sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 but now it feels so hard...i had to go get something from his house earlier and kinda got excited about seeing him, but he just left it in his kitchen for me... i thought i was doing so well but im missing him so much and hes probably not even thinking about me i keep wanting to text him and say ill change etc but i know its not a good thing to do...ive deleted his number again now so i can't anyway... i wish he'd text me so much
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 after i saw him last night and was really happy and confident i thought maybe hed think of me... on day 6 btw
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 can take up to 30 - but sunny NC is not guaranteed to make them call you - its for you to heal, after 30 days you will feel a lot stronger. If he wants to contact you he will, take the rest of the time to spend time on yourself!! *hugs* to you - stay strong!
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 i know he might definetly not get back in touch. im just feeling really sad today when i thought i had been doing really well...and i just really wish i could speak to him or be with him just to cuddle or something...
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 i know he might definetly not get back in touch. im just feeling really sad today when i thought i had been doing really well...and i just really wish i could speak to him or be with him just to cuddle or something... I am on 2nd day of NC sweetheart. it is so tough, you are definitely missing him but think of it this way, is he missing you? No, not yet anyway, try to focus on yourself at the moment - you deserve to be loved the same as you love and if he is not doing it then there are others that will, just need to keep strong just now and read some other posts here, there are a few that were in the same situation but have come back 5 months later to let everyone know how they feel now.
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 yeah i know...i do read through alot of posts im just feeling so crap... im worried as well because the last time we spoke i had a big go at him for something and now im scared that even if he does miss me then he'd be too worried that i'll yell at him to get in contact... i guess thats just wishful thinking though for the reasons why hes not getting in touch... i think ill probabaly be alot better tommorow but i know its gonna get harder before it gets better...
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Yes it can, but that's what this forum is for...i find it helpful in my situation to try to give an outsiders point of view to their problems. I am on 2nd day of NC, i want to contact her so bad but i know i cant, she doesn't want to contact me and if i do i am not respecting her decision. I have to disappear and let her work out if she made the right choice...if she thinks she did i will never see her again, but talking on here is helping atm..no ones alone
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 i know it is really helping. do you think i should make amends with him before going NC for good, just so he knows im ok with him if he wants to make up? im gonna be seeing him quite alot especcially after easter but at the same time i dont want to be ok with him when i see him...
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I must admit - before i went NC i wrote her an email - i actually agreed we should have broken up (even though i don't) and apologized for certain actions, told her i was away to rediscover myself and wished her the best in the future. I didn't want her to think i was pining for her and not doing anything but waiting. So in a way i regained some control over the situation. I don't think i will ever hear from her again, but if not then it was not meant to be and its something i will have to accept
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 well i think he knows that i was ok with things. we had a big chat and i said i understood, kind of (but not really) asked if there was ever a chance for us, and he said he didnt think it was a good idea in case we got hurt again, and i said i understood and it was probably for the best but then i found out he slept with a girl a couple of days after we split up, and got really upset and thats when i had a go at him :/ im guessing i should leave it for a bit... i just miss him SO much arghhh!!! its driving me crazy... do you think your ex WILL get back in touch?
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 No i don't. Sometimes i wish that she would and try to see positives, but after the split i can not see her contacting me again. I just have to focus on me now and move on.
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 see for me, apart from the big go i had at him, we had a pretty clean breakup...do you think theyre more likely to come back when the breakup is clean?
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 yes they can. It can depend on the person though, but i do know that if you just follow NC and he wants to be with you he will get in touch
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 yeah...i wish i could fast forward haha!
whatdoido1717 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I must admit - before i went NC i wrote her an email - i actually agreed we should have broken up (even though i don't) and apologized for certain actions, told her i was away to rediscover myself and wished her the best in the future. I didn't want her to think i was pining for her and not doing anything but waiting. So in a way i regained some control over the situation. I don't think i will ever hear from her again, but if not then it was not meant to be and its something i will have to accept How do you feel about sending that email looking back now? Do you regret it? I am only asking because you read the letter I wrote out...
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