Urban Crusader Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Hi everyone, I'm in a bit of a situation and would like a mature input on this. My girlfriend of 5 months ended our relationship around 4 months ago due to a lot. Her family has literally fallen apart. Dad divorced mom, they don't really have much money left, losing house.. Truly awful situation my heart goes out to them. Unfortunatley this is what caused the breakup. I was told, "I can't handle a relationship right now, you know I love you to death and that won't change." That was it.Being cool about it and supportive as I always had been, still being there for her as a friend, because in her life there literally was no time for a boyfriend. After a few days I felt so weak and miserable,the girl I loved was just going through so much and I couldn't do a thing to help! Days start passing slower and slower the breakup hit me really hard. At school she used to be a social butterfly, then started staring blankly and giving short answers to everyone. I took that as she didn't love me or her friends anymore even though she calimed she did, (it was depression.Days went on and this depressive behaviour continued. I wanted to be there the best I could but being depressed there was no way I could get through to her. I decided to started testing it a little bit by ignoring her to see if I would get a reaction (yes very childish and immature, I know). It got me nowhere and probably made her feel even worse as the guy that loves her so much just dips. I immediatley corrected myself and was back to mr. right. More times passes and something changes. She isn't as quiet as she had been and is starting to talk to her old friends the druggies. I hate these freaks with a burning passion and she knows i'm uncomfortable with them. Slowly but surely she comes out of that depressive state more and more and starts being with these guys the druggies. Before we started dating she was with these guys, but not doing any of their drugs lol. I felt as if I was losing her so I tried holding on, it probably pushed her away. -SKIPPING A 2 MONTHs HERE COMMENT FOR DEATAILS IF NEEDED- So here we are now. She has a new boyfriend... One of the druggies I mentioned earlier. She has changed herself drastically, not the same girl I fell in love with. This guy isn't much to look at and has some serious drug problems. I don't get any of this. I look at her now with complete indifference, even a little pity. She's a pot head now and makes out with this guy so much even though she told me doing that in public grosses her out while we were dating. We broke up 4 months ago beacause she couldn't handle a relationship. She's now been with this dude for a month and to be honest I know for a fact that he can't compare to me in any field. So any insight as to why she's acting like this would be appreciated. And don't give me the move on talk beacuse i've had 4 months to think and recooperate while she hopped into an unstable relationship. Btw been in NC for a month even though we live really close lol. Last thing I left quite a lot out so im happy to answer any questions. Thanks, Chris
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