LovelyJublee Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 To say what you did was extremely wrong about my situation. I would never lie about something like that. He saw the test. The dr said it could have been what's called an "evaporation line". And my bf made the decision he did after this incident. He was in no way shape or form forced to reconcile. I made sure he wanted to for the right reasons. I think some people here are so hurt and angry they take out their emotional issues on people they don't know.. Maybe you are in denial yourself? Seems that way.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 Maybe you are in denial yourself? Seems that way. Have a nice evening.
LovelyJublee Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I hope you find peace in your life and stop lying to people,first your b/f and now the good people on here.Good evening.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 Yeah but it doesn't make sense.I am not a troll but you might be as this story doesn't add up now,mysister is a midwife and I know about this stuff.So you had 3 negative pregnancy tests and a faint line (when pregnant it is a clear line)and you still thought pregnant?That is 3 and half/4 no's to being pregnant.Even if still nervous why didn't you check with the docs first or look on internet to find out more?Oh because you wanted to get his attention. Took 3 tests in the last week and a half and than the fourth on Monday night, cvs test has the control line and than a circle with a line if positive. The circle had a line. Understand? If not too bad. I don't care what you think.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 I hope you find peace in your life and stop lying to people,first your b/f and now the good people on here.Good evening. I hope you find a hobby instead on coming in this forum trying to gauge a reaction. Get a life.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 Why do you say gauging a reaction?That is something you did with your b/f by lying about be pregnant,we are not all like you!Anyway i have pointed out facts about positive tests not being wrong. I suggest you educate yourself on evaporation lines and false positives. I learned something new, so should you. Good night
milkmaterial Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 (edited) SB: Listen to me, you dont know me or us from adam, but initially we really wanted to help you. It seemed you were in a R with a guy who was a good guy, and who you loved, but you did a bunch of mistakes (cant blame you if thats how you grew up like, or thats how you were conditioned to think or treat people or handle decisions/situations) but the problem with you is that you keep asking us and it just seemed so..endless. Your problems were endless, you didnt seem to want it solved yet you kept coming back here with different names, aliases..When someone gives you their honest opinion, you either dont reply or call them names. It seemed that you were the troll. Sounds to me like munchausen syndrome, or a mother who brings her child to the hospital saying he is sick but the doctors cant find any problem - the mother is just addicted to the attention she is getting. You remind me of my friend who was in a R with a married man, he made her do a lot of stuff (I wont discuss it, to "bloody"). She'd complain to me endlessly..but she wont give him up..she even wanted to have someone rape the wife. She wont listen to me. I eventually stopped talking to her. For the love of God, that guy is probably really clueless. I dont know if you really do love him but since you are apparently back together, either you tricked him into it or not, just treat him right. For the good of you and him. And hell, maybe for the good of all of us here who are trying to help you. **** i couldve been playing Mario on my DS instead of replying here. Lastly..most of us here are IT professionals..we arent guessing if you are SB. Dont make us tell you how we know you are SB - when you are online you leave digital footprints everywhere, and for some of us who have just a lil bit of knowledge (either having a degree in college for it, or just hacking for "fun") - i can assure you - we are not just guessing. Edited April 7, 2011 by milkmaterial
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 SB: Listen to me, you dont know me or us from adam, but initially we really wanted to help you. It seemed you were in a R with a guy who was a good guy, and who you loved, but you did a bunch of mistakes (cant blame you if thats how you grew up like, or thats how you were conditioned to think or treat people or handle decisions/situations) but the problem with you is that you keep asking us and it just seemed so..endless. Your problems were endless, you didnt seem to want it solved yet you kept coming back here with different names, aliases..When someone gives you their honest opinion, you either dont reply or call them names. It seemed that you were the troll. Sounds to me like munchausen syndrome, or a mother who brings her child to the hospital saying he is sick but the doctors cant find any problem - the mother is just addicted to the attention she is getting. You remind me of my friend who was in a R with a married man, he made her do a lot of stuff (I wont discuss it, to "bloody"). She'd complain to me endlessly..but she wont give him up..she even wanted to have someone rape the wife. She wont listen to me. I eventually stopped talking to her. For the love of God, that guy is probably really clueless. I dont know if you really do love him but since you are apparently back together, either you tricked him into it or not, just treat him right. For the good of you and him. And hell, maybe for the good of all of us here who are trying to help you. **** i couldve been playing Mario on my DS instead of replying here. Lastly..most of us here are IT professionals..we arent guessing if you are SB. Dont make us tell you how we know you are SB - when you are online you leave digital footprints everywhere, and for some of us who have just a lil bit of knowledge (either having a degree in college for it, or just hacking for "fun") - i can assure you - we are not just guessing. Not "sb" but if you don't like MY threads you don't need to respond. Go play mario..
