Using Twitter to 'Announce' a Break-up

[ALonerAgain]

Anybody been faced with such a situation?

 

I have.

 

I found out that my ex had 'posted' about our break-up the day after the deed. How did I find out? Because one of my friends - and an ex work colleague - happened to be on his Twitter feed and saw it.

 

She didn't waste time sending me a message on FB saying "I heard via Twitter that you and xxx broke up. Sorry to hear that ( "

 

I was livid. Upset. Humiliated. So when xxx came by the next day to drop off and collect his stuff, I quizzed him: "Who have you told about us?" To which he named a handful of his mates.

 

I then asked: "Is it true you posted about it on Twitter?"

 

To which he hung his head, completely avoiding my face and mumbled, "Yes".

 

I didn't even bother asking him what he had said. But a few months later, after catching up with yet another of my friends, she mentioned that she had seen something on her Twitter feed at that time as well and told me it said something about "xxx being a single man again."

 

So for all those who think FB is evil, try having your heart splattered via phone - and then smeared via Twitter in view of not only his friends but some of your friends too.

 

I mean, WTF??

Edited April 6, 2011 by ALonerAgain

[ALonerAgain]

I know, it's been over a year now, but this is still a sticking point with me.

 

Just needed to vent.

[2seeyou]

I am in the same situation. My ex can tell every single person using technology that we are broken up and she is single. Also, she is cheating with one of my friends. So, I lost a relationship and friends. You are so right about FB. It is a curse and it's easier for them to break up that way. They don't have the courage to break up face to face. I sometimes wish the internet wasn't created...I can only imagine how many people have lost a relationship due to this computer. 4real, WTF? (that one made me laugh). Thanks, I needed that smile. Hang in there. You will have to let him go...he doesn't deserve you. Not only is he a cheater, he has diarrhea of the mouth.

Edited April 6, 2011 by 2seeyou

[Little_Bee]

WTF, that's just ... sorry I have no words for this.

 

A relationship and a break up are personal matters and I think it's absolutely awful to use social networks to announce this.

It tells a lot of this person and you really have all rights to be angry!

[Fufu]

Whoa, really stunned.

 

My ex broke up with me through skype video. Together for near 3 years and in between he went overseas to study in the 8th month of ldr, after a long day of work coming home was waiting to chat happily with him on skype video.

 

Log on skype, on skype cam... then just less than 3 minutes he announced.

 

"I have something to tell you."

 

Me: Yes love?

 

"I want a break up, I cannot take it anymore."

 

And all the time I was looking at him in the skype video. SO OMG to me.

[hoping2heal]

Anybody been faced with such a situation?

 

I have.

 

I found out that my ex had 'posted' about our break-up the day after the deed. How did I find out? Because one of my friends - and an ex work colleague - happened to be on his Twitter feed and saw it.

 

She didn't waste time sending me a message on FB saying "I heard via Twitter that you and xxx broke up. Sorry to hear that ( "

 

I was livid. Upset. Humiliated. So when xxx came by the next day to drop off and collect his stuff, I quizzed him: "Who have you told about us?" To which he named a handful of his mates.

 

I then asked: "Is it true you posted about it on Twitter?"

 

To which he hung his head, completely avoiding my face and mumbled, "Yes".

 

I didn't even bother asking him what he had said. But a few months later, after catching up with yet another of my friends, she mentioned that she had seen something on her Twitter feed at that time as well and told me it said something about "xxx being a single man again."

 

So for all those who think FB is evil, try having your heart splattered via phone - and then smeared via Twitter in view of not only his friends but some of your friends too.

 

I mean, WTF??

 

I had something similar to this happen, kind of. In my younger years, when I was too green to understand there is no appeal in dating a total dick, no matter how "well loved" he was..anyhoo, guy breaks up with me out of the clear blue sky by announcing it on his myspace, um..before he even told ME..yes really. Then he starts stalking my cousin and friends a few months later and starts writing all kinds of weird crap about me online.

 

To be fair he WAS a celebuwannabe. I cannot be that surprised by his antics looking back but man, thank GOD he is long gone The best man in the world has been by my side for nearly three years and whew, does he make the mediocre and self absorbed doodle poo's of the world look like "tools" hehe.

 

I am sorry that happened to you but at least it should have given you closure that you would not want to marry and have children with someone like that.

[Beeotch]

Welcome to the 21st century and the evils of social media where people can instantly and without forethought to the consequence put ALL their business on the world wide web.

 

Being discreet no longer exists for most people hence they not only blast their intimate relationship issues but other stuff that causes them to even lose their jobs and all this other mess....smh. It is so thoughtless and easy to do these things, so people do it without thinking about repercussions.

 

Sorry this happened to you, but as long as he isn't posting details, then he is free to say he is single. If he is not slandering your name then really he hasn't done anything disrespectful except to say he is single. It is hurtful to you of course and it is understandable, as honestly, after a breakup EVERYTHING your ex does will be annoying and a problem to you, until it is silly and annoying to you that you can get sooooo upset about the slightest thing he does...but objectively he hasn't really done anything. You'll be fine.

[Fufu]

I remembered seeing break up using power point presentation and youtube.

 

Example:

 

 

and

 

http://powerpointbreakup.freewebspace.com/img0.html

 

 

It is really welcome to 21st century.

[ALonerAgain]

WTF, that's just ... sorry I have no words for this.

 

A relationship and a break up are personal matters and I think it's absolutely awful to use social networks to announce this.

It tells a lot of this person and you really have all rights to be angry!

 

I think that's exactly it: I didn't expect for him to keep it a 'secret'. But the fact that he chose to Tweet his status - as opposed to FB where unless it was hidden in the first place, would have automatically come up on his FB feed (which it no doubt did as he hid his wall from me immediately after we broke up) - made me think, 'how could he?'

