purplepanda Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 My ex and I broke up last April. I don't even know why, and he doesn't either. He just tried to forget about me, "dated" five girls, and I tried the same, only not in the same whore-ish way he did. XD The longest I went without speaking to him was three months, then, until recently, two months. Last summer he kept playing games, coming back to me to "see how I was doing", calling me several days in a row. Finally, I accepted the fact that it was over. That was about three months ago. I got over all the girls, the games he (and I) played, the jealousy with other people, etc. We live an hour apart, we're both juniors in high school. I'm still friends with some of his friends, but I only talk to one more than twice a week. I'm in choir and we had a regional contest a couple hours away, and I asked that friend of his, "Are you going?" (cause I thought I was into him) He told me no. Two days before regionals he e-mailed me and said, "(my ex) wants to talk to you saturday". The next day he sent, "he sent you emails on myspace." I had blocked him on facebook. On saturday we hung out, talked and it felt like old times with him, except the being Together part. We went somewhere to talk, cause he said those words, "I need to talk to you". His ex was there, well two of them were :/, and he said to both, "I still have feelings for her". The first words he said to me, in the serious conversation, was I'm sorry. Then he said, "I'm still in love with you." I don't remember what I said, but he said my name, then when I looked in his eyes, I finally admitted to myself that I still loved him. He leaned in and we kissed...it was so amazing. I couldn't believe it was happening. I believe it was a good thing we broke up, last April, and I've changed for the better. I'm not sure if he has, but I want to give him that chance. I realized I loved him when I didn't want to not be around him. I love him so much, I've never felt this way about any other person. I keep thinking that after a year and us both being in love with the other still, it's a sign. I hope. :love: Is this the right thing to do? (I've also posted this in Breaking up-second chances, and dating.)
aerogurl87 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 It could be the right thing to do. It could be the wrong thing to do. I almost got back with my ex of close to 1.5 years and I thank God every day that I didn't. Not saying he was a horrible person or anything, cause deep down he really isn't. But the relationship wouldn't have worked for either of us long term, since we wanted the same things in life but done very differently. As I always tell my friends, love is not enough to be happy in a relationship. Do you think you two are on the same path life wise? Do you think you both can get past the issues that led to your break up? And lastly, do you think you could handle breaking up again if you do get back together, or the rejection of knowing he doesn't want a second chance after trying to make things work? Those are alll things to think about.
Author purplepanda Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 It could be the right thing to do. It could be the wrong thing to do. I almost got back with my ex of close to 1.5 years and I thank God every day that I didn't. Not saying he was a horrible person or anything, cause deep down he really isn't. But the relationship wouldn't have worked for either of us long term, since we wanted the same things in life but done very differently. As I always tell my friends, love is not enough to be happy in a relationship. Do you think you two are on the same path life wise? Do you think you both can get past the issues that led to your break up? And lastly, do you think you could handle breaking up again if you do get back together, or the rejection of knowing he doesn't want a second chance after trying to make things work? Those are alll things to think about. Sigh... I know...
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