TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Well last night I had the biggest scare of my life and got a positive result on a pregnancy test. I freaked called the ex and he came right over. We went bought 3 more, all came out negative. He spent the night and kind of took care of me. Than today he brought me to the doctor, and they told me I'm not pregnant, that I actually got a false positive. So thank god I'm ok. Ex than said in the last couple of days he realizes he made a mistake and asked me to work it out with him. Said he cares for me and this false alarm really made him realize he wants to be with me..
butterfly2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 And..... so what are you going to do? What did you decide?
xeros Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 He sounds lovely, but give it a careful think. Not knowing any details about what he was like or why he broke up means we can't really give you any more advice.
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Be careful. Is it you or is it the thrill of realizing he could be a dad with you. however you split up in the first place take that into consideration before deciding as if he left you for a reason then it was better you were on your own rather than him doing it when you have a child to look after.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 And..... so what are you going to do? What did you decide? I feel like I'm getting a chance to do it right this time and I'm going to take it.
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I feel like I'm getting a chance to do it right this time and I'm going to take it. Then good luck, i hope it works out for you. Remember we are all here to help if needed (hopefully not).
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Then good luck, i hope it works out for you. Remember we are all here to help if needed (hopefully not). Thanks. Most of you have been great and supoortive. Gave me a lot to think about..
sniffys Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 u better not mess it up again girl! he sounds like a keeper
Fufu Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 TryingtoUnderstand32: I'm happy to hear your bf is reconciling with you and it sounds to me he is sincere about it. All the best to both of you and I am not looking forward to seeing you posting a new thread here ^_^.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Wow. Sorry - but the guy didn't have a chance, I'm afraid. From what you've posted, you pulled out all the (manipulative) stops. I don't think you missed a single opportunity. You got him back. Is it meaningful to you that when he was faced some essential things about you and how you function, he didn't want to be with you? Are you going to have to keep acting forever, in order to keep this guy? Wouldn't it be better to be with someone who wants you as you actually are? And, I get that he acted worshipful towards you and that was very nice and all, but don't you think that you and he have a profound conflict of values? Sure sounds like it, from what you've shared here. What about the relatives? That "situation" did not just disappear. How are you planning on dealing with his relationship and sense of responsibility, and prioritizing of his family? Even if he claims he's ready to throw them under the bus for you right now, I promise you that it won't stay this way. Such things are profoundly ingrained. Well, good luck to you. And to him.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Wow. Sorry - but the guy didn't have a chance, I'm afraid. From what you've posted, you pulled out all the (manipulative) stops. I don't think you missed a single opportunity. You got him back. Is it meaningful to you that when he was faced some essential things about you and how you function, he didn't want to be with you? Are you going to have to keep acting forever, in order to keep this guy? Wouldn't it be better to be with someone who wants you as you actually are? And, I get that he acted worshipful towards you and that was very nice and all, but don't you think that you and he have a profound conflict of values? Sure sounds like it, from what you've shared here. What about the relatives? That "situation" did not just disappear. How are you planning on dealing with his relationship and sense of responsibility, and prioritizing of his family? Even if he claims he's ready to throw them under the bus for you right now, I promise you that it won't stay this way. Such things are profoundly ingrained. Well, good luck to you. And to him. You don't have a clue what your talking about. Regarding myself or him. So please stay over on the "dating" side with the other bullies.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 You don't have a clue what your talking about. Regarding myself or him. So please stay over on the "dating" side with the other bullies. Why don't you hold yourself back from name calling? It doesn't present you in a very good light. I asked some valid questions and, as per usual, you have not answered any of them. You have started many, many, many threads asking for advice and help. You are quite rude to lots of us who have tried to shed light and give a perspective that is different from the one you have.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Why don't you hold yourself back from name calling? It doesn't present you in a very good light. I asked some valid questions and, as per usual, you have not answered any of them. You have started many, many, many threads asking for advice and help. You are quite rude to lots of us who have tried to shed light and give a perspective that is different from the one you have. At this point with some of the judgements and insults you have made towards me, I could care less what you think.
LovelyJublee Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I think you lied about being pregnant. You will feel really proud to know you tricked him into coming back to you. Would you not like him to want you for you instead of being a bunny boiler?
