Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Me and my ex were together for 3 years and it has been a rocky road for both of us! Well we broke up 2 other times together but the last year half has been strong with no break ups! Well this past spring break someone lied about me and ut seemed to be her last straw and I even got proof that this person lied! Well she didn't want to hear it she kept saying that she was done, it was too late or she can't do this right now! She did say if I see a change we could have something in the future well for 3 weeks I kind of bugged her and kept trying to express how much I really care for her but none worked this time! She texted me and said we arent getting back together and I don't want other people getting involved it's making things worse! But this girl has no clue what she means to me! Like I mean she could have something tragic happen to her where it messes her up physically or mentally I would still be the man there to take care of her because my love for her is more than beauty! I feel that on my heart Jesus is telling me not to give up! I want a new beginning with her, but ita hard that she deleted me as a friend off her Facebook and all out pictures but she left my other family members! I took this as a negative but yet I have been praying for a new beginning because our past hasn't been that great but getting rid of all that could lead to a positive for us to start new in the future! People tell me there is no hope she is done an people say if your love is that big don't give up! I'm a good looking guy and I could find someone else but I feel my heart is just for her and know one could make me feel as happy or feel so great like she has because she has been through all my hard times so I just am lost right now how she would stop talking to me and everything after 3 years it doesn't seem like her because we have always been together 24-7 and have loved it! We came to college together her sister would always blow her off but we would always do things together and loved it! Now her sister is bringing her around other guys and all this other stuff and it's really ripping me apart! Any help would be great please!!!!
Timbo22 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I'm going through the exact same thing buddy, except I was blind-sided and never saw it coming...I have begged pleaded and done everything I could because my heart tells me she is the one as well. 3 1/2 years, we spent as much time together as we had. Now she completely changed her lifestyle, started partying/Drinking heavily, hanging out with ex's/flings. Its been heart wrenching. Im still left with no answers except she needs to find herself. I dont know how old you are, but in my case Im 22 and shes 21. It could be the case of the GIGS Syndrome. Thats what a suspect. Ive been NC for a week now I suggest you do the same, pleading with her didnt get me nowhere. only pushed her farther away...gl man and stay strong. Hopefully one day they will realize what they are missing, the good guys usually get hurt the most.
Author Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 I'm 19 and she is 21 but if you seen her she looks like a kid and we have been up and down but honestly we always had fun together and I would do Anything! I begged and pleaded for 3 weeks and now I'm n full NC hoping that she really starts to miss me because now she is doing a bunch of stuff that she always told me she hated or didn't want to do! We talked about marriage and our kids she even said on valentines day she really wanted me to ask her to marry her and o was on spring break before she left me but now she won't talk at all to me! I want to know if she misses me as much as I miss her! I hope it works out for us both I might be young but because my family and her I have grown up fast this isn't puppy love or 8th grade it's pure love and I would give up everything for her but my dreams because since I met her she is my dream! I believe in god they will see what they really have man! It's hard but they will see us bro, appreciate it man! Gl to you as well man! Stay strong and if it true love don't give up man never give up if its meant to be to you always keep working man! You will be rewarded!
Timbo22 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 yeah I could never give up on her either man... She would always talk about our future, getting married, so many little things like that. The bond and comfort I shared with her seemed like it would last forever. She believed I was sent to her by god, she goes to church and on mission trips to help the poor. Something hit her though, College life idk...But I wont give up, the only thing I can do is wait and try to keep my mind off her, its hard though when everything you do and everywhere you walk seems like a memory... My g/f was very insecure and independent before I met her, she said I gave her a backbone. I reminded her of that after the break-up and she told me "I need my own backbone" She wants me to move on. It's just not her though, we could have worked things out if she could have just talked to me but she didnt... Are stories seem crazy similar and their age is the same. Something hits them man idk...
