dmb05 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Hey guys. To make a long story short, my ex girlfriend that I dated for 3 years and I are back together. We dated through high school and some college and ended up just not working at the time. We both cared a lot for each other, but it was just us arguing constantly over dumb stuff. She had a boyfriend and was engaged about 2 years later, and I've dated many other girls since. She broke up with this guy because he was cheating on her, and I was single at the time. We started talking again, and now are back together and have been together for 4 months. We do still love each other, and plan to eventually, hopefully, get married after she's done with college and clinicals. However, there's one big thing that's come up. I've got a great job where I use my degree, and it's going to be my career path. It's a great paying job with great hours and great benefits. I love it there. It's about 20 minutes from both of our's hometown. I soon plan on moving out of my house with my parents (I'm 24, she's 22) and getting my own little place closer to where I work. I've got everything going the way I would like to where I can make good money and support a family. She, however, as soon as she graduates, wants to move and live an hour away just so she can work at her "dream job" in a bigger city and not be, as she puts it, stuck in her hometown. With the degree she's getting, there are TONS of job openings that pay VERY good around here daily. It's one of the highest demand jobs around. She simply doesn't want to live here, where it's cheaper and we could make a great life with our incomes. Both of our families, friends, and church are here. I play the drums on our praise and worship team, and she sings. I, at the moment though, could not afford to drive an hour to and from work everyday with my truck. It would make so much more financial sense for both of us to stay here and make better money with slightly lower cost of living than to move and have to struggle to live in a larger city, but she doesn't understand that. She only wants her dream job and not to be stuck in her hometown, which she could have great work opportunites at. It's an ongoing conversation that doesn't lead to a solution at the moment. But, her getting a secure job is about a year or so away. Maybe when she sees the job market isn't as easy as she thinks and that positions around here would be great, it would help change her mind. Any advice or am I being just as stubborn? Thanks!!
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