Did I ruin it unintentionally?

[Sheppy99]

So I'm in University and in all of my classes there was this unbelievably pretty girl that I would just look in her way sometimes and wonder what she is thinking. I'm a fairly confident person but to me she is just so my type and perfect that it almost scares me. So for the past 3 months I haven't said anything to her and in one of my 3 classes I sit directly behind her every class and it's a theater style layout. So 3 weeks ago during this class she turned around and started talking to me and I literally almost swallowed my tongue, no joke, lol.

 

She basically started the conversation by saying "hey are you in my philosophy class?" I replied of course with yes I am. She said she had missed one of the classes and needed some notes so I quickly saw an opening and asked for her email. Sent her the information she needed and didn't look too much into it at that point. Figured she just needed something for class.

 

So the next week after that, she got to class and immediately turned around with a massive smile on her face and started talking to me and asking me questions and telling me about herself. She told me she worked at the airport and asked me how old I was. I said the dumbest thing "old enough" and laughed because I'm 28 and she's probably like 22-24 and I didn't want to scare her off lol. After class we walked to the parking lot together and continued laughing and very pleasant conversation. So at this point I'm wondering possibly she is interested.

 

So later on that week she emailed me and asked me if I had went to one of our other classes and said she missed it unfortunately and ended the conversation with "see you in philosophy class "

 

So up to this point I have never sat with her in this particular class and she rarely ever goes to this class. So I'm thinking that this is a hint she wants me to sit with her in philosophy class.

 

So I sent her back this really up beat email and for some retarded reason I ended it with "Take care" I have no idea why I said take care and not see you in class as well. I think it's because where I work I end most of my conversations with clients with "Take care" so it's force of habit.

 

Worst yet, day of class comes. I get there late and a guy friend of mine was waiting outside class for me with notes he had gone to the trouble of printing off for me. I've always sat with him through every class. I got into the class room and seen she was sitting near the front. My buddy immediately grabs a seat at the back cause he likes to sit at the back. So immediately I realize I'm in a terrible situation. I can't snub my buddy but I don't want to snub her either. Well I sat with him.

 

At the end of class I waited to walk out with her and she was anything but chatty. This was last thursday.

 

Monday comes and this is the class where I sit directly behind her and the last 3 weeks she's been coming into class and immediately turning around and talking to me all smiles. She comes into class last night and literally sits down and acts like I don't exist at all. When class ended, she bolted out of the theater like her pants was on fire. Tonights class more of the same.

 

 

My question is, did my email response where I said "take care" at the end coupled with me not sitting with her on thursday in class give her the impression that I wasn't interested? She has completely turned into the ice princess on me. Also, I did email her asking her if she'd like to do something this weekend to show her that I am interested last night but I haven't gotten a response back at all. It is her university email so I'm not sure how often she checks it.

 

I'm completely confused

 

any advice would be appreciated

[Freshprince]

I don't think the simple end line of an e-mail would be enough to say that you telegraphed "disinterest" nor sitting with your friend that one time. I have a pretty close female friend whom I share a class with, and sometimes she'll just bolt out the door right when class gets out (and not even say "hi" to me) mainly because she has a lot to do that day or for some other non-relational reason. Since you e-mailed her with some interest, I would just wait and see what happens with that e-mail. She might have some other things going on in her life right now that you may not know about.

 

You'll just have to wait and see, keep your options open! Best of luck!

[desperate_princess]

Having been in a situation where contact started over email, there's one thing I know: perhaps she doesn't even realise how important that email is for you, maybe she does not respond ASAP and so on. I'd say that this is nowhere near ruined.