Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Hey Whats makes a woman cheat on her husband of 15 years with whom she has a kid with? She says her marriage is up and down like most But what makes her cheat?
greengoddess Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 boredom, humdrum daily life of the same thing day in and day out, need of attention, not feeling wanted, not feeling sexy, the excitement and rush of it all...
alexandria35 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Nothing "makes" anybody cheat. However some people will cheat and some won't. I think it depends on the individuals character and moral beliefs.
Author Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 boredom, humdrum daily life of the same thing day in and day out, need of attention, not feeling wanted, not feeling sexy, the excitement and rush of it all... hmm.....i suppose....even after been with person for so long and signing wedding vows and that crap......is she still in love with him ?
greengoddess Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 hmm.....i suppose....even after been with person for so long and signing wedding vows and that crap......is she still in love with him ? nah at the moment she loves herself...very, very selfish behavior.
Confused4Now Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 nah at the moment she loves herself...very, very selfish behavior.Amen to this!!! I know I was very selfish when I stepped out of my marriage. It was all about me the same me that divorced my wife and told my xMW to get lost.
Author Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Amen to this!!! I know I was very selfish when I stepped out of my marriage. It was all about me the same me that divorced my wife and told my xMW to get lost. shes likes to be protected....so is the reason she wont leave the hubby is because she doesnt want to be alone or will have no experience of been able to start again....shes 38
greengoddess Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 shes likes to be protected....so is the reason she wont leave the hubby is because she doesnt want to be alone or will have no experience of been able to start again....shes 38 and this is someone you want to be with? Basically a child who can not take care of herself?
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 shes likes to be protected....so is the reason she wont leave the hubby is because she doesnt want to be alone or will have no experience of been able to start again....shes 38 Hmm, so instead she decides to be selfish and have an affair. Have the comforts of being married, the life, the house, the money, support from her H, then she has someone (I assume that's you) on the side. If her H finds out there's always a chance he'll kick her out and divorce her, not everybody is forgiving and feels their cheating spouse is worth giving a chance to fix things. She'd be alone and starting over. For someone who doesn't want that, she's certainly putting herself in a situation where that could happen!
Author Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 and this is someone you want to be with? Basically a child who can not take care of herself? no i dont want to be with her!!. i just ended a fling i had with her...i couldnt take it..was too much for me..im single. just i taught she was happily married....why did she become attracted to me....i may of been doing a better job than the hubby for caring for her...i dont know
jthorne Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Hey Whats makes a woman cheat on her husband of 15 years with whom she has a kid with? She says her marriage is up and down like most But what makes her cheat?Well, I guess I could give you the reasons like selfishness, character flaw, poor self esteem, poor boundaries, conflict avoider... But really, you've made yourself available, so the shortcut answer is this: She cheats because she can.
Author Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Well, I guess I could give you the reasons like selfishness, character flaw, poor self esteem, poor boundaries, conflict avoider... But really, you've made yourself available, so the shortcut answer is this: She cheats because she can. i got paranoid too....like would she ever tell anyone? or the fact the sexual stuf has stopped....will she leave me alone or come back for more for attention?
Author Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Well, I guess I could give you the reasons like selfishness, character flaw, poor self esteem, poor boundaries, conflict avoider... But really, you've made yourself available, so the shortcut answer is this: She cheats because she can. do u think i was just used? or i was just someone to get extra attention of?
Confused4Now Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 If her H finds out there's always a chance he'll kick her out and divorce her, not everybody is forgiving and feels their cheating spouse is worth giving a chance to fix things. She'd be alone and starting over. For someone who doesn't want that, she's certainly putting herself in a situation where that could happen!Well it can be done....I've done it. Being with someone for 25+ years and getting a divorced and getting tired of waiting for my xMW. I will say this....even though my marriage was crappy there was a sense of security which was hard to walk away from. So I get why people stay. I guess it just comes down to people's values and how much they can take. However I knew it wasn't fair to my exW. Hope she knows what's in store for her....
Author Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Well it can be done....I've done it. Being with someone for 25+ years and getting a divorced and getting tired of waiting for my xMW. I will say this....even though my marriage was crappy there was a sense of security which was hard to walk away from. So I get why people stay. I guess it just comes down to people's values and how much they can take. However I knew it wasn't fair to my exW. Hope she knows what's in store for her.... good point! wats in store for her ?
Confused4Now Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 good point! wats in store for her ?Honestly....looking deep into herself and finding out who she really is. A lot of growing as a person...we hope.
Author Vince1980 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Honestly....looking deep into herself and finding out who she really is. A lot of growing as a person...we hope. will it take her long to move on?
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