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Seeing my SO for first time in 5 months. What can I expect?

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Taucher Established Member

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On Friday I land in Bogota at 7:15 (local time). My SO is going to be waiting at the Airport. I will be there for 31 days, staying with her at her family's house.

 

So we had a non LDR for 9 months in london, then she had to go back to Colombia, I havent seen her for 5 months.

 

I feel kind of nervous, partly about seeing her for the first time in 5 months. Also, in a new and very different country, and meeting her parents and brother and sister for the first time (and staying in their house for over 4 weeks). They dont speka English (apart from my SO) and my Spanish is very poor.

 

So, for people who have been through this, what is it like seeing your SO for the first time after being apart for an extended period?

 

Thanks

 

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Pyro Established Member

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It's a great feeling is all I can say. Makes you forget about all the time you had to wait that seems like forever.

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This has also been on my mind lately too.

My man and I were LD for a few months before we closed the distance, but then for reasons out of control I had to fly back to the UK and we've been LD for about 5/6 weeks. It's been so hard because we though we'd closed it for good and we'd never be parted or have to go back to skyping and e-mails.

 

BUT, the gap will be closed for good in about 4-10 weeks! And I keep thinking about him picking me up from the airport again. We wern't nervous or awkward the first time. I think we'll just be picking up from where we left off. We'll hug and kiss then I'm sure it will feel like we've never been apart.

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I was going to say lots of sex, but that would sound flippant :rolleyes: For me, it would mean lots of sex and cuddling as I would want to bond with him again, we're very physical.

The longest I've gone without my partner is 2 months, after 5 I think it might take a little time to get re-aquainted again, it might take no time at all though, it's hard to say, depends on the individual and how close you are.

Are you feeling nervous? How come you're not sure what to expect?

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Taucher Established Member

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Thanks everyone!

 

I was going to say lots of sex, but that would sound flippant :rolleyes: For me, it would mean lots of sex and cuddling as I would want to bond with him again, we're very physical.

The longest I've gone without my partner is 2 months, after 5 I think it might take a little time to get re-aquainted again, it might take no time at all though, it's hard to say, depends on the individual and how close you are.

Are you feeling nervous? How come you're not sure what to expect?

 

HoH, lots of sex is not a flippant answer! Her parents wont let us sleep in the same room (their house so fair enough) but they are happy for us to go away together to a hotel next weekend. I hope we dont have to wait that long!

 

I suppose I mean that 5 months is quite a long time. I dont feel we have any reaquanting to do (well, physically there is). We have Skyped almost every single day in that time and texted, emailed. As far as LDRs go, it's been fairly easy with no drama as we both think the same it seems - no imbalance. I just think it could be...quite overwhelming.

 

I am not worried that it will be bad, just with all the build up to us being together, 5 months of waiting - some of that time, you all know, is very hard. I will have been travelling for 18 hours, and as I said I havent met her family. Truthfully though, I HATE flying and have avoided it since 2005. All this is new and exciting and slightly scary but ultimately worth it.

 

I think I am thinking about this too much!

 

Has anyone cried at the sheer happiness? Anyone ever found it slightly anti-climactic?

 

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This is soooo interesting to me since me and my bf have been LD for 5 months too! And I have to say, yes, physical reaquaintance is obviously a MASSIVE part of it and that for the most part I agree that emotionally we seem to be fine and not much reaquanting needed which means we shouldn't be awkward.

But, I feel like I can't talk about everything I want to on skype cause, you know, some of it's a little serious so in my case we'll be having some heart to heart time that I've missed while he's been away.

Otherwise I hope so much that it won't be awkward. I really don't feel like it will be, but life seems fond of surprises!

Anyway I wish you luck and please let us know how it goes?!

Love, xxx

 

Oh, he gets back in 22 days so not long to go ;) x

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Has anyone cried at the sheer happiness? Anyone ever found it slightly anti-climactic?

 

We're usually apart for 3 months at a time - this time it's been nearly 4 months!

 

Meeting up again is always fantastic - there's nothing to think about - you'll just carry on where you left off last time you spoke (or phsycially you'll just carry one where you left off last time you were together ;)).

 

I've never cried with happiness and never found it anti-climactic - just can't wait for the reunion to come around every time. :love:

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Thanks everyone!

 

Has anyone cried at the sheer happiness? Anyone ever found it slightly anti-climactic?

 

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the last time i went to see my SO (and it had only been about 4 weeks i think), i had had a long day with some really stressful things.....and a long drive and then i got there and he helped me park my car (which, in the process I tapped another car - no damage haha)....and then we went inside and he just hugged me for forever and it was so absolutely wonderful and such a relief to be with him that I couldnt stop myself from crying.

 

so yes. it definitely can be so overwhelming after not being able to touch each other and comfort each other and all of that. i hope its wonderful for you as im sure it will be! :)

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The longest my SO and I were apart was about 3 months...pure torture. I find that all the anxiety and worrying happens right before...what you're thinking and going through right now is exactly how I felt. But as soon as you see each other, I promise all of this will go away and it will be like you never were apart.

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I understand how you feel, the first time we were separated for 7 months, then for four months, now it's been three months and i surely will not him in the next three. Don't worry, it's going to be amazing, if she's the same person on skype, if she didn't give up on you all that time chances are that nothing has changed, I know that after the first one hour spent together I KNOW that nothing has changed, as if we weren't apart for that long. It's normal to have doubts, it's scary, but I can assure that it's going to be wonderful!

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Taucher Established Member

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Hello everyone!

 

Thanks for replying, you were all pretty much spot on. I am at my fiances house right now, she is at work.

 

There was nothing to worry about. It took so long to go through customs and then when I went through security and saw her, it was like we hadnt been apart. When we hugged in the airport it made the 5 months we were apart all seem worth it. I dont want anyone closer to me, I want her. We were quite calm in the airport but when we got back to her house she just cried, bless her, because she was so happy.

 

Its great being in Bogota, it feels like home because my SO is here with me. And we have 4 more weeks together.

 

Hope everyone who is with their SOs is having an amazing time, and for the people who arent,l I hope that time goes quickly. But slowly for me.

 

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HeavenOrHell Established Member

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Aw how sweet! I'm so glad everything is good and feels right :)

I had an amazing few days with my partner last week, it went really quickly though of course!

Have a great 4 weeks :love:

 

 

Hello everyone!

 

Thanks for replying, you were all pretty much spot on. I am at my fiances house right now, she is at work.

 

There was nothing to worry about. It took so long to go through customs and then when I went through security and saw her, it was like we hadnt been apart. When we hugged in the airport it made the 5 months we were apart all seem worth it. I dont want anyone closer to me, I want her. We were quite calm in the airport but when we got back to her house she just cried, bless her, because she was so happy.

 

Its great being in Bogota, it feels like home because my SO is here with me. And we have 4 more weeks together.

 

Hope everyone who is with their SOs is having an amazing time, and for the people who arent,l I hope that time goes quickly. But slowly for me.

 

T

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