dantheman84 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 MY girlfriend and i have been really going out for about 3 years. Within that time we have been amazing. I felt as if we were almost one person. She was my best friend and i thought that i was hers. A stressful time in our lives came up that lasted about a week. we argued rarely, but this one night it was bad. we yelled at each other about nothing im not even sure what it was about but it didnt even envolve us. She was really upset and left to go to her friends house. i stayed home and talked to some friends(guys). After a few hours i felt bad and went to go check on her to make sure she was ok. Her friends said that she was with her other girlfriends. I called her phone the whole night and it was off. She reponded the next morning and said that she thinks that we should take a break and not to contact her much. so i gave her space, confused but still gave her space. She came by a day later and i appologized for being upset that night but in my head i knew that it really that serious of an arguement we had worst in the beginning of our relationship but we always talked them out. she became upset when i hugged her and hugged me back but broke into tears and said she needed more time so i gave it to her even though i was dying inside. i had know idea why she was so distant. she came back a day later and said we needed to talk. she told me that the night of the arguement she got really drunk and had sex with someone. then said that she thought we were broken up. even though she ask for a break the morning after that night. I was so hurt because she did this right after she left i thought we loved each other i def loved her and still do. when she told me i didnt know what to say, not out of anger, but out of pain. she followed me very closely that night and want to talk alot after she told me this. then the next day called me and said that coming over was a mistake and that she needed more time. she continued to try to talk to me i didnt ignore her but was distant out of pain it brought me to my knees. 2 days later she came over and she blamed me for everything and like an idiot i said sorry like it was my fault she did this. I took her back that day and we are still together now. the guy she hooked up with still talks to her on a weekly bases and still shows up at her house to hang out with her friends. she says that she has no feelings for him. am i stupid for staying with her? i love her and i want to be with her but am i being used? i just need advice its been a month and a half now.
Scorpio6913 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 MY girlfriend and i have been really going out for about 3 years. Within that time we have been amazing. I felt as if we were almost one person. She was my best friend and i thought that i was hers. A stressful time in our lives came up that lasted about a week. we argued rarely, but this one night it was bad. we yelled at each other about nothing im not even sure what it was about but it didnt even envolve us. She was really upset and left to go to her friends house. i stayed home and talked to some friends(guys). After a few hours i felt bad and went to go check on her to make sure she was ok. Her friends said that she was with her other girlfriends. I called her phone the whole night and it was off. She reponded the next morning and said that she thinks that we should take a break and not to contact her much. so i gave her space, confused but still gave her space. She came by a day later and i appologized for being upset that night but in my head i knew that it really that serious of an arguement we had worst in the beginning of our relationship but we always talked them out. she became upset when i hugged her and hugged me back but broke into tears and said she needed more time so i gave it to her even though i was dying inside. i had know idea why she was so distant. she came back a day later and said we needed to talk. she told me that the night of the arguement she got really drunk and had sex with someone. then said that she thought we were broken up. even though she ask for a break the morning after that night. I was so hurt because she did this right after she left i thought we loved each other i def loved her and still do. when she told me i didnt know what to say, not out of anger, but out of pain. she followed me very closely that night and want to talk alot after she told me this. then the next day called me and said that coming over was a mistake and that she needed more time. she continued to try to talk to me i didnt ignore her but was distant out of pain it brought me to my knees. 2 days later she came over and she blamed me for everything and like an idiot i said sorry like it was my fault she did this. I took her back that day and we are still together now. the guy she hooked up with still talks to her on a weekly bases and still shows up at her house to hang out with her friends. she says that she has no feelings for him. am i stupid for staying with her? i love her and i want to be with her but am i being used? i just need advice its been a month and a half now. I'm sorry to say Pal, yes, you are being used. As much as it hurts you, muster up some pride and never talk to her again.. She cheated on you & probably started the argument to justify in her mind why she would and then did. If you stay with her, she will more than likely leave you too. Good luck Man!
Scorpio6913 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 (edited) oh yea and the guy is her ex That's even worse, trust me Dan, cut all contact with her, you do not deserve this, you are a way better Human being, who has feelings & respect for other people. She does not respect you! I know it's going to hurt you, but trust me, a year from now when you are with someone who is more beautiful & deserving of your love, you will kick yourself for having stayed with this garbage of a NON-girlfriend, for as long as you have! Edited April 7, 2011 by Scorpio6913
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