googler Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Alright, so... my girlfriend has changed significantly over the past few months. We have been dating for over 2 years and have lived together in an apartment, but now we currently do not live together. While we were living together we did get intimate quite often, almost every night. There was an incident where she came home from work and got held at knife point. Ever since then I believe she hasn't been the same. I believe that incident took a major toll on her. She broke up with me in May 2010. got back together in July. Broke up with me in september and got back a week later. Broke up with me the day after Christmas and got back together day after valentines day. but ever since the incident. We have rarely gotten intimate at all. I try to make a move. A very bold move. and she would say she is very tired. or it's bed time. or not tonight. I talked to her about the issue and she said "Oh, is that all you want? is it just about the sex?" and it's not. It's the sheer fact that she isn't flirty or seductive like she was before. She had school and work so she was busy the whole day when we lived together. and now all she does is work three days a week, and attend some night classes. She claims she is too tired but I believe there is something wrong. When my phone rings or vibrates, she always asks who are you texting or who called you. Why did you comment on her facebook? his facebook? She says she loves me and all. and she texts me everyday. I just get so fed up sometimes with her. I do attract girls just because I'm a funny man and I don't look like chewbacca, but she hangs out with guys all the time without me. I don't know what to do.
longterm Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Your gut feelings here are true. It looks like you two are on and off a lot over time. I think that her insecurity lies with how she is feeling towards you. Ya, your phone rings and she is jealous of what may be, this is because she knows how poorly she is treating you right now and that you can get anyone else that you want. She knows she is being unfair but is not ready to also allow you both to be intimate again. I would suggest to you to give her some time alone. She is going to take this soon enough so you may want to look like the cool guy and give it to her now. I'm not sure if the knife moment is the issue here or not. You have been on and off all the time. Is she seeing anyone when she continuously breaks up? If she ever was, I would let her go altogether because she will just keep leaving and this will hurt over and over again. Give her some time alone and see what happens with your sex life. See if she comes back wanting to please you. Whatever is making her tired etc, should be your reason for the time needed. It probably wont be too long before she knows your not going to put up with it all. Then when she gives it to you again, she will know that you truly are all set, and dont want anyone else but her.
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