Woggle Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 My friend was telling me about his MW and he was saying that the reason she is cheating is because she no longer sees her husband as sexual. She met him when he was a player and convinced him to settle down and now that he is domesticated as she puts it she no longer feels attraction towards him. She actually wishes he would cheat because that would show he still has some sexuality in him. Please tell me this is not a widely held view.
WorldIsYours Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 My friend was telling me about his MW and he was saying that the reason she is cheating is because she no longer sees her husband as sexual. She met him when he was a player and convinced him to settle down and now that he is domesticated as she puts it she no longer feels attraction towards him. She actually wishes he would cheat because that would show he still has some sexuality in him. Please tell me this is not a widely held view. She is nothing but a cheating hoe who's selfish. And why are you still hanging around that guy?
TouchedByViolet Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Some women definitely feel that way but not most. Faithfulness and honesty do not equal sexual attraction to many women. Dishonesty and a challenging personality equals an emotional puzzle to solve which equals sexually interesting to many women. Men who are faithful and honest need other elements in their life to be attracting to women. Women who are attracted to players need to fix themselves if they ever want a healthy relationship.
D-Lish Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 No way! In order to feel sexually vulnerable with a man, I need to know he's faithful and trustworthy.
Nexus One Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 My friend was telling me about his MW and he was saying that the reason she is cheating is because she no longer sees her husband as sexual. She met him when he was a player and convinced him to settle down and now that he is domesticated as she puts it she no longer feels attraction towards him. She actually wishes he would cheat because that would show he still has some sexuality in him. Please tell me this is not a widely held view. I don't believe a word of what she says. She wants him to cheat so that she doesn't have to feel bad for her own cheating, but feel even. Lame excuses, instead of cheating on him she could have talked to him about it.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 In other words now that she's "domesticated" her husband she's bored with him. Like a child who has put together a puzzle. It sounds to me like she is trying to rationalize her own infidelity. It can't be her fault, oh no... he drove her to cheat by being so faithful. :/
threebyfate Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Woggle, once again, put down the crack pipe. No, it's blatantly not a widely held view. I honestly wonder about the people you surround yourself with. Are they all nuts?
daphne Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 There's a certain amount of drama that causes emotional instability on the person being cheated on. Emotional instability can heighten hormones, but it doesn't really make you like the cheater. So there's probably some merit to what she's saying on a physiological level. However, only someone who has issues would want this type of situation. Who wants a roller coaster in order to have a good sex life? You can still have great sex without that kind of crap. But it's generally going to be based on something a bit more solid like love and intimacy. Call me crazy.
Author Woggle Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Woggle, once again, put down the crack pipe. No, it's blatantly not a widely held view. I honestly wonder about the people you surround yourself with. Are they all nuts? I told you guys that when I left home at 16 I hung around with degenerates and I am still loyal to those who looked out for me at my lowest point.
threebyfate Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I told you guys that when I left home at 16 I hung around with degenerates and I am still loyal to those who looked out for me at my lowest point.Since you know they're degenerates, why would you take their attitudes seriously? This doesn't mean you have to stop being friends with them but it's best to stop taking some of their disclosures seriously.
zengirl Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 No. Those people are just crazy. I'd have a problem seeing a man who never initiated sexual activity with me as sexual. But he doesn't have to go cheating! He just has to nibble on my ear once and awhile. That girl just likes the drama.
orangelady Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 My friend was telling me about his MW and he was saying that the reason she is cheating is because she no longer sees her husband as sexual. She met him when he was a player and convinced him to settle down and now that he is domesticated as she puts it she no longer feels attraction towards him. She actually wishes he would cheat because that would show he still has some sexuality in him. Please tell me this is not a widely held view. I stay clear of bad boys. But I do notice that nice and honest men can be quite 'cold hearted' and do not show much affection. Could this be a problem?
dreamingoftigers Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Oh for the love of..... No being a cheating scumbag isn't sexy.... And for the MW...wow, rationalization! Woggle, you had a cheating MW for a wife before, do you care what someone like that is attracted to?
