Imajerk17 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) Every relationship ends sooner or later (breakups or death), so why even bother starting one? I'll save myself the trouble and go play my x-box and stroke off. Even worse, what if we have kids? Everyone dies, so I knowingly will be bringing into this world people who have a terminable disease (life). I know, what a jerk! Do you all think I'm being too drastic though? I'm really wondering if I am. I'm thinking what I should do instead is get a girl's number and wait 2 years before calling her for the first date. Is that a good compromise? Either I'll feel like marrying her by then, or I won't... And if I don't, then she was not the one for me, and I saved myself some time! This thread is in honor of tiger20. Edited April 6, 2011 by Imajerk17
Mr.Cairo Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 And why are you making fun of people who have a strong sense of self-preservation? You remind me of people I know. They get emotionally involved or sexually involved with someone and then expect the world around to provide emotional support for when the relationship ends. I dunno. Maybe if people were emotionally independent, dating wouldn't be such a bad deal, but most people suffer massively from breaking-up/being cheated on/dumped, and that seems like such a waste of time, sanity, and physical health(not even talking about the money). I understand that many, many guys are playing video games instead of socializing with women. I tried to tell them that they can have companionship, and sexual enjoyment without having to pay for it in the shape of a relationship, but I guess they have this 'inner' voice which tells them that nothing in life is free. Which is sad. instead of enjoying life in more ways, they cut themselves from the myriad of young women who are interested in getting their rocks off at no expense, but hey, where one sees waste, another sees profit. For every 100 guys playing xbox, 10 are having more than one sexual partner at a time, and there's no one else to blame but the guy who's with his butt on the couch playing Oblivion. Even worse, what if we have kids? Everyone dies, so I knowingly will be bringing into this world people who have a terminable disease (life). I know, what a jerk! You'd be singing another tune if your child was born with tremendous health problems. Example. The father of a friend of mine has serious heart issues. My friend had children and those babies had to be immediately operated and even now they still have several health issues. Both the mother and the father of the children were healthy, but the grandfather had a negative influence. Don't know about you, but it might be a little bit selfish to bring people into this world because your hormones tell you to do it, or because 'Mankind needs it'. I know a guy who was born without legs. He has a normal life(which means that he's still viable to be explored by the state), and he seems cheerful enough, but you have no idea how much humiliation he suffered as a child, and lets not even talk about how he possibly feels. The last part of the topic, I agree with it. It's a lack of respect to string a person like that, but you shouldn't be making fun of the people who are more interested in their own hobbies instead of pursuing/having relationships, since they found their own lifestyle to be more productive, safe, and more cost effective.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 There are good women out there. You shouldn't cancel out the chance of meeting one, just because you've come across a couple of bad apples.
Mr.Cairo Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 There are good women out there. You shouldn't cancel out the chance of meeting one, just because you've come across a couple of bad apples. You've come across a field. This field was planted with mines. This was many decades ago so there's the chance of the mines being damaged enough to not explode. You don't know what's on the other side of the field. But you've heard that there's a barn filled with caviar. You've been living on a diet of rice which, although not the most pleasant to be at, is more than enough for you to have a good life. What are you going to do Are you going to risk walking over the mine, blowing your legs off, or are you going to be content with your lot in life and with the rice that will never cease to exist? Think of it in another way. Centuries ago the Romantic movement was given life to. Most people weren't poets or painters. Why not? Maybe because the rest of the population had to live in the real world, wasn't afforded a pleasant illusion.
persevere Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Well. In all seriousness, just think of all the time and money you'd save by not dating. I get burnt out from it too. You get all wrapped up emotionally (does she like me? What to wear? Did I say the wrong thing? etc. etc). Alone can be happy. Yeah, the sex life sucks but that can be a bit over rated anyway. Just find things you like to do and hey, being single, you can do them. Want to build a new computer? Hang out with the guys and drink beer all night? No one is gonna ride your A$$ for doing it! Let them come to you. Why is it always the guys who have to do the chasing anyway? Too much drama.
carhill Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Well. In all seriousness, just think of all the time and money you'd save by not dating LOL, so true. Just don't change your mind and get married without a pre-nup. BTDT...
persevere Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Half of all marriages end in divorce. I think more and more people are, though lonely, trying to avoid the mine field ever more...
