Thedude22 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 (edited) I honestly have never noticed the difference. Other than saying "Maybe" with a smile as opposed to a stone cold "Maybe" no clue what the difference is and as I result I personally just move on as soon as I am getting bad vibes. Women are complex creatures, I understand this. Here's a little case study I experienced recently. I recently was talking to a previous (hot) classmate of mine on facebook and suggested we get a coffee or something. She gave me her number completely unsolicited and two days later I asked her if she wanted to get some coffee. She said she had work, I said cool maybe later this week. No response. Typically this is the end of the line for me but this girl, well, this girl is rumored to prefer girls to guys so I took it as a challenge. I text her a few days later about this ****ty job fair we had a school. She immediately text back laughing, more funny banter. Then nothing. Finito I says. Then 3 days later *facepalm* I somehow butt dial this chick with my phone on accident AND somehow by the grace of god send her a butt text that was like ddddsff. She laughed and asked me if I butt dialed her. I say yeah, no clue how that happened my bad. No response. This was the stake through the heart for me, my butt caused me to take a knee when I was considering throwing a hail mary. I've had a few experiences like this, where we have a nice little convo then she suddenly goes cold before things get going. I usually just pack up my bags and move to the next dating circus but part of me wonders if they are really not that interested or are they just playing hard to get? I've never seen many articles about this phenomena, but as men we are suppose to give chase but never be too forward, yet being too aloof will cause a girl to think you're not that interested. Edited April 5, 2011 by Thedude22
Hules Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Don't worry about it man. Girls who play hard to get are stupid, because any guy with self respect will get bored of it very quickly and move on to the next girl. If I ask a girl out and don't get a reply within a day or two I move on. Or if she goes I have work/family thing/goldfish caught on fire/<insert other weak excuses here> and doesn't offer another time. I move on. Quite simple really. Don't have time for stupid games.
Author Thedude22 Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Don't worry about it man. Girls who play hard to get are stupid, because any guy with self respect will get bored of it very quickly and move on to the next girl. If I ask a girl out and don't get a reply within a day or two I move on. Or if she goes I have work/family thing/goldfish caught on fire/<insert other weak excuses here> and doesn't offer another time. I move on. Quite simple really. Don't have time for stupid games. Yeah I am very much up on the whole self respect thing. I generally follow the three strikes rule, 3 times where she is too busy or does/says something I dislike. I'm done. But I do get that a lot, and I won't lie chasing a girl can be fun for awhile.Still I think there is a fine line between chasing and begging. I expect a woman to contribute equally to the dating process 90% of the time.
Hules Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Yeah I am very much up on the whole self respect thing. I generally follow the three strikes rule, 3 times where she is too busy or does/says something I dislike. I'm done. But I do get that a lot, and I won't lie chasing a girl can be fun for awhile.Still I think there is a fine line between chasing and begging. I expect a woman to contribute equally to the dating process 90% of the time. Tottally agree, chasing can be fun to a point. However if I feel like I'm talking to a brick wall, um yeah no thanks. Most girls who play hard to get take it waaaaaaaay to far and its a total turn off.
Knittress Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Well... I don't play hard to get, I AM hard to get. I need convincing to even notice a man romantically, not because I'm critical or anything, but just because I'm more interested in my own life. I'm not the most social girl in the world and I don't really enjoy striking up long conversations with strangers and I can go a whole day without noticing my phone is off. Meh - 'tis what it is. Right - my point. There are probably plenty of guys who've figured I was playing hard to get, simply because I didn't respond to them like the average extrovert. Not that this is an excuse to act like a pushy d-bag who doesn't notice disinterest, but it's something to take into consideration.
persevere Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) Being succeptible to "hard to get" games is a matter of personal pride. If she's playing hard to get, then move on. No one is worth the bs games. Is she so self important that she needs to play games to get a man? She's already trying to "control" and you really haven't even "met" her yet. The games will never cease with her then. Find a woman who is caring and fun who calls you back and does what she says. That's who you want if you want less heartache and a true companion. I've always treated hard to get as not worthy of my attention or she's just flat not interested... I go by the "one strike and you're out" rule. Any woman who is interested WILL call, text, email you back at her earliest convenience. Edited April 6, 2011 by persevere
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