one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I was all dressed up for the presentation. My classmates said they were impressed with me. However things with the teacher not so good. Like I had a simple question I asked her regarding my next assignment, and she was rude towards me and snapped a bit. I can't even ask a simple question via email or in person now. I thought it was unprofessional when I had a question about class and the way she was snappy. On the way out of class when I was talking to her about the talk about my grading I told her I wasn't mad or anything and that I like her class and want to do good in it. She said she wasn't upset with me. She mentioned facebook sending her a friend request and she said "I don't do that." FYI she has other students on her friends list so I knew right away what she really means is she doesn't like me and doesn't want to have any sort of communications with me. She said it wasn't because I asked her out in the past. She said she was having "family problems" to me again regarding my grades, and snapped and said she's made it clear to me before. I tried to be nice about it, and tried asking whats wrong, but she said "bye" and walked our ways. I understand she has issues going on, but I don't think she should take her fustrations out on me, especially when it has to do with my school work. She's made it clear to me that she just doesn't personally like me at all. I mean as a student as well. She doesn't even want to help me when I have a question about something, and usually just ignores me totally now. I just ask another classmate now. I can understand she hates me, fine! But I don't want to be treated like some dog! I've never talked back to her, or been mean to her.
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I wouldn't let it worry you. If she dislikes you, then she dislikes you. Not much you can do about it, especially since she's claiming that is not the case. Just get through the class as best as you can, and don't worry about befriending her and avoid her classes in the future if possible. Keep your papers and assignments so if the worst case scenario happens (she gives you an unacceptable grade) you have something to go to the Dean with to get the grade fixed.
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 I wouldn't let it worry you. If she dislikes you, then she dislikes you. Not much you can do about it, especially since she's claiming that is not the case. Just get through the class as best as you can, and don't worry about befriending her and avoid her classes in the future if possible. Keep your papers and assignments so if the worst case scenario happens (she gives you an unacceptable grade) you have something to go to the Dean with to get the grade fixed. Well you're supposed to go to the dept chair before the dept dean. if I went to the Dean she would blow a fuse! But like my friend said the problem is if I do go higher up, that for sure she well fill his head with all kinds of crap and about asking her out. And she would get me in trouble!
Survivor12 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 You accuse HER of being unprofessional??? Explain to me how harassing a teacher is even remotely appropriate, acceptable or professional. Her job is to provide you with the opportunity to learn. She is not paid to like you, babysit you or otherwise deal with your antics. In fact, the fact that she hasn't point-blank told you to f*** off proves that she IS being professional. "I understand she has issues going on, but I don't think she should take her fustrations out on me, especially when it has to do with my school work." You shouldn't have taken your horniness out on her and become yet another frustration by being an annoying little pest.
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Well you're supposed to go to the dept chair before the dept dean. if I went to the Dean she would blow a fuse! But like my friend said the problem is if I do go higher up, that for sure she well fill his head with all kinds of crap and about asking her out. And she would get me in trouble! The main point was keep your work so that if you NEED to you can take whatever route you need to take to resolve it. Dean, head of chair...whatever. And that's normally something that is a last resort. (ie the semester is over and you need the final grade corrected, and the teacher is just being an unreasonable b*tch) So, at that point, the fact that the teacher would be p*ssed off or blow a fuse wouldn't really be a concern. I think I need more clarification, because I feel lost. What does "she well fill his head with all kinds of crap and about asking her out. And she would get me in trouble!" mean? Are you pursuing this teacher for more than just a chummy student/teacher relationship? And if so...WHY?
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 The main point was keep your work so that if you NEED to you can take whatever route you need to take to resolve it. Dean, head of chair...whatever. And that's normally something that is a last resort. (ie the semester is over and you need the final grade corrected, and the teacher is just being an unreasonable b*tch) So, at that point, the fact that the teacher would be p*ssed off or blow a fuse wouldn't really be a concern. I think I need more clarification, because I feel lost. What does "she well fill his head with all kinds of crap and about asking her out. And she would get me in trouble!" mean? Are you pursuing this teacher for more than just a chummy student/teacher relationship? And if so...WHY? No. All I did was ask her out a few weeks ago, and sent her a facebook friend request like others have. I mean she could tell him that. You know how girls can blow stuff up to make it sound worse than what it is. She could try and get me suspended claiming she feels sexually harassed! Like I said when I asked her out that one time, her whole attitude towards me did a 360. However today the way she treated me was a whole other level.
