. You made your own bed.. now you have to lie in it.. Maybe next time you ought to look at a woman in a professional position as more than some tail
Art_Critic Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) She has tenure, so they would side with her anyways. They would side with her because you crossed the line and continued to put her in a position where she felt she needed to protect herself. Edited April 8, 2011 by Art_Critic
dispatch3d Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 dude, what the hell. Back off, stop talking to her after class. Jesus. A girl "snapped" at me lately and I haven't bothered contacting her since (it took me a while to figure out why she freaked tho lol). Sometimes girls get a little testy. If they do just leave them alone.
whichwayisup Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 True. However that opens up a new can of worms. If she is mad at me already, she really could blow a fuse if I told the dean. She could claim harassment and get me expelled from school which then would open up a legal can of worms. She has tenure, so they would side with her anyways. I don't want her to get in trouble. She seems like a nice girl, she just hates me. I don't want anyone to get in trouble over this. I just want her to treat me fairly. Then do nothing. Focus on your school work and let this go. Ask other in your class for input, any help that you might need and don't engage her in conversations unless absolutely necessary. She's handled this unprofessionally and yes, it was a mistake to ask her out but she doesn't have to be mean to you like she has been. Do any of your friends know you asked her out?
soserious1 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 one goal I currently teach a couple of classes & have to say that if one of my students was behaving as you are, I'd be reaching out to the dept chair for help & guidance in seeing to it that he/she received a psychiatric evaluation.
lizwashere Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 True. However that opens up a new can of worms. If she is mad at me already, she really could blow a fuse if I told the dean. She could claim harassment and get me expelled from school which then would open up a legal can of worms. She has tenure, so they would side with her anyways. I don't want her to get in trouble. She seems like a nice girl, she just hates me. I don't want anyone to get in trouble over this. I just want her to treat me fairly. They wouldn't side with her because she has tenure they would side with her because she has done nothing wrong. All she would have to do is produce your 12+ emails harassing her and asking her out and that's all the evidence the school would need. You would immediately be viewed as a rejected creep who can't take no for an answer. You are deluding yourself yet again by believing that anyone in your institution is going to empathize with your situtation.
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Then do nothing. Focus on your school work and let this go. Ask other in your class for input, any help that you might need and don't engage her in conversations unless absolutely necessary. She's handled this unprofessionally and yes, it was a mistake to ask her out but she doesn't have to be mean to you like she has been. Do any of your friends know you asked her out? Only a couple of them know.
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 one goal I currently teach a couple of classes & have to say that if one of my students was behaving as you are, I'd be reaching out to the dept chair for help & guidance in seeing to it that he/she received a psychiatric evaluation. They can't do that. If they did I'd be reaching out to my lawyer!
EyesWideOpen Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 They can't do that. If they did I'd be reaching out to my lawyer! And then your lawyer would tell you that you have no case. Because you're acting like an emotionally unstable stalker. You said that you're going to go to the dean if she continues to treat you "unfairly". Do you have anything to substantiate that she treats you unfairly? Because in all likelihood, the second the dean is aware that you are receiving an A in the class...all of your creditibility will go straight down the toilet. Actually. Please do go to the dean. Bring to surface the fact that you are stalking and harassing your teacher so that you can get kicked out of school. At least the stupidity would stop.
Art_Critic Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 They can't do that. If they did I'd be reaching out to my lawyer! Wait.. you are smart enough to know that you would and can reach out to your lawyer in that case but you can't see what you have done.. I call Bunk on your story !!!!
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I agree, please make the dean aware of your situation. Then you can get the help you so desperately need...
soserious1 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 They can't do that. If they did I'd be reaching out to my lawyer! Dude, you are literally stalking this woman, she's made it very clear she has zero romantic interest in you & you keep pushing her to interact with you. Just STOP with the stream of emails, repeated Facebook friend requests and trying to engage with her after class.
EyesWideOpen Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 (edited) Wait.. you are smart enough to know that you would and can reach out to your lawyer in that case but you can't see what you have done.. I call Bunk on your story !!!! *thumbs up* Edited April 8, 2011 by EyesWideOpen
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Dude, you are literally stalking this woman, she's made it very clear she has zero romantic interest in you & you keep pushing her to interact with you. Just STOP with the stream of emails, repeated Facebook friend requests and trying to engage with her after class. I have not sent her anymore request, and I have not emailed her the last few days. She doesn't like me. She can buzz off.
Kamille Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I have not sent her anymore request, and I have not emailed her the last few days. She doesn't like me. She can buzz off. Excellent progress OG!
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 I have not sent her anymore request, and I have not emailed her the last few days. She doesn't like me. She can buzz off. Good. Although, next time, go with this attitude the first time she rejects you, not the 7th or 8th time.
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Good. Although, next time, go with this attitude the first time she rejects you, not the 7th or 8th time. So what about the next hot chick I ask out at school? How should I go about it?
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 So what about the next hot chick I ask out at school? How should I go about it? There are three possible reactions: She says Yes - Go out on a date with her - Make conversation - See if you like each other more than friends She says no - Give up the first time she says it, and move on to someone else - Cut off all contact with her - Don't bother her again She says "maybe later, or at some point" - It could go either way, so don't obsess about her saying either yes or no - Ask out other women, who might be more available - Don't put her on a pedestal (this goes for ALL THREE sections)
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 There are three possible reactions: She says Yes - Go out on a date with her - Make conversation - See if you like each other more than friends She says no - Give up the first time she says it, and move on to someone else - Cut off all contact with her - Don't bother her again She says "maybe later, or at some point" - It could go either way, so don't obsess about her saying either yes or no - Ask out other women, who might be more available - Don't put her on a pedestal (this goes for ALL THREE sections) Like when I start a new semester how long should i wait before asking a chick out in class?
EyesWideOpen Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 There are three possible reactions: She says Yes - Go out on a date with her - Make conversation - See if you like each other more than friends She says no - Give up the first time she says it, and move on to someone else - Cut off all contact with her - Don't bother her again She says "maybe later, or at some point" - It could go either way, so don't obsess about her saying either yes or no - Ask out other women, who might be more available - Don't put her on a pedestal (this goes for ALL THREE sections) And make sure that before you arrive at this point that you aren't asking out your teacher, or your boss, or the police officer booking you for criminal harassment...
EyesWideOpen Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Like when I start a new semester how long should i wait before asking a chick out in class? Lmfao...as long as it's not your TEACHER it doesn't matter! Are you sure you're in school??? I'm really having a hard time envisioning you as a straight A student at this point...
Author one goal Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Lmfao...as long as it's not your TEACHER it doesn't matter! Are you sure you're in school??? I'm really having a hard time envisioning you as a straight A student at this point... Yes I'm in school. It's not like you can ask them out the first day of class?
Kamille Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Lmfao...as long as it's not your TEACHER it doesn't matter! Are you sure you're in school??? I'm really having a hard time envisioning you as a straight A student at this point... I think it's safe to say his area of expertise isn't Conversational Analysis.
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