 

 

Sorry this happened to you, but as long as he isn't posting details, then he is free to say he is single. If he is not slandering your name then really he hasn't done anything disrespectful except to say he is single. It is hurtful to you of course and it is understandable, as honestly, after a breakup EVERYTHING your ex does will be annoying and a problem to you, until it is silly and annoying to you that you can get sooooo upset about the slightest thing he does...but objectively he hasn't really done anything. You'll be fine.

 

 

Thanks Beeotch.

 

That's the thing:-

 

• Was what he did insensitive? Yes
  
• Did it show his cowardice? Most definitely.
  
• Did he do it to intentionally hurt me? No, I don't believe he did.
  

I've been struggling to view the break-up as objectively as possible, but I know my ex would not have done this to be spiteful. I know he was trying to rip the band-aid off as quickly as possible. Unfortunately what he didn't anticipate was the residual fallout and consequences of having more connections to me than he thought (uh, yeah I do have friends too).

 

The upsetting thing is that I wouldn't have found out if it wasn't for the fact that one of my friends told me how she found out - not the fact that I had a chance to tell her myself.

 

I didn't even yell at my ex when I told him(which he was probably anticipating). I was heated though, and I remember telling him how disrespectful I thought he was towards what we had. It was a surprise, seeing as he'd been so diplomatic towards one of my other friends (whose b'day he had planned to come to, but then had to bow out).

 

 

I am sorry that happened to you but at least it should have given you closure that you would not want to marry and have children with someone like that.

 

Ironically enough, this was one of the issues we had faced: whether or not we had a future together.

[poorguy]

I'm sorry you went through this. My ex Gf pretty much did the same thing. It's their way of getting an attention jump on you. My ex would go one further though. If for example we had a fight, it would get posted on FB.. She would always be vague about it. I remember one time I got home a little later than I was supposed to and she was there with the intention of suprising me at my house (not a bad thing). Well anyway she suspected I was doing something that I wasn't supposed to be (which I wasn't!!!!!).....The next day she wrote on her wall for all ofher 450 friends to read ...."The only men who can be trusted is your father and your brothers" That one little comment sparked off a firestorm of comments and private messages...Everyone was saying "OMG what happened-message me I want to hear the whole story"-type of thing.

 

Bottom line is people who do this type of thing are shallow and rely on the attention of others to give themselves th feeling of self-worth

[ALonerAgain]

I'm sorry you went through this. My ex Gf pretty much did the same thing. It's their way of getting an attention jump on you. My ex would go one further though. If for example we had a fight, it would get posted on FB.. She would always be vague about it. I remember one time I got home a little later than I was supposed to and she was there with the intention of suprising me at my house (not a bad thing). Well anyway she suspected I was doing something that I wasn't supposed to be (which I wasn't!!!!!).....The next day she wrote on her wall for all ofher 450 friends to read ...."The only men who can be trusted is your father and your brothers" That one little comment sparked off a firestorm of comments and private messages...Everyone was saying "OMG what happened-message me I want to hear the whole story"-type of thing.

 

Bottom line is people who do this type of thing are shallow and rely on the attention of others to give themselves th feeling of self-worth

 

Poorguy, this is exactly it.

 

I admit that I used to fall into that same trap. But not now. I feel ashamed by it but I've learnt my own lesson and have refrained from writing personal, snide remarks on FB. In fact, I've learnt to keep FB on minimum status updates, focussing on what's going on in REAL life.

 

That's horrible though. Did your ex post the whole story on FB? I guess just seeing she did that much is enough.

[DollyGirl12]

I'm sorry you went through this. Just very lame in my opinion.

I remember my ex always yapped about not wanting to add me as his gf on FB because he said that his previous exgf embarrassed him by changing her status to "it's complicated" when they were together. I use FB mostly as networking for my business so I am very, very careful about the kind of stuff I put on there.

Anyhow, we had an argument one day last year and a temporary breakup where he removed me from FB. One of my friends told me last Sept., after I ended things with him after catching him emailing personals on Craigslist, that back in May, when we had our "day" breakup, he made some kind of stupid post saying "finally free"!! LOL...I wish he had told me at that time because I would have NEVER taken him back after doing something so childish. Well, he put me back on and after another small spiff between us he did the "it's complicated" thing. So, he pretty much completely contradicted himself when he said the reason he didn't want to do it was because of his ex and the things she did. Overall, he was just completely immature, especially for a man in his mid 30's.

[poorguy]

Poorguy, this is exactly it.

 

I admit that I used to fall into that same trap. But not now. I feel ashamed by it but I've learnt my own lesson and have refrained from writing personal, snide remarks on FB. In fact, I've learnt to keep FB on minimum status updates, focussing on what's going on in REAL life.

 

That's horrible though. Did your ex post the whole story on FB? I guess just seeing she did that much is enough.

 

 

No I don't think she posted the entire story, it would be slight references to whatever to induce interest in her distress. When I first got a FB I thought it was great because you can reconnect with old friends, family, etc. Well after about 4 months of having one instead of having fun with it I would check it firts thing in the morning just to make sure the world had'nt ended. It became stressful!!!! Of course I would have ex ex ex GF's friending me (which she did'nt like and I understand) to which I could'nt accept, so they would then be mad at me because maybe I was friends with some of their friends.

 

So unlike most people here I got rid of FB well before we broke up. I just did'nt need it in my life and was so suprised to see what people do to each other on it.

 

The problem with putting anything regarding your relationship problems is eventually maybe the couple will get over whatever is going on and forgive, but all the other people who received the one side of the story won't forgive and amongst their respective communities of friends they will haved formed super scewed opinions of the other individual

 

It jsut sucks