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 You accuse HER of being unprofessional??? Explain to me how harassing a teacher is even remotely appropriate, acceptable or professional. Her job is to provide you with the opportunity to learn. She is not paid to like you, babysit you or otherwise deal with your antics. In fact, the fact that she hasn't point-blank told you to f*** off proves that she IS being professional. "I understand she has issues going on, but I don't think she should take her fustrations out on me, especially when it has to do with my school work." You shouldn't have taken your horniness out on her and become yet another frustration by being an annoying little pest. I only asked her out one time, and only talked to her about it that one time when she said she it wasn't appropriate. I didn't keep harassing her about it or anything like that. I sent her a facebook request because other students are on her list, and I was trying to be friendly because she still seemed like a decent person. However today she just like totally flipped out. I could tell mentally she wanted to tell me to f*** off.
Lilmisus Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 You accuse HER of being unprofessional??? Explain to me how harassing a teacher is even remotely appropriate, acceptable or professional. Her job is to provide you with the opportunity to learn. She is not paid to like you, babysit you or otherwise deal with your antics. In fact, the fact that she hasn't point-blank told you to f*** off proves that she IS being professional. "I understand she has issues going on, but I don't think she should take her fustrations out on me, especially when it has to do with my school work." You shouldn't have taken your horniness out on her and become yet another frustration by being an annoying little pest. He wont learn. I don't see why he bothers telling us anything any more except for the one or two people who now give him any sympathy. This is ALL to do with him, and her feelings about this is not relevant to him in the least. Ahh..if only she wasn't so hot, maybe then he would actually realize that hey, she has a job that she needs to do and he's making her dread coming into work everyday, and dread checking her e-mails and her Facebook. I'm just glad that he now gets the hint and says it's "done" with her, so that he didn't start calling her next. I'm sure that if she would have just smiled at him and accepted him on Facebook like he wants, then that would have happened sometime next week, if not sooner.
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 No. All I did was ask her out a few weeks ago, and sent her a facebook friend request like others have. I mean she could tell him that. You know how girls can blow stuff up to make it sound worse than what it is. She could try and get me suspended claiming she feels sexually harassed! Like I said when I asked her out that one time, her whole attitude towards me did a 360. However today the way she treated me was a whole other level. Tell "him" being the Dean/Head/whatever? Yeah...she could claim sexual harassment...but that's the point of keeping PROOF. If you can walk into whoever the higher authority is with spot-on papers/assignments that received inappropriately low grading, then her claims won't hold up...will they? First of all, let this be a lesson to you...it's really not appropriate to ask out a teacher (or anyone in an authorative role). And if you must, wait until the semester/term is over to avoid sticky situations such as this one. Second, it seems to me that you're making this a bigger deal than it should be. Perhaps the teacher is simply uncomfortable with how aggressively interested you are in her. If I were a teacher, I would probably be short with you too. I would be avoiding any student that showed an inappropriate interest in me, and I would be very annoyed if they didn't take the hint. Remember, she has to avoid situations that might land HER in trouble...so she may just be ensuring there is an unquestionable distance. And by hassling her about how she feels, whether she hates you, why you can't be FB friends is not allowing her to do so. Back off. Do your work. Keep records that can prove adequate/good performance just in case.
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 Tell "him" being the Dean/Head/whatever? Yeah...she could claim sexual harassment...but that's the point of keeping PROOF. If you can walk into whoever the higher authority is with spot-on papers/assignments that received inappropriately low grading, then her claims won't hold up...will they? First of all, let this be a lesson to you...it's really not appropriate to ask out a teacher (or anyone in an authorative role). And if you must, wait until the semester/term is over to avoid sticky situations such as this one. Second, it seems to me that you're making this a bigger deal than it should be. Perhaps the teacher is simply uncomfortable with how aggressively interested you are in her. If I were a teacher, I would probably be short with you too. I would be avoiding any student that showed an inappropriate interest in me, and I would be very annoyed if they didn't take the hint. Remember, she has to avoid situations that might land HER in trouble...so she may just be ensuring there is an unquestionable distance. And by hassling her about how she feels, whether she hates you, why you can't be FB friends is not allowing her to do so. Back off. Do your work. Keep records that can prove adequate/good performance just in case. Well all my classmates liked how I dressed and presented my presentation. If she gives me a bad grade then I KNOW it is because she's pissed at me. This really sucked today. I was so happy after my presentation and pumped up I did a good job. Then how she treated me afterwards was like stacking a big pile of sh** on top of it.
lizwashere Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I only asked her out one time, and only talked to her about it that one time when she said she it wasn't appropriate. I didn't keep harassing her about it or anything like that. I sent her a facebook request because other students are on her list, and I was trying to be friendly because she still seemed like a decent person. However today she just like totally flipped out. I could tell mentally she wanted to tell me to f*** off. And this entire mess is her fault, right? I'm patiently waiting for you to start describing her as a tease and a whore. LEAVE HER ALONE! Why do you keep talking to her after class, don't you realize she now views you as some type of psycho creep. I hope she is keeping all your emails and takes action against you.
