TheIdol Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Ok here is my problem. At what the majority the posters here would call “college” this chick sits next to me in this cubical area and starts studying next to me. I notice something about her and start commenting on it, and basically we start talking about random stuff for 30 or so minutes – she leaves because she has a exam coming up and needs to study fair enough. I see her in nearly the same place a few days later and again we have a very good conversation, even the librarian tells us to keep it down. In both conversations I think I made her laugh a lot, and everything seems good. I think I even mentioned to her once that she is young intelligent and pretty girl. Anyway I manage to get her mobile number. A week later I ask her for a “friendly bite and drink and a few laughs”, she organised the time and date for when she was free, the day arrives I go to the place and 30 minutes later she tells me she cant make it because she is tired from work. Fair enough. I text her again next week and ask if she wants to meet up again, she says yes and again organises the venue and time, it is at a college bar. The day arrives I meet her, buy her drinks and food all day. The conversation is great, we talked for 3 hours. However I think it went to good… as in the friend zone good. Basically I feel like I could talk to her about anything, we discussed sports, travelling, horror movies, then to silly subjects like aliens and body parts/gore (don’t ask), and then the awkward part about relationships and stuff like that. I remember she told me that she prefers bad boys over nice guys as they have more confidence, but in the end of the day she said she wanted to be treated like how nice guys would treat a girl. Im not really to sure why this was brought up….. unless I was going into the dreaded friend zone. Also as we entered the bar she asked if it was ok if her 2 friends could join us later on, I agreed but later on she reveals that they lost their ID cards or something, I am beginning to wonder if these 2 “friends” even were going to come, and if they were really going to join us then im thinking it’s a sign that she sees me as a friend only…. There were some good signs I think, she said I looked younger then what I really was, brining up future events and partys she said that we should go together (as a joke maybe) and when asking about her cooking she said that one of these days she will have to cook for me, again this could all be jokes and “fun talk”. I managed to build the courage and ask her if she was single, I forgot what answer she exactly gave me but I remember she didn’t really answer the question, and when I asked her again she said she was single. I then had the courage to tell her that I thought it was amazing that a beautiful and intelligent girl like her was single. I think I told her that she was pretty/beautiful about 5 times – maybe a over kill I think. I cant remember what her expression was. Another problem is that she broke up with her boyfriend about 4 months ago as he had to go back to his home country, and they tried the long distance thing and it didn’t work. She kept bringing him up a few times and it made me feel like crap. So basically it was time for her to go to class, and on the way out I told her that I really enjoyed the day and we should do it again. She said that would be good. I remember when we were getting close to her class with all the students outside the class it seemed like she was in a rush to get away from me, and I think when she said good bye I don’t think she looked back. I believe a few moments before that she said that she would call me, but I find that hard to believe. So yeah, I came away with mixed emotions, both positive and negative signs. Im thinking maybe to text her again for another meet up, and if it goes well ask her if we can catch up at a movie or dinner. But the problem is unless I am very certain a girl likes me I don’t have the courage to ask them out. I feel that if I don’t try asking her out soon and we keep meeting up I will be shelved into the friend zone. Also I sent this girl a friend request on facebook and she accepted, I see that she still talks to her ex bf once in a while, and ends all conversations with xxx(kisses). The ex bf is really playing on my mind, he is a very good looking, very rich person who is much taller then me, I feel like I cant compete with him The other thing is that when we met at the bar she was slightly taller then me because of high heels, maybe its my insecurities but I think it might have put her off. I believe I am taller then her by a bit when she does not have high heels… So whats every ones opinion? Do I have a decent shot? When it’s a random chick that I don’t care about im not to fussed on getting rejected, but when I like a chick, its hard because I don’t want to make it awkward if she rejects me…. Thanks and sorry for the long post
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