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 (edited) I think you lied about being pregnant. You will feel really proud to know you tricked him into coming back to you. Would you not like him to want you for you instead of being a bunny boiler? I lied!? Are you freaking kidding me! So the pregnancy test I took and got 2 lines that he saw was a prop!? And I wasted over 100 dollars at the doctors for nothing!? You know nothing about me or my situation. It was pretty traumatic to go through that! And he reconciled with me after all of this happened! And if you read my earlier posts this was a concern before he broke it off. Edited April 7, 2011 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
sniffys Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 @jubilee i think she lied about being pregnant too i know a lot of girls who did that. one even asked me to get a positive test from a trash bin at the hospital, so she can pretend it was hers and her then bf would feel sad for her etc. i thought she was fn crazy. @chaucer- u guys find out quick about this girl, i found out way later. i am always the last to know anyway. @blonde-this man is wasted on u! damn i really do hope u dont traumatize the poor guy..i really pray for this guy. i feel sorry for him. what a waste!!!
sniffys Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Go walk in front of a moving bus. i think you need help, professional help. you KNOW you need it. you are on the verge of a mental breakdown.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 i think you need help, professional help. you KNOW you need it. you are on the verge of a mental breakdown. Real original to jump on the "bully" bandwagon. Take care!
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 @jubilee i think she lied about being pregnant too i know a lot of girls who did that. one even asked me to get a positive test from a trash bin at the hospital, so she can pretend it was hers and her then bf would feel sad for her etc. i thought she was fn crazy. That's disgusting. I understand that some people have nothing better to do than troll around forums. Sad.
hoping2heal Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 I am not sure why everyone is saying these things about you. I am also not going to accuse you of doing anything intentionally. I will say though, to tread lightly before you start your guns blazing. If he has been thinking things through and has decided to reconcile? Then great! However, if it was the pregnancy scare that got him to come to this decision, you need to wait it for a bit to see if he still feels the same once that has worn off. I think most people can relate to making a decision based on rash thinking due to a major life event, and once the dust settled the true feelings surfaced. I'm not saying that it will absolutely happen, just to be weary of it.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 I am not sure why everyone is saying these things about you. I am also not going to accuse you of doing anything intentionally. I will say though, to tread lightly before you start your guns blazing. If he has been thinking things through and has decided to reconcile? Then great! However, if it was the pregnancy scare that got him to come to this decision, you need to wait it for a bit to see if he still feels the same once that has worn off. I think most people can relate to making a decision based on rash thinking due to a major life event, and once the dust settled the true feelings surfaced. I'm not saying that it will absolutely happen, just to be weary of it. Thanks for the advice. What you say is true and I plan to tread carefully. As far as some of the other posters go, they can say what they like. I'm not here to win a popularity contest. I have found these forums to be kind of like high school. You had the mean kids that all stuck together and picked on who they thought to be the weaker ones..that's how this has been for me. Except the difference is I'm not weak and I'm not going anywhere. They just want to try to break me down. I'm not the first and won't be the last. These are people that could probably never say these things to my face. Its pretty safe to say these things when your on the internet in the privacy of your own home, which is what makes most of them hilariously cowardly.
LovelyJublee Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 It is very mean of you to suggest jumpin in front of a bus over an opinion!!Are you insane or something??I just came across your story.The reason I said what I did because pregnancy tests are only ever wrong on a negative result.For the test to red positive it must detect the hCG hormone which cannot be mistaken.Also it is a major coincidence that you had just 'split' and you sound like a loon that would lie for attention.Why did you not do another test to 'check' before calling him?Surely you would have checked before alarming him?
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 It is very mean of you to suggest jumpin in front of a bus over an opinion!!Are you insane or something??I just came across your story.The reason I said what I did because pregnancy tests are only ever wrong on a negative result.For the test to red positive it must detect the hCG hormone which cannot be mistaken.Also it is a major coincidence that you had just 'split' and you sound like a loon that would lie for attention.Why did you not do another test to 'check' before calling him?Surely you would have checked before alarming him? For your info I did 4! One came out with a very faint line! Please troll somewhere else.
Author TryingtoUnderstand32 Posted April 7, 2011 Author Posted April 7, 2011 It is very mean of you to suggest jumpin in front of a bus over an opinion!!Are you insane or something??I just came across your story.The reason I said what I did because pregnancy tests are only ever wrong on a negative result.For the test to red positive it must detect the hCG hormone which cannot be mistaken.Also it is a major coincidence that you had just 'split' and you sound like a loon that would lie for attention.Why did you not do another test to 'check' before calling him?Surely you would have checked before alarming him? To say what you did was extremely wrong about my situation. I would never lie about something like that. He saw the test. The dr said it could have been what's called an "evaporation line". And my bf made the decision he did after this incident. He was in no way shape or form forced to reconcile. I made sure he wanted to for the right reasons. I think some people here are so hurt and angry they take out their emotional issues on people they don't know..
LovelyJublee Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 Yeah but it doesn't make sense.I am not a troll but you might be as this story doesn't add up now,mysister is a midwife and I know about this stuff.So you had 3 negative pregnancy tests and a faint line (when pregnant it is a clear line)and you still thought pregnant?That is 3 and half/4 no's to being pregnant.Even if still nervous why didn't you check with the docs first or look on internet to find out more?Oh because you wanted to get his attention.
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