Can You kindly Remove Our Pics Off Of FB ?...but wait im in strict NC :S

[WiselyNaive]

so i have a lil question....my ex n i broke up 3 weeks ago n for the first 2 weeks i continued to look at both his twitter n fb pages through a friends acc n for this last week i honestly cant b bothered anymore...i mean i dont know what i was looking for but what i found was first he made a bunch of tweets about him n his ex having sex ...with lil tweets saying "i know im gonna get a text about this" & i know it was all aimed at me..ofcourse i kept nc...cause...i mean thats jus pathetic to me..after 2 weeks he made a comment saying he "missed (insert my nickname from him here)"..after that other than the occasional sad song he has been tweeting about other relationships that i know arent about me had me wondering if he was cheating all along until i snapped back into reality realized he might be just coping or if he was cheating i rlly shouldnt care...the more stuff he said on those sites turned me off & now im completely turned off by him...

 

the thing is im not indifferent tho im still very hurt because he broke my trust and became so spiteful towards me after the break up for no reason ...infact i dont see what i did to him at all even pre breakup....as of recent i noticed that he was tweeting one girl in particular for the past 3 weeks n throwing all the game & lies he threw at me at her..it stung a bit but i refuse to let it take over me because i realized what a bad guy my ex is n i know i can do better....but i have alot of insecurities over it because this girl is beautiful she is a model n i actually always thought she was cool even tho i never knew her personally...n the thought of him "upgrading" upsets me...im not saying im a downgrade but im admitting she is a lil more put together than me at this point in terms of having a job being a model & such n it bugs me..i feel like kind of like he just threw me away n is pursuing someone else that would be understood if i felt i actually did something to deserve it...

 

i kno its more of an ego thing for me than a heart thing at this point i know that the girl is probably out of his league anyway but the thought that me n him were all a game n im that easy to get over really disturbs me..i mean he broke up with me because of something so small it makes no sense...& he made all these promises n he broke all of them, i trusted him and i although i didnt fall inlove i trusted him with something that he just threw back in my face..for NO REASON..its baffling....but i had already began detatching my self maybe he noticed n used something small to be the one to dump me first or maybe he liked someone else...alot of thing popped into my head but since the breakup i found out he lied about so many things that im actually happy we arent together...i know he was playing mind games i jus dont know if he stopped them or just getting better....

 

but my question is i stopped checking both fb n twitter....i was checking twitter to see if he mentioned me and fb because he had pics up of me...at first i was checking to see if they were still up at this point i actually rlly want them down....i dont want to be associated with this guy and im honestly saying its not me trying to start a argument or me trying to see if he will fight to keep them up...i jus want them down but im not breaking nc n i dont want to tell my friends to make him cause idk if hell think its me wanting him....i saw that he changed his pic so i kno he uses fb so i just wonder y he has them up and if any1 has any ideas of how should i approach them bein removed without having to get into any contact with him :S...i havent checked his fb or twitter in a couple days but i doubt he has taken them down..n i know if i ask him too hell say he didnt even remember they were there n make it seem like i jus wanted to speak n that just is not the case...

 

 

if u read the full story any other advice is appreciated

Edited April 6, 2011 by WiselyNaive

[Armyspouse]

I know u want them down, and I dont blame you. But the more u ignore him the more u stay away eventually he will either get pissed and take em down or he will want to take em down cuz he has moved on. Sounds like he is keeping some small crack in the door open. But idk. Me personally I had a brk up and although I know the pics are still on the FB page and yes it pisses me off. But the same token.. I refuse to ask for them 2 be removed. Iwould rather cont to ignore that person knowing it pisses them off more than to give them the satisfaction of calling over something as small as a pic of me. Wish u the best.

[WiselyNaive]

I know u want them down, and I dont blame you. But the more u ignore him the more u stay away eventually he will either get pissed and take em down or he will want to take em down cuz he has moved on. Sounds like he is keeping some small crack in the door open. But idk. Me personally I had a brk up and although I know the pics are still on the FB page and yes it pisses me off. But the same token.. I refuse to ask for them 2 be removed. Iwould rather cont to ignore that person knowing it pisses them off more than to give them the satisfaction of calling over something as small as a pic of me. Wish u the best.

 

 

 

^^sigh i guess....and thank you...so ur ex still has them up? how long have u been apart...cause im hoping i wont have to wait long...it shouldnt even bother me but i know he uses those pics to make other girls jealous ...n he used to use one of me n him even before we were dating he would put it up n tell me ppl were mad..n id b like..um so y do u have it up we arent even together :S...i jus wanna be closed off completely from it n i dont wanna be used as a reason to make other girls jealous im over the bull**** :S

[Art_Critic]

but wait im in strict NC :S

 

You do realize that by using a friends account to look at his that you have broken NC and are no longer in strict NC ?

 

Stop it...

[WiselyNaive]

You do realize that by using a friends account to look at his that you have broken NC and are no longer in strict NC ?

 

Stop it...

 

 

 

thought nc meant CONTACTING him..not viewing his page..but i have stopped that lol so (Y) , thanks thought

[Art_Critic]

thought nc meant CONTACTING him..not viewing his page..but i have stopped that lol so (Y) , thanks thought

 

STRICT NC means no contact period...

 

Viewing his page is contact.. no different than talking thru friends.. etc etc..

No contact is for healing....continuing to view his page will hinder your healing.. that is why NO CONTACT is in order

[Art_Critic]

Something to think about....

 

If you had not broken NC there would have been no reason for this thread...

[WiselyNaive]

Something to think about....

 

If you had not broken NC there would have been no reason for this thread...

 

 

true , but with these social networks its kinda hard..i mean we have tons of mutual friends...so he always pops up so clicking him n seeing if i was still in the pics was inevitable i stopped a couple days ago tho..and to me blocking him is giving him more power... in terms of...he hasnt contacted so y am i blocking?...

 

 

n twitter is impossible because i always see ppl tweet him n him being retweeted... i refuse to hinder myself by staying off of social sites because of him lol im not hurt enough to stop goin on sites jus because of him...but

 

yea i guess the REAL NC has only jus begun:bunny:

 

thanks

[Fufu]

Block him on your facebook, don't look at his profile because this is breaking NC......

[Trovador]

Looking for his/her car in the parking lot is breaking NC (if you two work together)...

 

Heck, even talking about the ex without a real reason is breaking NC...

 

Lingering in the office or school's alleys with the "unconscius" and vain hope that the ex will bump into us is breaking NC...

 

Cut (as in reducing the time used in) phone calls because the ex (who knows?) might call is breaking NC... as it is getting mad because the caller wasn't you know who...

 

Yep, I am more catholic than the Pope...