Author Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Man I get chills when I just read what you had to say because Mine went to church she her parents are pastors and she was independent and she really was insecure about herself but I always assured her that she is the best looking thing on this earth! I mean man she told me we need to move on and all this other stuff but something in my heart tells Me that it's not time for me to give up! Like she can say all this stuff but I feel it will lead to a posit between us like a new beginning because she has given me chances man and I have screwed up but I have been transforming into a better man! I know if she would hear me out and let me have a new beginning things would be perfect with us! No matter what would happen to her like I said she could lose a limb or get 3rd degree burns all over her body not that I would want that but I would stick by her side the rest of my life because her love is beautiful about her as well and doesn't change my love! Everything I do I think of her because we did everything together and now it's hard to do anything I try to keep my mind off her but she has gotten me through life these past 3 years and I know she is god sent for me man and it's hard right now I feel like I'm loosing my mind but I just look to the lord man! Wether ur religious or not but proverbs 16:3 commit yourself to the lord and your plans will succeed!!! That's it man, never give up!!
Mov Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 3 years i was with my ex and she did the same. I worked out that the loss feeling i am going through NOW, she did 6 months ago but didn't tell me and then her feelings changed and just hit me with it. Its tough, but NC seems to be the only option. Stay strong.
Author Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 What do you mean she hit you with it, did she come back to you is that what you are saying! I'm going through NC right now like completely it is hard but i know its the only way for me not to push her away any further.
Mov Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 What do you mean she hit you with it, did she come back to you is that what you are saying! I'm going through NC right now like completely it is hard but i know its the only way for me not to push her away any further. Her feelings changed and she didn't tell me at the time. When they had completely changed she told me, and i found that i could not do anything about it
Author Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Oh I see what your saying now but its weird because a couple days before our break up we went to a dallas mavericks basketball game and she was telling me how happy she was and that im getting sweetier and all this man. But like when someone lied about me to be her last straw like i was telling her my side and she said to me your starting to make me forgive you, then she went to town with her mom and after that she texted me and was like we need to talk later so it seems like a bunch of this really isnt her doing it you know. Because i mean not too long ago she was telling me she wanted me to ask her to marry her like it weird man. But like i said im just praying about it because anything is posible through christ! Its hard right now man and talking to people makes it feel better its just im a good looking guy and if i really felt like we were done i could move on and find another girl to satisfy me but somehing in my heart just keeps telling me that i sholdnt give up, god wouldnt give up on us when we break ties with him and sin i should give up on her when she breaks our ties right now you kow man. Yea she deleted me off her FB and all our pictures but i feel like its a sep to a new beginning with her! Just all takes time!
EmperorR Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Nothing is meant to be, you will realize when your older that relationships when your 18 to I say 25 rarely last they are just for experiences and building you up. I was once where you were, dated my ex fiancé from when she was 18-21 then she cheated on me and dumped me, go nc, and realize there is someone better out there for you.
Chi townD Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Your posts are very vague.. Never really gave a reason as to why she dumped you. You stated someone lied to you and because of it she broke it off? Or did she break it off coming back from Spring Break? What's the deal?
Author Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Well like she said its been a rough time and that there has been alot of downs and she just said it was beginning to be unhealthy and that she just wasnt happy right now. She kept saying that if i see a change there could be something in the future then she said that she dont know how it will look in the future then she says we arent getting back together. Also she says she cant trust me that in the back of her head when im away she feels like i will cheat or something but she is the love of my life. I believe that the reason for all this is, because im religious and we havent been living right in the lord so he took away the most important thing in my life for me to get closer to him and to really make me and her stronger when we get back to together. Like honestly i really feel she has been put on this earth for me becasue how we originally got together couldnt happen any better and I do believe that someone is meant for you and that when you find that person you never give up. How do i approach NC i mean she wont talk to me at all but like Im going to be there for her because yes we both really love each other and i know she needed this because it wasnt healthy but what else is there for me to do. Im trying to prove everyway i can but none of this seems like her its like everyone has brainwashed her and she is listening to them. Becasue just days before our break up she was telling me how happy she was and how sweetier i was getting and all this other stuff. And a week before that told me she really wanted me to ask her to marry her for V-day. This isnt an 8th grade relationship not when you been through the things we have ill never find a girl that would put herself through everything i had to go through that would stick by my side and say im never going to leave you.........
Author Trevster Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 I just really need help on how to really get them back and if im doing the right thing because like i said this isnt a puppy love thing or me afraid of losing someone bc my family fell apart at one time and so i have always had myself and im fine with that cause i got the lord but something just tells me that she is the right one and this is the obsticle in my life i need to over come because she is the top on my list well below god so its hard to think of this right now!!!! anyone!!!!!!
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