Mr.Cairo Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Well. In all seriousness, just think of all the time and money you'd save by not dating. I get burnt out from it too. You get all wrapped up emotionally (does she like me? What to wear? Did I say the wrong thing? etc. etc). Alone can be happy. Yeah, the sex life sucks but that can be a bit over rated anyway. Just find things you like to do and hey, being single, you can do them. Want to build a new computer? Hang out with the guys and drink beer all night? No one is gonna ride your A$$ for doing it! Let them come to you. Why is always the guys who have to do the chasing? Too much drama. Yes, people have no idea that dating makes the rich, richer, and the poor, even more poor. Going out, movies, dinners, trips to her or his place, the price of gasoline, the phone calls, the text messages, the engagement rings, the divorce: and the list of expenses goes up and up. I know a guy who didn't spend that much on individual dates, but after making the calculations, he reached the conclusion that he had spent MILLIONS on his dating life and with nothing to show for. Unless a very traumatic divorce, child-support to a kid who wasn't his(gotta love the Law) and Alimony, can be considered rewarding. Or what about the others who spend so many time getting to know someone, and that person turns out to be everything wrong? What about the people who aren't promiscuous but end up infected with std, and if the statistics are truthful, most people are going to eventually catch HPV(which has been suggested, in some studies, to be connected to oral cancer, prostrate cancer, and cervix cancer). Or Herpes? Most people have herpes .Heck, I've even see people treat herpes as if it was a common cold. Also, lets not forget about the little fact that sex - even when a condom and the pill are simultaneously used - can, and in many times results in an unwanted pregnancy. The woman has no chance but to either abort or have the child, and the man, despite not wanting the child, has to deal with abortion or with 18 years of child-support. Dating and sex are fun when young, with nothing to lose, but as a person ages, gathers resources and a good life, it's very risky to deal in an emotional/sexual way with the opposite sex. Maybe tiger20 and guys(and gals) like him have too much to lose and too little to gain.
Mr.Cairo Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 LOL, so true. Just don't change your mind and get married without a pre-nup. BTDT... Heh, the good thing about pre-nups is that they can be considered void by the judge, anytime. Some of my married friends are using another tactic, but really, all of that could be easily avoided by not marrying/living with a woman/dating a woman long enough for it to be considered marriage. Same goes for women, by the way. Oh, and also, lets not forget about the emotional expenses. Many people invest years on the SO only to have the relationship end because the guy reconnected with his high school sweetheart or because she 'loves him, but doesn't love him' Hey, at least people are making the std-drug market richer, LOL!
Mr.Cairo Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Keep the law out of it. heh. Impossible, bro. The state has it's nose in every relationship. That's why it's very logical to keep it casual. Someone has to feed all of those lawyers, but it won't be me LOL!
persevere Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I'm thinking what I should do instead is get a girl's number and wait 2 years before calling her for the first date. Is that a good compromise? Yes. It is a good compromise. It would eliminate games entirely. Besides, she would REALLY know you are interested if, out of the blue, you call her unexpectedly after two years! It sure beats finding a woman you really like only to have her playing games right off the bat. "I just want to let you know, I haven't clothes shopped since we last met. I'm still alive. I've gotten a raise since we last spoke. The rogain has started working. I love you"
persevere Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Impossible, bro. The state has it's nose in every relationship. That's why it's very logical to keep it casual. Someone has to feed all of those lawyers, but it won't be me LOL! "It's been 5 months. Time for you to get outta my place. I'll call you in 5 weeks and you can move back in, but only for 5 months...lol"
Mr.Cairo Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 "It's been 5 months. Time for you to get outta my place. I'll call you in 5 weeks and you can move back in, but only for 5 months...lol" If people only knew the true ramifications of the law, especially when it concerns relationships, there wouldn't be anymore of that. Maybe I should start giving out some law education for free
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