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ladies: how many of you mind if your guy goes to a strip bar?

bowwie

By bowwie
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Sundaymorning Established Member

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hmm. not really mind. But I would be heading to a strip bar for me, if he goes. fair is fair!

Pyrannaste Established Member

Pyrannaste

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I *do* mind :)

(Although any strip bar would be better than the university fraternity he's in :( )

 

I'd get extremely upset if I found out my boyfriend went to a strip bar without telling me. I might consider breaking up.

Very upset if he told me after going there.

If he told me he intended to go to such a place I'd just get worried, flood him with "don't you dare to touch anything" warnings, keep him on the phone for hours the following day asking about what happened in the stip club.

If he asked me permission to go, I might even tell him it's okay without making a lot of fuss about it.

If he asked 'what about going to a strip bar together', I'd be glad he asked, I'd go there with him, and give him the best sex of his life when we get back home.

bowwie

bowwie

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bumping this up because i know there are several women on this site and i would just love a large compliation on this subject.

it is for a very personal matter so please help!

CaterpillarGirl Established Member

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This topic has come up before, see the following links for other LSers perspectives on strip clubs/bars:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t28507

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t29228

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t29361

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t21647

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t23254

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t24281

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t14808/

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t13408/

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t9596/

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t7914/

Arabess Established Member

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I could care less. Since there happens to be two right outide of the base gates (where I work) and are close to my house, I go with the guys after work sometimes.

 

Granted, they are certainly NOT your top of the line nudie bar, but I really don't see where the big threat would be. A guy who would cheat on you as the result of some lap dance, would cheat on you anyway. Going to ANY bar with his buddies isn't going to make him a cheater. He either has it in his heart to sleep around or he doesn't.

HokeyReligions Established Member

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Early in the marriage I would have minded a LOT -- especially if he hid it from me. If he told me and it was something like a bachelor party for a dear friend I would not like it and we would have had some serious discussion over the matter--and he probably would not have gone if it upset me. Now - I don't care. I would probaby think up something evil to say to him like "I'd tell you to get a lap dance, but you have to HAVE a lap first!" and chuckle as I walked away!

 

;)

morrigan Established Member

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If it was for a guy's birthday or a bachelor party at a public club, no problem, as long as it was looking and not touching (no lap dances).

 

I'm personally not interested in male strippers--I have better ways to waste money than sticking it down some guys sweaty thong. From the stories some of my girl friends have told, the male strip shows are a lot raunchier at times.

DerangedAngel

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I mind. I'm not sure exactly how much anymore. It's not something I would break up with him over. Unless he lied about it (and we weren't really serious anyway).

 

Perhaps your man going to strip clubs should be directly related to how you look? If you're not exactly attractive, send him there every night. But, if he thinks you're semi-hot... he can go once a week. Full blown hotties, he can't go at all. :confused:

 

I'm joking of course. It's something to be decided between the two people involved and nobody else.

 

-Deranged

faux Established Member

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Sorry to get off topic for a moment, but I have to compliment you on your search skills. You always seem to dig up the best links in the forum archives :) One of these days I am going to have to ask you for some tips on power searching, espcially for Googling.

 

Now I will attempt to contribute something to the actual topic of discussion:

 

I think that I would be upset to some degree if a woman I was seeing did not have some objection to my going to a strip club. I have dated women who expressed an interest in wanting to go to such a place with me, but that sort of thing does not even really float my boat.

 

Who wants to sit around looking at women dancing? Unless they are really talented at dancing I think it would be rather boring. Maybe I'm defective, but I don't get anything out of ogling women, unless they have really beautiful hair.

longlegzs80 Established Member

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Why would a guy who is dating want to go to a strip bar when he has his own personal stripper? Never understood that. Too, if he goes to the strip bar, you should get enough guts to go with him. You would learn great moves and can have some great times in the bedroom. Another thing is, if he goes to the strip clubs, that is fine every once in a blue moon, but if it is all the time, I would be suspicus and know that your man is comming home to you that night instead of some stripper.

Dug Established Member

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I'd be worried if he didn't come home from a strip bar.

TazmaGurl Member

TazmaGurl

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No strip club for my man!

 

 

Tazmagurl

CurlyamI Established Member

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Last year I decided to go with my friends at this quite sophisticated club in order to celebrate 8 March (big deal in Europe). It was supposed to be more of a business outing, the club was opened for women only,we all had our suits on ( :) ) and business cards and ... what can I say, at midnight, the hosts revealed their "surprise": a bunch of hot strippers that totally kicked a$$ with their performance.

