shawn923 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Me and my ex girlfriend who dumped me are now on good terms again. Basically I've went NC on her twice, and each time she comes crying back letting me know doing that would be a mistake and she doesnt wanna lose me as a "friend"... And she still shows obvious signs of jealously and such as if she would when we went together. Now, we're taking it easy. Deep down I still want her back though. She says she was back to dating again but it was nothing too serious... And we may have some time to hang out this weekend. So basically, i need some advice on how to handle this situation... I mean if she ends up having a boyfriend, i will let her know i can not be her friend any longer and I will stick to NC. But it seems shes waiting for me to change, so she can come back when she feels ready. Keep in mind I cant just let her know I want a second chance, Ive did that before and it just pushes her away more. I never lied, cheated, or abused her. It was more of a trust thing, something over time I would have to work on. So how do i show her I've changed? I mean at this point it wont hurt to try, especially when im pretty sure she still has major feelings for me, but is scared to make that jump back to me... So where do i go from here and how do i handle it? How can I show her i've changed and ready to start again?
Layzie89 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I remember you posted in another thread that she dumped you because you were insecure and overly jealous. You know the mistakes you made last time. Don't make the same mistakes again. Treat her and talk to her as if she's just a good friend because right now thats all she is. Don't show her the slightest sign of insecurity or jealousy. If she brings up her dating other guys, be totally nonchalant about it, smile and again..converse as if you're talkimg only to a friend. Any relationship talk would just show her you're still pining over it, so avoid that conversation all around. I believe we've scolded you enough in your other threads about chasing her and such so all I'll say is good luck amd I hope things go smooth foe you bud.
Author shawn923 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Yea its still really hard for me not to talk about the breakup cuz thats all thats on my mind lol. Usually when i slip up and talk about it I'll try to laugh it off as if i was just playing... But i'll try my best whenever we hang out to just be friendly, and NEVER discuss the break up or her new dating guys whatsoever... Maybe ill just talk about sports or tv or school or something lol... Its hard cuz i really dont wanna fall into the friend zone, but ill play that part for now. If shes gonna come back it'll be on her time anyway, so i guess i'll stick this one out and see where it goes. Keep in mind im not a fool, if she gets a new boyfriend, im totally out of the picture and WILL NOT break NC until she comes banging on my door for me back.
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