irc333 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 ...and it's usually this disturbing quote: "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." Can actually someone say this, and actually feel proud of themselves? What the hell is this world comin' to? LOL Would this person get along with another selfish, impatient, and another insecure person? Or would she be more compatible with a patient man, who is confident as well as completely giving to his mate (I can imagine that last one a nightmarish situation, that guy would have sucker written all over him) (P.S.- Considering starting a blog giving commentary on disturbing dating profiles and posting links to them, giving a bit of a play-by-play of their admittedly disturbing profile reads, sound good?)
iris219 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 ...and it's usually this disturbing quote: "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." Can actually someone say this, and actually feel proud of themselves? What the hell is this world comin' to? LOL Would this person get along with another selfish, impatient, and another insecure person? Or would she be more compatible with a patient man, who is confident as well as completely giving to his mate (I can imagine that last one a nightmarish situation, that guy would have sucker written all over him) (P.S.- Considering starting a blog giving commentary on disturbing dating profiles and posting links to them, giving a bit of a play-by-play of their admittedly disturbing profile reads, sound good?) I've never used the quote, but doesn't it describe most people? No one is perfect. No one is a pleasure to be around every moment. We all have flaws and we all have bad days. I hope to find someone who is accepting and supportive of me during my worst times. I don’t want to feel like I have to hide a part of myself (the flawed part) from my partner. I think that’s what those who use the quote are saying: accept all the facets of me. I’m a real person with a multifaceted personality. I won’t deal with someone who only wants to be there during the good times.
Eclypse Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 95% of the people on my facebook are in my age range (17-22) and almost EVERY girl has that quote somewhere. For me whenever I see it it's just an automatic NEXT. It's just so cliched and I'm so sick of it honestly.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 When women use that quote it just comes across as lame.
Leeway Harris Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 The trouble with that quote is, it reads like an excuse. Like "I'm going to bring the drama, hard, on a regular basis. It will make every situation worse and make your life a living hell. But that's just the price you'll have to pay if you want to be with me." Yeah, no thank you. She only describes herself at her worst. What are we getting in return for all this emotional terrorism? What is she like at her "best?"
Author irc333 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 I've never used the quote, but doesn't it describe most people? No one is perfect. No one is a pleasure to be around every moment. We all have flaws and we all have bad days. I hope to find someone who is accepting and supportive of me during my worst times. I don’t want to feel like I have to hide a part of myself (the flawed part) from my partner. I think that’s what those who use the quote are saying: accept all the facets of me. I’m a real person with a multifaceted personality. I won’t deal with someone who only wants to be there during the good times. Yeah, but, I think a woman saying this....won't be doing the SAME in return for her man. Just sayin'. I mean, yes...."For better or for worse"...but she's placing too much emphasis on the bad in her profile, and not giving indication she'll stick with the guy she's with if HE gets bad.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I mean, yes...."For better or for worse"...but she's placing too much emphasis on the bad in her profile, and not giving indication she'll stick with the guy she's with if HE gets bad. I think maybe they're doing this to try and look 'cool'.
BeginAgain Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Someone who wasn't a teenage boy in the 50's sat down, watched a Marilyn Monroe movie, and they're all female? I never knew Marilyn Monroe was so quotable.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 It doesn't bother me, to be honest. Because everyone is flawed. I can see the reasoning.
Intricategirl Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I've never used the quote, but doesn't it describe most people? No one is perfect. No one is a pleasure to be around every moment. We all have flaws and we all have bad days. I hope to find someone who is accepting and supportive of me during my worst times. I don’t want to feel like I have to hide a part of myself (the flawed part) from my partner. I think that’s what those who use the quote are saying: accept all the facets of me. I’m a real person with a multifaceted personality. I won’t deal with someone who only wants to be there during the good times. I agree with this in theory. We've all had bad days and we all get emotional from time to time. And I don't want to hide part of myself from my partner either- even the parts of me that I wish didn't even exist. But on a dating profile?? That's not my partner. There's no emotional attachment at all. That's the best parts of me. It's the fun parts. It's the cookies you get when you finish your chores. It doesn't mean that life will always be fun, but seriously, if you're leading with the worst parts, why would anyone want to get any deeper?
