Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 ok, so me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up and i felt so many signs from god saying that i needed to straighten things up. Well i ignored those signs and now he has taken out the most important thing in my life, the companion that has stuck by my side through thick and thin the girl i always took advantage of. Well we didnt always live the right way like we were suppose to we commited adultry and now that she is gone im finding my trust in god. Im learning that we needed this break to find him because we had lost him between us. Well now i pray and im doing the right things for my sake, but then i think about her like i know that he sent her for me but he is putting us through this so we can get closer to him individually and i keep praying for him to pave the way for me and her to have a new beginning in his name and live our friendship and soon relationship in his name and live the life he intended. I wont give up on this girl becasue she is shunning me away because no matter how much we shun god he wont give up on us. So the verse that i look to for comfort is proverbs 16:3 coomit yourself to god and your plans will succeed. Again im not being religious or trying to find god so she will come back to me im doing it for my good. I feel like im on the edge of losing the best thing he has put on this earth for me and this will be my testimony for me to become closer to god. So one day when its time he brings us back together this is how i really found my relationship with god. Its hard every day without her but i find comfort in him because i know if i commit myself to him my plans will succeed. Has anyone been through this or anything im at a all time low but everyday god is picking my head up and i feel he has put it on my heart to not give up on him or this girl becasue there is nothing better. Please help...
Buddha Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 When it feels like the weight of the world is on our shoulders and things are going wrong, God often gets the blame. My friend, God did not tear you away from this girl, it sounds like you did a good job of that yourself. You say you always took advantage of her. God didn't make you do that, surely? To be very specific and answer your question, I have found it to be true in my life that to seek FIRST the kingdom of God (and I mean really, not half-heartedly and NOT to get a particular result, such as a girl) opened up such amazing and blessed gifts that I can hardly tell you about them all. Yes, I have lost people along the way... weirdly, the best people in my life have only appeared when I stopped wanting what I thought I wanted. If you are asking God to give you a specific outer thing that you want, such as to be with a specific person or to get a specific job or to win the lottery or whatever it is that someone might want, good luck with that. God doesn't work that way, in my experience. And thank God for it. Give up what you want - literally, I'm saying be willing to give up anything - and God will not leave you unsatisfied. I now have in my life more than I ever dreamed of or wrote on a wish list. The gifts I have are of the heart, not outer things (although I do have some outer things from God), and I got them when I stopped thinking *I* was the doer. You said this girl was the best thing God put on earth for you. Let me assure you that the best thing God put on this earth for you, is you. You are an expression of God with a unique opportunity in this lifetime. She may be wonderful, I'm sure she is. Let her go. What is real will come back to you when you set it free.
Author Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 people have said let go and what is meant to be will come back, well whats meant to be takes two people wether its me and her or its me and god. Im not doing this to get a girl back this is actually making a stronger person in god. Its my mission to become a better perosn of the lord because devoting my life to this is helping me lead like family members that dont belive in god closer. They see im willing to make myself a man of the lord for me and for him to proper me. This is all happening for a reason cause not only will make me stringer but its helping me lead people to jesus. I didnt take advantage of her like bad its we were living an unholy life and we forgot about jesus in our relationship and started to live and now i have to find him for me and then he will pave my way back to what is meant to be.
Buddha Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 whats meant to be takes two people wether its me and her or its me and god. "Be still and know that I am God." This is one of my favorite quotes. Your journey with God depends on no-one and nothing outside of YOU. Choose wisely, but do not fall into the trap of thinking your salvation/path/divine plan or whatever else you want to call it can only be achieved if other people make certain choices. They have the free will to NOT make that choice. You have the free will to choose God and make your life sensational without relying on anyone else. And your life will still have every opportunity to be as wonderful and full of love as you wish. And of course, God is not outside of you. There is no "me and God". You are part of the Almighty, you just may not realize it yet.
Author Trevster Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 I do realize it and I kinow that anything is possible through jesus christ. He helps us and nothing is to hard for him. I had a friend that would tell me everyday he is done with a girl i mean everyday naw man i dont care to talk to her and i dont care about her anymore im done with her. Then one morning we are walking to class and he tells me that he wants to text her that he really misses her and has been dreaming about her. Like choices change and I dont think they change without the help of jesus! Anything can be put on someones heart, the almight one can put on my heart tomorrow to go out and save humanity we never know what he will work in us through out the days and nights. I dont look to god to just achieve getting someone back. I look to achieve god as getting closer to him and finally getting my testimony right now of how i have become closer to him and really found him. I am on t he edge of losing one the most important person in my life besides god and I cry to him and he will hear my cry because he is strong enough to save. He will break open the skies for me!!!! What you think
Buddha Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Honestly? This is what I think. Your devotion to God is real. But you are not a puppet of God. God will inspire you to be all that you can be, but God will not run your life for you. God just doesn't work that way. You are a co-creator in your life and in the life of this planet. YOU decide -- just make sure that when you decide, you consider the desires of your heart. The truth is that you can have anything you desire, as long as it doesn't interfere with the free will of other people. It seems to me that you are mixing up your devotion to God and your belief that if you are devoted enough, God will not let this girl get away from you. But they are two separate issues. If God is your focus, prove it. Live every day in the love of God and genuinely make God your number one priority. You fear you are losing this girl, and I tell you, fear and God are incompatible. You cannot 'fear' your way into a Godly life, it's just not going to happen. God is love, and in God there is no fear at all. So while you fear you will lose this girl, you are not one with God. When you are one with God and operate purely from a basis of love, you will accept that IF you are right for this girl, she will choose to be with you, and IF she is right for you, you will choose to be with her too. If she does not choose you, you will be happy for her that she is moving to something else that is right for her. If this sentence makes you fearful, keep reading. While you fear you will lose her, you are not truly open to the mind and heart of God. God desires your happiness, truly. Love will not be withheld from you by God ever. Ever. EVER. If you are experiencing fear, it's something in your own mind which is blocking the flow of God. Your job is to find out what the block is, and remove it. And God will flow in your life to a whole new level. How do you find the block?... start by realizing it is there, accepting it, and looking for ways to overcome it. Ask God for hlep from a pure desire to heal, and you will receive. Ask in selfishness from an impure desire to get something you want, and you will not. Life really is that simple. I know that to you, right now, it doesn't seem that way. But stay strong, God is right by your side and deeply wants to have the relationship with you that you desire.
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