milkmaterial Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 lol .. like i said. not guessing but have it your way SB..
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 lol .. like i said. not guessing but have it your way SB.. Like I said not "sb" what happened to mario?
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 OP; Just a thought: Many people on these fora have had conflicts and issues with you in all 3 of your incarnations here. You respond to EVERY post that does not agree with and support whatever you are saying with anger and insults. Also, you continue with great vigor to seek validation and attention with multiple threads. Looks like if you don't get what you were fishing for in one place, you'll move right on to another place. You might not "get" that most all members here tend to read, and to post, on any and all of the fora. And people who don't dole out strokes are not "trolls." It might be worthwhile to look at your pattern. I don't think you'll find many other posters here with as consistent a track record as you have. Maybe ... just, maybe, there is something other people are reacting to that you could benefit from taking a look at. From what you've shown, it's not a surprise that your ex boyfriend was not happy about the fighting and conflicts. I can only imagine.
SingVoice Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 TryingToUnderstand- I think some people don't believe the pregnancy scare thing because women absolutely DO use that to try to get to their exes. I mean...after the end of my relationship I even thought.."jeez what if I was pregnant." However I never acted on it. And based on the fact that you posted SO MANY threads about your breakup...and it seemed like you were having a really hard time (and lets be honest...you were a little crazy...which is understandable)...it wouldn't be totally out of the realm of possibility for people to think you were going to pull another crazy move. Just so you know...again...not trying to be a jerk here...but just trying to show you a different perspective...by posting all those threads it seemed to some people that you were just trying to get attention. Also-while this forum is definitely a very good place to get support...if you took a pregnancy test and it came out positive...I know I sure as heck wouldn't come to the forum and post a thread about it right away. I am not saying that you didn't have a positive test...but I guess I am trying to maybe get you to understand why people might have the reactions that they do. Do you have much of a support system of real life people?? If not...I would suggest trying to build a bigger one. I think sometimes we need support in the way of REAL emotion. I think something you need to think about is...if the test is all legit and everything you are saying is legit...how are you dealing with the reconciliation? I mean...what steps are you taking to make yourself a better person? Have you thought about what would have happened if you hadn't had the scare? Do you think he would have come back?? I believe some people need tough love. So I am giving it to you. You really should get yourself some therapy. Not because you are some lunatic...but because if you really had a life-changing experience here...it would be very helpful to talk to someone about it. And also realize that many people on here ARE here to give support....but when we see things that don't seem right...usually they aren't. So just try to understand where the so-called "bullying" comes from.
betterdeal Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I've just read the first post, but I can't see a question in it. What advice are you hoping for?
