joshextreme Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 So my ex and I have been LC for the past 2 months. we've had moments where I pretty much begged her back. now story has changed. she texted me and we were talking and things were alright. what she wants from me is pretty much friends. she said stuff like "I want to be able to say hi to you." later on before bed I told her that us talking was a bad idea because I don't want to get feelings for her again. she then concludes by saying.. "then u shouldnt of bothered ****ing talking to me even today. if u knew along u wouldnt again. im sick of being thrown away by any person i try to let in to make me feel better. goodbye forever." after this I texted her saying how I wanted some form of relationship. but when I think about it and how far I come from when we broke up. I would take her back but not quickly. I feel bad for her because her last 3 guys (after me) kinda bailed on her and she's finally hurting. I texted her in the morning apologizing for saying I didn't want to do what she wanted. even tho it was how I was feeling. after exchanging text I said that we should talk later because I want to figure a way to make us both happy. even tho me going back to NC is probably the 100% right thing to do. I can't help but feel sympathetic for her. so now she'll probably text me later saying hey and she'll just want to talk and Idk what to do. I do still love her a lot. ugh :/ what should I do if she texts me later? btw sorry for the layout I wrote all this on my Droid lol.
Chi townD Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 sounds like the two of you are very young. You do what you need to do to heal and don't let her try to lay a guilt trip on you. You two are broken up, you don't owe her anything.
Author joshextreme Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 sounds like the two of you are very young. You do what you need to do to heal and don't let her try to lay a guilt trip on you. You two are broken up, you don't owe her anything. i know she'll put me through a guilt trip and thats my one weakness. :/
Perhaps Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 She's putting you through a guilt trip. If you can't have what you want, then she Definitely can't have what she wants, especially because it's something that hurts you. Now is the time to release yourself of the deadweight and move forward. Don't be held down and don't let her dictate your mind. Make it clear to her about what you want. If she can't deliver, you can't be friends. Yes, it's sad that the other guys put her through crap, but she chose to be with them. She had the option of returning to you when you begged her. I'm not being mean nor am I suggesting you cast her out. It's Fair to both of you to not be in contact if you cannot agree on what type of relationship you want.
Layzie89 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 "im sick of being throw away by any person I let in to try and make me feel better." Her statement alone shows just how selfish she is. She wants to talk to you to make her feel better about herself but isn't considering how you may feel about talking to her. You should tell her that. You shouldn't have apologized to her, it's not YOUR fault she cannot be happy with herself.
Author joshextreme Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 should i wait for her to text me or can i just send her a text giving her an ultimatum. ultimatum being either you build a relationship with me or we go back to NC.
Thatguyintx Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Layzie, You beat me to it. That statement jumped out at me as well. Selfish, selfish, selfish!
Author joshextreme Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 so my ex and i ended up talking and i was very serious and was very stern with what i wanted. she kept trying to tell me that it was unfair what i was doing to her. well karma is a bitch, right? what happened was i told her either us together or nothing and shes like well i want friends or nothing. so i just ok nothing and we went on our ways. she then BLOCKED me on fb. LOL. couldnt help but laugh because i didnt care. my friend told me shes gonna unblock me in a few days but honestly i just dont care. she is pure stress.
Author joshextreme Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 i think im gonna try just pure NC for awhile. once my prom passes it'll be easier to ignore her
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