mshummy88 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I've posted on here before asking for advice on my ex-girlfriend of 4+ years and how she was dating a guy for 2 months and she was always telling me she missed me and such and how him and her always get in fights and stuff like that. Well in conclusion, they broke up about a week ago! Ever since then me and her have been hanging out and everything and its going awesome joking and acting like nothing happened. I go to her house and we hang out for the entire night and then we lay in bed till she falls asleep and i leave to go home. But the question i ask myself is...is it too good to be true? When they broke up they didn't speak for a couple of days and then all of a sudden they text each other everyday almost all day and they still make plans to hang out. They also work at the same place and he's always coming in to visit her and such and talk and about 2-3 days ago he asked her back but she just told him she couldn't give him an answer. I'm not sure how to take this situation and I dont know what I should do..I'm guessing its also to early to tell but its making me wonder and worry. Any help would be appreciated
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I'm sorry, she seems to be using you as a safety net, keeping you around as she knows how you feel, but looking for something better. Either she wants to be with you or you have to start NC. You cant spend your time hoping that she will one day show you love and respect you deserve and could find with someone who genuinely wants to give that to you!
Chi townD Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I agree with Mov. You're her safety net and that's not being fair to you and she's being selfish. Either she's in 100% and willing to make a relationship work and cutting off all ties with this other guy, or she's not. If she can't give you an answer, then she doesn't deserve 100% of you, she should get 0%. Go NC, COMPLETE NC. Dude, life is too short and you're wasting your time on someone who doesn't know what she wants. Time to move on and heal if she's not in it for the long haul.
Author mshummy88 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Thanks guys, I ended up talking to her best friend today to ask her what I should do and so she started to talk to her and figure things out and made plans to hang out with her Thursday to talk about everything thats going on. (Funny thing is the friend and her bf are rooting for me so that's a plus, haha) But apparently my ex told the friend that she wanted me and to work things out. This recent guy that she just recently broke up with is leaving in May for Basic training and he's always like "on" her (I guess thats the word?) because hes always bugging her a work and texting her and wanting to hang and such. But we will see how things go come thursday-friday. If things go down the hole, Im transferring to a school in Chicago so there is plenty of fish there haha.
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