ladeedee Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 The last time I ran into my ex was two weeks ago today. I saw him at the common area and I spoke. After that I decided it wasn't worth going back to my regular place to get a drink because I knew he'd come and talk to me. That day he told me that he'd been trying to avoid me... to which I was somewhat confused. I still don't understand why he's trying to avoid me. Today I saw him again. I don't know if he saw me. We both have class at 11 in different buildings. I was talking to my guy friend just a few minutes before 11.. and my X came walking out of the common area at around 10:57.. clearly when he would not run into me because I'd be in a different building by then normally. But then I wonder whether he waited that long in hopes he would see me come to the common area again. When I saw him two weeks ago it was about five minutes before 11. Either way, he's changing his schedule in accordance to me. I don't understand why. We both decided to break up mutually a little over a month ago. We dated almost a year and a half with 6 month breakup in between. He told me when we last spoke that he felt bad about the breakup (I'm assuming it was about the breakup). I can't understand why someone who initiated the breakup with you would avoid you like that. I don't get it...
flitzanu Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 The last time I ran into my ex was two weeks ago today. I saw him at the common area and I spoke. After that I decided it wasn't worth going back to my regular place to get a drink because I knew he'd come and talk to me. That day he told me that he'd been trying to avoid me... to which I was somewhat confused. I still don't understand why he's trying to avoid me. Today I saw him again. I don't know if he saw me. We both have class at 11 in different buildings. I was talking to my guy friend just a few minutes before 11.. and my X came walking out of the common area at around 10:57.. clearly when he would not run into me because I'd be in a different building by then normally. But then I wonder whether he waited that long in hopes he would see me come to the common area again. When I saw him two weeks ago it was about five minutes before 11. Either way, he's changing his schedule in accordance to me. I don't understand why. We both decided to break up mutually a little over a month ago. We dated almost a year and a half with 6 month breakup in between. He told me when we last spoke that he felt bad about the breakup (I'm assuming it was about the breakup). I can't understand why someone who initiated the breakup with you would avoid you like that. I don't get it... that's kind of what breaking up is, that he doesn't want to be with you, so it seems likely that he's going to NOT want to run into you right?
radiodarcy Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 i think that's pretty much what exes do - - regardless of who dumped who. it's just too awkward to be in contact after that.
Author ladeedee Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 It's been weird because I feel like I dumped him... realized today that I was the one that said it was over and for him to leave. Not him.. he wanted to talk about things and I said "What else is there to say?" Idk. Having a bad day today.
silvermane187 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 If he wanted to talk things out and you said "there's nothing to talk about" and told him to leave you DID dump him...I mean...I don't know your story so I could be wrong but...yea...you're the dumper from the sounds of it. You should probably just give yourself and him as much space as possible...If you said there is ntohing to talk about and he is avoiding you he is giving you exactly what you asked for.
Author ladeedee Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) I'm not sure at all about what happened when we broke up!!! I've been thinking it's been mutual but then I think I dumped him and then that he dumped me.. I have no idea. But either way we are separated. I had been thinking about breaking up for a month before and tried working it out. He admitted to thinking about it for 2 weeks before he even brought it up. Before anything emotional happened, I was apologizing for things that I didn't need to apologize for. Then idk what happened. I asked him, "Is this really happening?" because I felt like it was over. And he said yes. Then I cried and he cried. And I asked why (even though I wanted this) he said things aren't working out and I could do better than him. Eventually it was just us both crying and him trying to comfort me.. I was pissed and didn't want him touching me. I begged (really wish I hadn't) and then he was sorry. After a while he wanted to talk about stuff and I said no.. he was so adamant about talking. And 4 weeks later IDK what he wanted to talk about. I was too distraught and pissed and upset to discuss anything. It was over and I said so. He never said it was over himself nor that he was breaking up. None of those words ever escaped his lips. And yeah.. I know I did tell him again (the last time I talked to him too) that we need space. I got what I asked I suppose. I still believe to this day that as we broke up, that he really didn't want to and had gone too far with my emotions. I feel like he didn't want to really go through with it. I know we both need space. He hurt me so, so much. Edited April 6, 2011 by ladeedee
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