rainbowbutterfly Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 About my appearance, I'm 5'4. I'm obese. But I have a beautiful face and personally. I got out of a 2 year relationship. I've been single for about 5 months. I meet people but for some reason, no guys have asked me out on a date or nothing! I don't know what I'm doing. I'm friendly, I'm not a weirdo. I'm starting to feel very insecure now. Before I never had this problem. I'm trying to lose weight. I wanna lose this weight bc I feel like nno one wants me bc I'm too fat. Basically, my upper body is very wide and fat. My legs are kinda skinny for my body. I don't know if I should consider surgery or what. How can I find a guy who would be interested in me?
BeginAgain Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I don't know if you want to do this but you might want to find the bbw fetishists in your area and where they hold mixers. Though this is if you really are as overweight as you say and aren't a little too obsessed with your weight.
d'Arthez Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 If you gained weight during the past 2.5 years, that may have decreased your physical attractiveness as well. Not saying that all men want a skinny little thing, but it does play a role in whether men will ask women out for a date. It could also be, that you are still giving vibes off that you live in this previous relationship. To get out of a relationship is one thing, to convey that you are ready to embark on a new adventure is another. It may also be the case that they don't have the same interests. Men tend to mature a bit slower than women, and thus as you age, a similarity in interests becomes more and more important. What have you done in the five months since the break up to improve yourself? Are you depending on real meeting people (e.g. clubs), or more indirect means of meeting people (through friends). The more indirect, the more your personality ought to shine through, and thus your appearance would be less of an hindrance, if that is what you fear. First perceptions are key, and sadly for men they tend to be visual in nature.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Try pursuing men that are equal in attractiveness.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Either you have to lose weight or you have to target the 1% of men who will be attracted to you and take you seriously. No one knows where to find them besides online. The real truth is obesity is not an attraction, but a replusion. Guys will see your personality, but wont look past the obesity. If youre friends that arent obese keep telling you that someone will like you for your personality, they are lying. They wont tell you the truth when they know you might not do anything about it. if you have a pretty face, you will do much better when you lose the weight. its all about the food you eat.
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