TenTons Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) Hello first post, Here is my story, any comment welcome. It is very long sorry Don’t know if I should continue my relationship. Everyone here is in their very early 20s Here is the [long] story: I am currently in a relationship with girl B. Prior to this relationship I was dating girl A who I still have feelings for. For a small period of time saw both of them, and decided to go with B because she “is the better prospect”. Background to A: Thin, tall, hot, assertive, witty, confident, strong personality. Her parents where not much around for the later part of her teens, and up to this day. They are often out of town. Meaning she got and gets to do pretty much whatever she wants to with no supervision. Comes from a lower income bracket, if that matters. Met her one day when a friend of mine invited me to the club. I’m not much of a clubber but I was in the mood for it that day. Anyway we are joined by some girl and guy friends of my friend and one of the guys, which I was acquainted with brings with him girl A. They seemed to be dating. So I don’t know what was up with me that day, but I was feeling macho and in the zone so I pretty much start hitting on this girl in front of the guy. He didn’t really do anything about it, and it thought it was a real man when upon him taking a bathroom break I talked her into dancing by daring her to dance with him unless she was afraid of her date being uncomfortable with him. So she fell for it, we were dancing and the guy comes up to me and tells to my ear to let him dance with her, and I shrug it off. Anyway by the end of the night when they are leaving I ask for her number and she gives it to me in his face. It most be noted that later that night I met up with this acquaintance who asked me who I was with at the club and told her about this girl. He told me “yeah, that girl ****s”. I don’t know if he meant that she is good at sexy time which she is. Or that she is DTF. So yeah I guess not the best reputation : / We began texting and flirting on the phone etc. We began to see each other, and she went out with the guy a couple of more times before we started being quasi-exclusive. The reason I say quasi is because there was talk of maybe becoming serious, but we should continue to date first. It is of note the girl was a real hard nut to crack, no one I have ever dated played so much mind games and hard to get before. More than once did I almost decided to let it go but I guess the thrill of the hunt and sadistically enjoying the ride she was taking me in. We date for a few moths some playing but no sex. At this point I’m thinking the girl would have probably given it up a long time ago if I was some other guy, but she wants me to be the sucker who asks her to be his girlfriend. I never asked her to be and around the 3 month mark we have sex and she assumes I am her bf, and of course tells all her friend I am her bf and what a good catch I am. After sexing a few times, we get into an argument which was entirely my fault, and doesn’t talk to me for a week. I thought this was justification for me to start talking to this other girl X. Instead of patching things up with A I decide I don’t really trust her and I can’t be in a relationship with someone who I don’t trust. I told her that to her face. So I dump her ask X to be my GF after like a ****ing week after the first date. That made no sense. Shortly there after I dumped X. Some time passes, and I decide to contact A again. It was hard to get her back but I did it. We started dating again. The sex as always was great, she dropped much of the games she was playing before and we were having a real good time together. This lasted for a couple of months Enter B: I meet this girl when I went out with some of my friends without my “almost GF A”. She is really cute and a very nice girl. [i have come now to suspect that just as there exist “nice guys” there exist “nice girl”. Girl B profile A little shorter than me, thick frame but not fat, has visited the plastic surgeon a couple of times to fix things that god didn’t endow her with. Anyway she is nice like I said, comes from a good family, is a people pleaser. Something I’m not too thrilled about is she can be very girly. I don’t like girls, I like women. She is the girl you mom wants you to marry. I dated both A and B for a short time. A knew something must be going on since I was dedicating less time to her. She got upset and started acting reaaally bitchy and I don’t blame her for it, since we where supposed at this point (2 time dating) to be exclusive. We were pretty much BF/GF without making it official. I was really in the wrong dating somebody else and I knew it. Her bitchiness sort of pushed me more and more to B because she cease to act like the girl I was really into, her usual self. At this time I am in a huge dilemma in which I actually felt sick for days, and lost some weight because I could not decide whom I wanted to be with. I swear I will never ****ing EVER let myself get into this situation again and date only 1 girl at the time and with breaks between each one. Yes it was that bad. I ****ed up to start dating B while I was really into A and enjoying my time with her. Anyway a bad day with A led me to decide I was gonna make B my GF (sound familiar?) Its been a few moths, since im together with B. NO sexy time yet. We have done some things but are taking it slow. Though for a good girl she does seem to know whats up when it comes to sexy time. A and I text each other once in a while. This did not happen at the beginning of my relationship with B. So right now im not sure what to do. I still have strong feelings for A. She was playing nice with me and all because she fell for me. She doesn’t play nice much because she is kind of difficult. I don’t feel like its exactly fair to B that I am not giving her my heart like she deserves. This girl will wake me up and ask me what I want for breakfast you know? I really like A sex is great, I feel like I can be myself and unleash my ****ing male-ness around her and she loves that. I look forward to making myself better when I am with her, to develop my self. To be both the good lover and bad boy. I think deep down inside it might be me trying to convince her that she doesn’t need to look elsewhere. So it might be me being somewhat insecure about her since she does have a reputation. The thing is though, with her reputation and all I am the one who has hurt her, dated other girls at the same time and what not. Dumped her now 2 times. I might be afraid of getting too serious with her in fear of getting hurt. And if she has done stuff behind my back she is really good at hiding it. I am sure I am very close the point where if I don’t go back to her and make thighs right and give her something serious she will be gone for good. So A is the bad girl who makes me feel passionate and a man. I don’t get bored ever (I get easily bored of girls) .BUT she is not the girl I would marry. EVER. B is the girl I would marry but she is too nice too complacent, too much of a girl. With her I feel I cant be my self and I have to play nice all the time. Good girl, bad girl cant make up my mind. EDIT: B doesnt know A exists A doesnt know B exists, but knows something must be going on Edited April 6, 2011 by TenTons
Hules Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Let B go you don't deserve her, let a guy who will treat her right be with her. A and you seem a perfect match stop stringing B along if you plan to continue been unfaithful, B will dump your sorry ass if she finds out you have been talking to A and rightly so.
betterdeal Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Simplify the situation and you'll not be driven crazy.
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