 

My boyfriend totally freaked out when I told him afterwards, but hey, I've never laughed like that in my life. After the experience I must confess I don't feel as threatened about the issue anymore.

SweetLou22 Member

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Insecurity is one of the biggest turnoffs! If I even wanted to go to a strip club, which I don't (those places are so pathetic), I wouldn't want my girl giving me all kinds of crap about it. If she gave even the slightest resemblence of a response akin to Pyrannaste's post it would make me reconsider the whole relationship. Luckily I have a very secure girlfriend who doesn't worry about what I do because she TRUSTS me.

Dug Established Member

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I don't like dik teasers of any kind....and neither do most men as dates, so I guess I miss the whole point of strip bars. I'd rather devote that tme to finding a chick who is built good enough to strip (if that's the big attraction) and convincing her that she can't be happy without me.

Pyrannaste Established Member

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Originally posted by SweetLou22

Insecurity is one of the biggest turnoffs! If I even wanted to go to a strip club, which I don't (those places are so pathetic), I wouldn't want my girl giving me all kinds of crap about it. If she gave even the slightest resemblence of a response akin to Pyrannaste's post it would make me reconsider the whole relationship. Luckily I have a very secure girlfriend who doesn't worry about what I do because she TRUSTS me.

 

Glad to hear your girlfriend is so secure.

Thought I'd just add that my boyfriend told me once that "no guy on earth goes to a strip club and does *not* touch".

Last time he went to a strip club -we were not dating- one girl made him caress her bottom and touch her breasts; then she got his wristwatch and rubbed it on her naked pu$$y before giving it back to him, got a cigarette from his friend, inserted the filter in her pussy and did give it back to him.

In most strip clubs here there is not the not touching rule. In most strip bars here you can buy sex or blowjobs.

I think it's normal to ask your boyfriend to tell you if he goes to such places.

I'd spend a lot of time asking him what had happened in the club because I expect him NOT to allow a strip club girl to rub herself all over him.

TazmaGurl Member

TazmaGurl

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Maybe my man is odd... but he finds it extremely sweet that I treasure him to a point where I put forth these limitations.

 

Instead of seeing jealousy as such a bad thing, he understands that these things hurt me. I have tried to cope with it, but it makes me sick to my stomache when I think of him going out and looking at women prettier then I can ever be ready to take it all off for him.

 

He respects that and doesn't want to hurt me. I will still put effort into accepting it, since everyone seems to think its nothing bad at all... but I apprechiate that I got a man who puts me and my feelings before his penis, rather then shooting that old "trust me" crap on me. Cause as we see here on LS, not many people are really worthy of the trust we give them, so how can you tell if yours is?

 

 

Tazmagurl

UCFKevin Established Member

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If I was with a girl and she truly didn't want me to go to a stripclub, I wouldn't. I'd be bothered by that, definitely, in her lack of trust or self esteem, but I'd still respect her wishes. I've only been to one anyway, way back when, so it wouldn't be a big deal, unless it was a bachelor party.

TazmaGurl Member

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"If I was with a girl and she truly didn't want me to go to a stripclub, I wouldn't. I'd be bothered by that, definitely, in her lack of trust or self esteem, but I'd still respect her wishes. "

 

Or maybe my man isn't odd at all. :p

 

 

 

Tazmagurl

dyermaker Established Member

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Originally posted by TazmaGurl

Cause as we see here on LS, not many people are really worthy of the trust we give them, so how can you tell if yours is?

As many have pointed out, LS isn't a suitable demographic for relationship statistics, few elated and prosaic partners would stick around here.

reasontosigh Established Member

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I'd only be upset if I wasn't asked to go too!

TazmaGurl Member

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"As many have pointed out, LS isn't a suitable demographic for relationship statistics, few elated and prosaic partners would stick around here."

 

Yes but it does show the untrusting ones which is what I needed to make my point. I don't really need happy-loving couples to say that trust is often misplaced in people. :p

 

 

Tazmagurl

dyermaker Established Member

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But you said, "not many people", which I think is a fallacy.

TazmaGurl Member

TazmaGurl

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My apologies, hun.

 

My mind more often then not tends to overblow the negative.

In a way though, thats how I really feel on the subject.

 

 

Tazmagurl

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