sli Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Hello - I've been with my fiance for around 4 years. We have been engaged for about 9 months, but have not made any serious plans for the wedding. I thought she would be so excited to plan everything but she doesn't seem that interested. The main reason for that potentially is that we need to pay for the wedding ourselves (we are both in our mid 20s), but I am a student right now earning nothing, and she works at a crappy job. She lives with her family and there is a lot of drama there too. Basically, she ended our egagement saying I was selfish and was not supporting her. I think she is mad because she is working a crappy job she hates to pay for our wedding. I've told her that she can quit anytime, but she insists that she feels she has to work there. She constantly seems to think I'm selfish and not supportive, but I feel like I am. I have no idea what being more supportive even means to tell you the truth. This is where I need help. She says she doesn't want to get married anymore, but left it open for it to happen in the future. She also said she still wants to be together, but first she wants a break from me because I'm the only thing she can cut out of her life right now because she can't cut out her job and her family. I feel devastated not only because the engagement is over, but confused because she still wants to be together, and because we are on this undefined break. Can anyone help me out here? Is she looking for me to break up with her? Should I be patient and wait this out?
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 If she wants a break then you have to go NC till she is ready. Once someone has made up their mind no matter what the partner (ex) does it won't really work and can work opposite. Focus on you ATM, try to get a part time job, maybe if she sees you doing that then it might make her think twice about you not doing anything!
Author sli Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 What is NC? Also, I think she means emotionally supportive and not financial, but maybe that too. I would just love some advice about what this means. I have never heard of a broken engagement but someone wanting to still be together. I still love her so much, but I'm not sure if it's time to move on.
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 NC = no contact. You have to avoid her just now and give her the oppertunity to miss you and sort out her feelings
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