Duckduckgoose Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I would find a faithful and honest man a TURN ON! Its the cheating lying scumbag that would put me off. I would MUCH rather have sex with someone I know will be devoted to me
dreamingoftigers Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I would find a faithful and honest man a TURN ON! Its the cheating lying scumbag that would put me off. I would MUCH rather have sex with someone I know will be devoted to me I would rather have much sex with someone devoted to me.
thatdog Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I would find a faithful and honest man a TURN ON! Its the cheating lying scumbag that would put me off. I would MUCH rather have sex with someone I know will be devoted to me Actually i read a psychology article this morning that stated that women are generally turned on by men that they WANT to be devoted to them. Once the devotion is established, the woman may still be madly in love with their mate but their sexual desire for them will almost always flag pretty rapidly. Those same women however, will usually start to re-experience increased desire if another man pays attention to them EVEN IF THEY LOVE THEIR PARTNER AND HAVE NO INTENTION OF CHEATING. Hence why there so many perfectly good guys on here all the time whining about how their gf/wife never/rarely has sex with them anymore.
Crimesoftheheart Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I'm hugely turned on by a man who feels that they are just for me and that i am just for him. It brings a level of intimacy to the sexual act. That is where making love comes in. your friend has problems.
Andy_K Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 This is why you should never, ever, date a girl (or a guy) who likes 'a bit of a challenge', or the 'thrill of the chase'. It will always end this way when they get bored. The moment a prospective date says they like a challenge, run a mile and don't look back.
thatdog Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 This is why you should never, ever, date a girl (or a guy) who likes 'a bit of a challenge', or the 'thrill of the chase'. It will always end this way when they get bored. The moment a prospective date says they like a challenge, run a mile and don't look back. Pretty sure it's mostly subconscious. And I don't think there's a single girl out there that isn't affected by it.
phineas Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 My friend was telling me about his MW and he was saying that the reason she is cheating is because she no longer sees her husband as sexual. She met him when he was a player and convinced him to settle down and now that he is domesticated as she puts it she no longer feels attraction towards him. She actually wishes he would cheat because that would show he still has some sexuality in him. Please tell me this is not a widely held view. Hi, my ex-wife cheated on me. She made up all kinds of stuff to justify her cheating. Stuff she couldn't back up. Stuff like I made an off-color comment about sex in front of her friend & her husband BEFORE we were married. Cheaters don't think they are doing anything wrong & try to justify it any way they can.
mogul Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I told you guys that when I left home at 16 I hung around with degenerates and I am still loyal to those who looked out for me at my lowest point. I respect that.
Author Woggle Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Hi, my ex-wife cheated on me. She made up all kinds of stuff to justify her cheating. Stuff she couldn't back up. Stuff like I made an off-color comment about sex in front of her friend & her husband BEFORE we were married. Cheaters don't think they are doing anything wrong & try to justify it any way they can. This is true. Cheaters will come up with the most absurd excuses. Maybe I am just being paranoid again but I notice myself how much better he does with women now that he pretty much treats them as flings. Her husband bends over backwards for her while my friend pretty much treats her as a toy but guess who she lusts over. His attitude is that he would rather be cheated with than cheated on.
phineas Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 This is true. Cheaters will come up with the most absurd excuses. Maybe I am just being paranoid again but I notice myself how much better he does with women now that he pretty much treats them as flings. Her husband bends over backwards for her while my friend pretty much treats her as a toy but guess who she lusts over. His attitude is that he would rather be cheated with than cheated on. Well, my ex still won't admit to cheating. Her official stance is "we didn't work out" & blames me for being an awful husband. LOL! I hate to admit it, but since I've started treating women as flings I do better all the way around. because I don't invest in them emotionally & honestly do have stuff to do it doesn't bother me at all if they break contact or jet.
sumdude Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) This is why you should never, ever, date a girl (or a guy) who likes 'a bit of a challenge', or the 'thrill of the chase'. It will always end this way when they get bored. The moment a prospective date says they like a challenge, run a mile and don't look back. There are many women (and men in their way) like this, not all by any means. I went through it with my ex wife. I should have known when 3 years in our relationship she tried to explain to me how I wasn't enough of a challenge anymore and that was why she was losing interest in me sexually. But we held on.. as soon as we were married and she got what she thought she wanted, she cheated and left. Edited April 6, 2011 by sumdude
elaina Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) My friend was telling me about his MW and he was saying that the reason she is cheating is because she no longer sees her husband as sexual. She met him when he was a player and convinced him to settle down and now that he is domesticated as she puts it she no longer feels attraction towards him. She actually wishes he would cheat because that would show he still has some sexuality in him. Please tell me this is not a widely held view. I think she has issues... some people are attracted to taboo plain and simple, so maybe that's the case? Most women that I know though would be/are devastated if their husband cheated on them. That actually turns them off, not on, to their husbands, and makes them very sad and heartbroken. So, I think this woman just has a mental turn on for players and cheaters. The majority of women are not like that though, I don't think. Edited April 6, 2011 by elaina
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