Trevster Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I know I have been posting alot these past few but im just so lost on my whole situation i have some more insight. Well the girl I was with for 3 years was wonderful in every way possible and 4 days before our break-up she said she wanted me to ask her to marry her and 2 days before our break up after we had a great night at the dallas mavericks basketball game she said i was getting sweetier and she was getting happier. Well the day of our break up i was lied about and it was her last straw. Well i told her my side of the story and she told me she was startingto forgive me. Well that night after she went somewhere with her mom she texted me and told me we needed to talk that night and i knew what was coming but not this hard. Now back at school we go to college together like now her sister will post on her facebook its time to move on beth and other stuff of that nature but she doesnt say nothing on there. Its odd because now her sister who is younger and naive takes her around guys and now all of a sudden making beth do stuff she never wanted or did before. Stuff she always told me she never cared to do. She never would look me in the eyes when she said we were done and also like she wont tell me specifically that she is done for sure. I have no closure and she wont meet to talk with me because I dont believe this is her and i could talk to her and get that real girl back out of her because right now its like she is brain washed by her family......... ANYONE!!!!!!!!! How to go about this because this girl has been there more for me than any family member and through my rough times for the past 3 years........ PLEASE!!!!!!!!!
EyesWideOpen Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I know I have been posting alot these past few but im just so lost on my whole situation i have some more insight. Well the girl I was with for 3 years was wonderful in every way possible and 4 days before our break-up she said she wanted me to ask her to marry her and 2 days before our break up after we had a great night at the dallas mavericks basketball game she said i was getting sweetier and she was getting happier. Well the day of our break up i was lied about and it was her last straw. Well i told her my side of the story and she told me she was startingto forgive me. Well that night after she went somewhere with her mom she texted me and told me we needed to talk that night and i knew what was coming but not this hard. Now back at school we go to college together like now her sister will post on her facebook its time to move on beth and other stuff of that nature but she doesnt say nothing on there. Its odd because now her sister who is younger and naive takes her around guys and now all of a sudden making beth do stuff she never wanted or did before. Stuff she always told me she never cared to do. She never would look me in the eyes when she said we were done and also like she wont tell me specifically that she is done for sure. I have no closure and she wont meet to talk with me because I dont believe this is her and i could talk to her and get that real girl back out of her because right now its like she is brain washed by her family......... ANYONE!!!!!!!!! How to go about this because this girl has been there more for me than any family member and through my rough times for the past 3 years........ PLEASE!!!!!!!!! I don't know what to tell you other than sometimes the people you love and lose, who you thought you knew, surprise you. My ex-husband turned into a whole different person after we split...and not for the better at all. It hurt to see him turn into this person that had I met on the street I would have had no respect for at all. And similar to your situation, he seems to be fitting a mold that is impressed on him by a girl he started chasing shortly after (hell, maybe even before...who knows) we split. I sincerely believe that some people don't have a strong sense of identity, and so they look to other people for inpiration as to who they should be. In my case, I think the ex tried to be the person that was expected of him by our relationship...our mutual friends...his family (who were a lot, in character, to me). Now he's being this other person to fit the role of the other woman, and her family, and his new friends through that circle. It's too bad, and it really is sad to watch someone completely flip like that. But in the end it's their life. They're the ones who are going to suffer when reality and consequences of their new self hits them, and in the end it's their problem. At some point you have to just realize that, as sad and as self-destructive as their behavior may be, it's not your issue and you need to wash your hands of it.
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