Mov Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 What happened to Day 1 & 2 i hear you shout. Well i found it difficult and only thought today to try to log feelings and share my NC experience. I woke up this morning and thought of her, nice thoughts, but these seem to be the worst type atm. Still at the stage of thinking she might have emailed me and made sure the first thing i did was to check. No contact. Didn't really expect it, but still a lingering bit of hope that she might be missing me. Had my kids with me this morning so they helped take my mind off it and the upset i feel is slowly fading. Don't get me wrong, i still am upset, i have butterflies in my stomach, but the pain (and it still is pain) is becoming bearable (or more bearable than last week.) To help on day 2 i had joined a dating site and went to check on my mail last night. Now on my profile i have stated i just want friends at the moment, i am not ready for anything else and wouldn't put someone through a rebound relationship just to heal me. I had a few responses from 4 different females and started to chat to them via the website, all nice girls, seemed a bit of a panic replacement to talking to my ex, but the conversations kept me busy. I got on especially well with one of the girls and she asked for my phone number as she wanted to talk. I wasn't sure, but thought 'Hell, why not, its just talking' and i am pretty sure my ex was getting on with her life so i agreed. I spent 3 hours talking to this girl about various things (not any mention of my ex) and found that for the three hours i never thought once of my Ex, i even laughed at a few things she said...laugh? i remember that. Maybe there is light at the end of the tunnel after all. Well at the end she told me she enjoyed our talk and hoped we could do it again tonight, so i am sure we will. I have a meeting in 2 hours and need to get prepared for it, still thinking about my ex but now i have other things to think about to, high points and low points, need to try to make sure there is more highs than lows and NC will hopefully do that in time. Don't get me wrong it is so hard, but i am slowly changing and getting round to the idea of a different life and the person who i thought loved me the same way didn't in the end. Can't really change someones feelings, just my own.
kingofhearts Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Man..... You did exactly what I thought about doing. You hate to put others in the rebound position, but nothing takes your mind off of your ex like another "friend" being there. I've debated on doing this for a while. I have co-workers telling me to give this another week and just hang it up after that. I'll start talking to other people at that point. I'm kind of excited. LOL. What holds me back is that she's still rocking my promise ring and she said that she's not taking it off as a symbol that it's not over. Almost makes me question if I should try being alone for a while though, since I'm so quick to fill that void. Something must need work as far as myself goes. I'm glad to hear that, bro. It's a great feeling. Let us know how it works out.
Author Mov Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Man..... You did exactly what I thought about doing. You hate to put others in the rebound position, but nothing takes your mind off of your ex like another "friend" being there. I've debated on doing this for a while. I have co-workers telling me to give this another week and just hang it up after that. I'll start talking to other people at that point. I'm kind of excited. LOL. What holds me back is that she's still rocking my promise ring and she said that she's not taking it off as a symbol that it's not over. Almost makes me question if I should try being alone for a while though, since I'm so quick to fill that void. Something must need work as far as myself goes. I'm glad to hear that, bro. It's a great feeling. Let us know how it works out. Seems to be keeping you hanging on king, you deserve better, either its over or its not, but thanks for your post, i will keep you updated, talking to people helps a lot as its a confidence issue when you are dumped, just need to change my feelings and not want my ex to come back now!
pink.fairy Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I think you're doing a good thing; both by starting to log your experience (I've always found it helpful to keep a diary and write things down), and by making new friends. I'm sure you're far from ready to date again, but it's good that you're putting yourself out there in a healthy way. I know what it's like to wake up and still have the hope that they've contacted you. It's heartbreaking when you realise they still haven't, despite logically knowing they wouldn't have. I think you're being admirably strong in this, and I'm sure you'll continue being so. Continue keeping your chin up and being busy
Author Mov Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 Shes just called me at 2.30am with a friend - giving me abuse and telling me she hates me and she knows i am moving on...god i am confused
LovelyJublee Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Shes just called me at 2.30am with a friend - giving me abuse and telling me she hates me and she knows i am moving on...god i am confused Hey keep strong and going, she is just trying to control you i bet!!!
Author Mov Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 I will - Just sent an email (was i wrong) telling her not to contact me again..
Fufu Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Since you sent it, it's fine Just make sure to tell yourself it's the final one to her.
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