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 And this entire mess is her fault, right? I'm patiently waiting for you to start describing her as a tease and a whore. LEAVE HER ALONE! Why do you keep talking to her after class, don't you realize she now views you as some type of psycho creep. I hope she is keeping all your emails and takes action against you. I had to talk to her about my grade, and about the project on the next assignment. Only other way to ask her is via email, but she never replies to me now. I have to ask her in person if I have a question on something.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 You are a sick person. Please seek medical help. You are delusional.
denise_xo Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I had to talk to her about my grade, and about the project on the next assignment. Only other way to ask her is via email, but she never replies to me now. I have to ask her in person if I have a question on something. If your real life listening skills are as good as your online ones, I could see why she would struggle with your questions in any kind of format. [not that I actually think you're for real...]
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 (edited) Well all my classmates liked how I dressed and presented my presentation. If she gives me a bad grade then I KNOW it is because she's pissed at me. Yes, because classmate perceptions and/or how you dress are a GREAT indicators of the validity of your presentation points. (that was sarcasm...just incase there's any confusion) The only thing you'll KNOW if she gives you a bad grade on a presentation is that you got a bad grade. Edited April 7, 2011 by EyesWideOpen
Kamille Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 You know how girls can blow stuff up to make it sound worse than what it is. :lmao::lmao: :lmao::lmao: To think. You think she's the one who's blowing stuff out of proportion and making it sound worse than it is! :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: You haven't even received your final grade yet and you're already making a big deal about it. Sounds to me like you're the one who is blowing this whole thing out of proportion. You.Are.Drama.
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 You are a sick person. Please seek medical help. You are delusional. Why do you say that? All I said is how my feelings were hurt today.
Cracker Jack Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Dude, people are going to hurt your feelings in life. You keep saying "my feelings were hurt" and continue to miss everyone's point. Jeez, man. Let it friggin go.
Kamille Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Why do you say that? All I said is how my feelings were hurt today. You did it to yourself mate! We told you not to get in touch with her before the end of the semester. You went ahead and sent her an email We told you not to send a Facebook friend request. Guess what you did. To those who are new to onegoal, he's been obessed with this professor for months and has reported sending her multiple emails, most of which are supposed to be about class. This woman must be fed up. He refuses to get the message and honor their professional relationship.
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 You did it to yourself mate! We told you not to get in touch with her before the end of the semester. You went ahead and sent her an email We told you not to send a Facebook friend request. Guess what you did. To those who are new to onegoal, he's been obessed with this professor for months and has reported sending her multiple emails, most of which are supposed to be about class. This woman must be fed up. He refuses to get the message and honor their professional relationship. No, it's only been about a month that I really have liked her. She let me down way too hard though. Just the way she talked to me today was uncalled for I think. I never been mean to her like that.
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 No, it's only been about a month that I really have liked her. She let me down way too hard though. Just the way she talked to me today was uncalled for I think. I never been mean to her like that. Sorry, but I agree with the general sentiment. You're too much drama. Seriously dude...it's not normal (or an indication of even the remotest emotionally stablity) to get this twisted up over what someone else *might* be thinking about or feeling towards you. And this is most definitely is not going to be the first person that you encounter in your studies and career who comes off harsh. (which, again...in this case you're sort of antagonizing it) Stop obsessing so much on what might happen, what might be going through someone else's head, and what motivations they might have for how they may handle something that might happen in the future. Good god it's exhausting to read! How can it not be exhausting to create?? Stop being drama and focus on the curriculumn you're supposed to be learning. Hard to believe, I know, but that IS the point of school.
Author one goal Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 It's just that every time I ask a girl out I always get turned down. It's getting old. But just the way she was so harsh about it with me hurt my feelings today.
lizwashere Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 You know, I'm actually glad the OP is posting all this nonsense here because it is proof positive of the kind of crap so many women have to deal with. All this woman is trying to do is make a living, yet she has to contend with Mr. Psycho who continues to harrass her and then turns around and blames her for creating a difficult situation.
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 It's just that every time I ask a girl out I always get turned down. It's getting old. But just the way she was so harsh about it with me hurt my feelings today. And your point is? So she hurt your feelings (which very likely are too easily hurt). So f*cking what? It doesn't matter. It's going to happen. From people you barely know - such as this teacher. Unfortunately, even from people you love. I'm sure some of the responses in this forum are hurting your feelings as well. You simply CANNOT avoid getting your feelings hurt. It is beyond your control. But you can choose to dwell on it so that the hurt lasts longer. Which, by the way, is what you're doing now.
Kamille Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 But just the way she was so harsh about it with me hurt my feelings today. That's because you didn't take No for an answer the first time she told you she wasn't interested. It's definitely time to put an x on this one, stop contributing to the drama and move on. Go out there and start checking out girls. And next time you meet a girl you like, don't focus so much mental energy on her all at once up until the point she gives signs that she's interested.
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