Disastor Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Hello LS, I was wondering today: Does PseudoNo-Contact work? Or does it have to be strictly none. My GF broke up with me a month ago and for a while we kept acting like nothing had happened. We basically did exactly the same stuff, spent time together, had sex, all the intimate couple stuff. But she became increasingly interested in another guy.... (which I find out is the real reason she broke up with me). The became 'official' and I decided it's time to gain real distance. We've spoken almost daily since she and him got together - though usually only 20 minutes or so (although one day I broke down and we talked for like 7 hours). We even had ex-sex one night - not something I'm proud of (although oddly it was the best sex we ever had). I can't figure her out. She wants to talk to me (she will actively call me and text me). She tells me she can be herself with me and is more comfortable. She tells me I am the best friend she has ever had (she said that while we were together too). When we are together we are both tempted to be intimate. The other guy knows NOTHING about me. What should I do here? Not talk to her at all? Talk to her but keep it short and trivial? Is she just stringing me along? I can't go back to where we were while she is with another man; it hurts too much. But am I wrong in thinking we still have a chance? Or is she just using me to not be bored/lonely (her current BF works a lot). What should I do?
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 You are not the boyfriend as you want to be, you are the 'other man' It will destroy you in the end, NC completely as you should not have to settle for 2nd best. The fact she is cheating on him with you is another thing, she is not trustworthy, so if you did get back together you would never trust her when you did not know what she was doing. For your sake mate, stop this now, only tears will come of it and find someone who will be faithful to you and love you the way you want.
butterfly2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 OMG.. i am going to be blunt here... if there is someone else....you need to have more respect for yourself and not let her use you as the fall back guy. It's either all or nothing. I would let her know that and then go no contact with her... WOW...she is something else doing this to you. You dont deserve that first of all. you deserve to be someones one and only.
Author Disastor Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 She is definitely 'something else'. Ridiculously conniving and intelligent. We used to actively lie to each other to see if the other person could figure it out. Wheels within wheels....
seibert253 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 OMG.. i am going to be blunt here... if there is someone else....you need to have more respect for yourself and not let her use you as the fall back guy. It's either all or nothing. I would let her know that and then go no contact with her... WOW...she is something else doing this to you. You dont deserve that first of all. you deserve to be someones one and only. ^^^^^^^^^^ This
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