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 It has become more and more apparent that this poster suffers from narcissistic personality disorder - she is a victim of everything, nothing is her fault and she seems to possess no empathy. But there are many of us that made the effort in the beginning, when the cries for help appeared back then to be genuine, maybe they still are, who knows. I thought you were saying "goodbye", why haven't you left yet? I don't think you ever responded to one of my threads, could be wrong. But anyway you couldn't be more wrong about me as a person. Thats ok though. I came here over the last few weeks to get some advice and I did get some great advice and support from some of the nicer people here. Thanks to them. On the other hand there are some very nasty and bitter people here that take pleasure in putting others down. Its sad but just the way it is I guess. Since I getting a second chance to move on the right way with my boyfriend, I don't really need to be here anymore. Some of you "forever" posters pretty much live here since you have nothing better to do. So while some of you find someone else to pick on, I get to enjoy my REAL life, off of the internet. And the meanies will still be here "forcing" their opinions on other people just looking for a kind word or support.
nana841121 Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 give both of you anothe shot, obviously you are not over him , and he is responsible I have been there, the similar situation my ex was kind to me, but i don't want to be with him anymore, cause he hooked up with his student who is 18 year old we are both 26 he is a new teacher in the college
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Bless your heart! And thank you for a good laugh. I don't think ANYONE has posted more threads in as short a time period as you have, and in all of your incarnations, as well. I wonder who sits on the Internet all day? I realize that when you have a boyfriend, you pretty much have a full time job making sure he pays attention to you 24/7. Now that you're single, it does seem that you have endless time to be here posting, even posting the identical thread on multiple fora. Who does that? Only you! And, btw, DeppLover contributed many supportive posts to some of your plethora of threads; most notably the 92 page one. Memories! You are very rude, Whatever Blonde. Take note; you're bashing those of us who don't say what you want to hear ... I don't think you'll find anyone else around here talking trash to others the way you do. Again, poor ex boyfriend. He's going to need intensive therapy once he extricates himself from you. And I honestly hope that he didn't throw his truly needy family members under the bus because you made an ugly scene. That would be tragic. Good luck to you. Next time you're banned, find another place to spread your venom, 'kay?
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Bless your heart! And thank you for a good laugh. I don't think ANYONE has posted more threads in as short a time period as you have, and in all of your incarnations, as well. I wonder who sits on the Internet all day? I realize that when you have a boyfriend, you pretty much have a full time job making sure he pays attention to you 24/7. Now that you're single, it does seem that you have endless time to be here posting, even posting the identical thread on multiple fora. Who does that? Only you! And, btw, DeppLover contributed many supportive posts to some of your plethora of threads; most notably the 92 page one. Memories! You are very rude, Whatever Blonde. Take note; you're bashing those of us who don't say what you want to hear ... I don't think you'll find anyone else around here talking trash to others the way you do. Again, poor ex boyfriend. He's going to need intensive therapy once he extricates himself from you. And I honestly hope that he didn't throw his truly needy family members under the bus because you made an ugly scene. That would be tragic. Good luck to you. Next time you're banned, find another place to spread your venom, 'kay? thanks for proving my point
dreamingoftigers Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 Wow, this is quite the thread... Please catch me up on where you are at now. How is the bf?
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 8, 2011 Author Posted April 8, 2011 Wow, this is quite the thread... Please catch me up on where you are at now. How is the bf? sorry it wasn't supposed to take on the tone it has...but some people are so consumed with me they can't resist I guess... Things are good between us. We are in a good place and taking it slow. We are learning to better communicate with one another and become more accepting of each others faults. We care for one another and that is what really matters. He told me I mean a lot to him and he wasn't ready to let me go, that he said some things out of anger but he wants to move forward and start our lives together. He is quite the gem and I'm very fortunate. thanks for asking.
dreamingoftigers Posted April 8, 2011 Posted April 8, 2011 sorry it wasn't supposed to take on the tone it has...but some people are so consumed with me they can't resist I guess... Things are good between us. We are in a good place and taking it slow. We are learning to better communicate with one another and become more accepting of each others faults. We care for one another and that is what really matters. He told me I mean a lot to him and he wasn't ready to let me go, that he said some things out of anger but he wants to move forward and start our lives together. He is quite the gem and I'm very fortunate. thanks for asking. What are you doing to better communicate? What are both of your faults? It really helps to look at these things. It is good that you found someone you value. One of the most important things to do is to make sure that you keep showing it. I am sure that you are doing lots of introspective work.
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