happiness0421 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Background: I am 23, he is 26. We had only been dating for 4 months, but we were pretty serious. We had met each other's families, exchanged "I love you"s...he made it clear that he was very much in love with me, and that we had a future together. Last week, I was moody and I made the mistake of saying that I wanted to be with him, but maybe I wasn't ready for something this serious. I should not have said that - I was sad and upset. I realized what I had done wrong and began to apologize, telling him that I made a mistake and I was just overanalyzing the relationship (what girl doesn't do that?). For the next 4 days, he basically ignored me, saying that he was "really hurt and confused" and didn't know what to do. I tried over and over to just let me come up to him and talk to him face to face, but he would not let me go see him. Yesterday, I received a text saying that "He can't do this [relationship] right now...he thinks I am the kind of person that won't let him go out and have fun with his friends, and that he is afraid that he will get hurt if he stays with me". He then proceeded to de-friend me on Facebook and remove himself from all of the pictures we had on there together. 3 days later, he sent me a message saying that "he misses me so much that it hurts...he ruined the best thing he ever had and hurt the person that he cared about the most". He called the next day and said he missed me as well, but I have yet to have him truly TALK to me or meet me somewhere. BTW - This guy has some emotional issues - abusive, etsranged father that recently killed himself; ex who cheated on him after 4 years of being together. Did I really screw this up & made him run away? Should I just leave him be and see what happens?
Steven T Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Send him a txt or give him a call or take some time to write an email saying how you feel and what you want from this relationship. Ask him what he wants from the relationship? I guess you both need to understand how each of you feel and what you actually want. I am no expert but hope I helped a little. ST
smudge21 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Sounds like you both know you have strong feelings for each other and you both know you screwed up and want to make things right. I reckon there's more than enough chance here for something good to happen. Just talk to him and be honest with each other. Take this as an opportunity to clear the air and, in a way, start a fresh. Hope it works out. Think positive.
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