PerpetualMotion Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 The trouble with that quote is, it reads like an excuse. Like "I'm going to bring the drama, hard, on a regular basis. It will make every situation worse and make your life a living hell. But that's just the price you'll have to pay if you want to be with me." Yeah, no thank you. She only describes herself at her worst. What are we getting in return for all this emotional terrorism? What is she like at her "best?" That's exactly what I think of that quote. I don't get anything positive from it, just an excuse for whatever she does in the future.
spice4life Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I wonder why young women are intersted in this quote. Marilyn Monroe had a tragic life due to sexual abuse while a foster child and a mother who abandoned her. As a result, she suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder. I wonder if they realize what the context of this quote actually means...lol. To all of the young women out there...do not quote tragic souls. Look for quotes from people who are living a healthy, happy successful life on all levels instead.
spice4life Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 That's exactly what I think of that quote. I don't get anything positive from it, just an excuse for whatever she does in the future. You are absolutely right. She was mentally ill and incapable of seeing outside of herself. So yes, anyone involved with her got pulled into her web of mental illness and most likely felt like they were going nuts due to her projections. Yikes! If you see a quote like that from someone...run!!! If you can't run, at least find out why they find it so special and whether or not they have clue as to the context of the quote...lol!
betterdeal Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I wonder why young women are intersted in this quote. Marilyn Monroe had a tragic life due to sexual abuse while a foster child and a mother who abandoned her. As a result, she suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder. I wonder if they realize what the context of this quote actually means...lol. To all of the young women out there...do not quote tragic souls. Look for quotes from people who are living a healthy, happy successful life on all levels instead. There is a certain beauty that only sadness brings.
Survivor12 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I actually prefer this one: I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." ~Marilyn Monroecc
PerpetualMotion Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I wonder why young women are intersted in this quote. Marilyn Monroe had a tragic life due to sexual abuse while a foster child and a mother who abandoned her. As a result, she suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder. I wonder if they realize what the context of this quote actually means...lol. To all of the young women out there...do not quote tragic souls. Look for quotes from people who are living a healthy, happy successful life on all levels instead. That reminds me of a girl that I used to know that was a huge Jim Morrison fan and her dream was to visit his grave in Paris... I like The Doors, but never understood this fascination that some people have for him.
Intricategirl Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 That reminds me of a girl that I used to know that was a huge Jim Morrison fan and her dream was to visit his grave in Paris... I like The Doors, but never understood this fascination that some people have for him. I'm kind of that way with everyone. I can't imagine making a trip specifically to see anybody's gravesite. And of all the things to do in Paris, that would not be at the top of my list.
sniffys Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 hmm i dont understand why you're having a hard time with that simple quote, i dont quote it all the time but the thing is it doesnt only apply to women. usually i give 110% of myself to loved ones, even if i dont have time for them i am always THERE for them. the shoulder to cry on, the one you tell your most disgusting problem to, the one you ask for stuff you cant ask your best friend about. but i malfunction a lot..and they need to understand that they have to accept me for that..im not perfect..but i try to be perfect for them when they need me (my best).
Kamille Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I always understood that quote to be linked to the ways in which Marilyn Monroe's image was split in two while she was alive. Studios invested in producing an image of her as pure arm candy, and many men sought to date her thinking she was pure arm candy. Much to their surprise, in her personal life, she wasn't all smiles and googly eyes. I think MM felt alienated in a lot of her relationships. Men only wanted to see one side of her and refused to accept the other. I'm not defending her - she had issues. But the one friend I have who cited that quote on her FB spent years with a man who consistently ignored her when she expressed her own needs in their relationship. This made the friend feel infuriated, feel like a nag, feel like she was at her worse. The way I see the quote, in this case, is a way for the friend to reclaim her dignity (post-break-up). So, in a way, I think you guys are being hasty in judging the girls who use that quote as all being drama-driven women who don't want to take responsibility for themselves. The type of relationship where men invalidate women's needs is somewhat frequent, especially in a society that promotes the ideal woman as pure arm candy, dedicated to pleasing her man, with no needs or brains of her own (aka, exactly the image the studios built for Marilyn Monroe). Why someone would put it on a dating profile is beyond me though. I agree dating profiles are about putting your best foot forward.
betterdeal Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 (edited) You're so sensible, Kamille. (I say that with the begrudging tone that one adopts when what someone else says is right and blows your ship out of the water) Edited April 7, 2011 by betterdeal
iJester Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Marilyn Monroe got what she had coming, and I wish the same on anyone that makes use of this quote.
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I just think of it as lame and unoriginal when someone posts that quote because it's so over used. In fact I think if I see it on one more emo girl's facebook I'll puke.
GivenUp0083 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I can see what the girl in the profile is TRYING to get at, but she's using the wrong quote to do so. I think she could be trying to say that she wants someone who will be there for her when times are tough and not everythings flowers and cupcakes, that you'll still care about her and still be by her side. I think a lot of people just use people until they are bored with them, once things aren't as new and exciting as they are at first, some people tend to drop people like a rock. That's what I could see from it, but the quote is a little too out there for me.
Kamille Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 You're so sensible, Kamille. (I say that with the begrudging tone that one adopts when what someone else says is right and blows your ship out of the water) What can I say, I believe thinking of humans as complex is much more productive than thinking of them as polarized (good or bad). Someone once said she felt I lead a charmed life. She's right. I generally find it easy to reach a common ground with people (with the potential exception of on here, but that's probably why I love hanging out here so much. It's quite educational).
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