d'Arthez Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Gentlemen (and lady), there is no need to turn this in a bitching thread.
Hules Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 But of course men are saints and never make nasty remarks about women - about how they look, their bodies, their size etc. I'm always amazed at the conversations I overhear on the train - men making the most nasty, personal comments about women they are either dating or have had sex with. Actually liz me and my circle of friends never talk about physical flaws/intimate sessions with our SO thats off limits and personal. If we are going to bitch its when our ladies are behaving badly.
lizwashere Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Me and my male circle of friends which is pretty large have never been harsh on a women one of us is seeing,its called having some class Women feel the need to blurt out every little detail of their lives to people especially sexual with no thoughts to who it could hurt or embarass You see it on facebook all the time.mostly women blurting out the most nonsensical stuff nobody cares about,not evn saying sexual just using it as a point that women need to constantly blurt out whatever goes through their head You are making huge generalizations about all women. There are members of both sexes that do exactly what you're describing. Maybe they don't do it on Facebook, but they do it in other settings - for instance after work on a commuter train with their buddies comparing notes, bragging or simply dissing women. I too have a very close group of female friends and we have never compared notes or commented about each other's partners or husbands. I know nothing about their intimate sexual lives and that's exactly how I want it.
Kamille Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I can't believe this thread. I feel like Jesus: Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. You all seriously mean to tell me you have never shared juicy sexual details with your bff? Not even when you were in your late teens to mid-twenties? I don't buy it! Second, you all mean to tell me that your egos are so big that you would want to exert revenge on someone who said you had a small dick (or a stinky cooch) but were otherwise a good lover? Get over yourselves. This guy happens to understand error is human and has the admirable quality of not stressing over the small stuff (pun intended ). We should all have his strength of character.
Duckduckgoose Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Well I can't hate the OP for doing what she did. She learned a valuable lesson in doing it and she takes full responsibility for what she did she didn't try to downplay it or blameshift. That's +10 points in my book. However my book is not the guy's book. If he doesn't want you to be too hard on yourself that's cool. I know the next man I sleep with is going to probably not be as hung as my exH was. That's just the truth of the matter. He was pretty good length and supa-dupa girth. However exH wasn't that good in bed... size made up for it Just keep telling yourself you get the man you gotta take the whole man... small dong and all. Please tell me OP... does he drive a large vehicle to overcompensate? I really really have to know lol
Urban Crusader Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I wouldn't count on hearing from that guy again.. No but you handled it maturely and now the ball is in his court, so be ready for anything!
D-Lish Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I just can't imagine getting a text like that and then having any guy respond with "no need to apologize". If a guy sent me a text by mistake saying I had a huge vagina, I'd crumble like a ragdoll and probably never have sex ever again! I certainly wouldn't talk to him ever again.
Kamille Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 One of my exes was somewhat small and he knew he was somewhat small. He didn't have an issue with it and would actually joke about it. What if this guy is the same? What if, heavens! The OP is right and he is on the small side and - --- imagine! He actually knows it and is comfortable with it!?! Being on the small side isn't the end of the world. Smaller men can still live an exciting love life. Why be so focused on linking a guy's sense of self-worth to the size of his penis?
liverpool fc Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 seriously it is a very degrading comment to hear that from a women. im suprised he didnt lash out at you.
Sanman Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 (edited) I can't believe this thread. I feel like Jesus: Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. You all seriously mean to tell me you have never shared juicy sexual details with your bff? Not even when you were in your late teens to mid-twenties? I don't buy it! Second, you all mean to tell me that your egos are so big that you would want to exert revenge on someone who said you had a small dick (or a stinky cooch) but were otherwise a good lover? Get over yourselves. This guy happens to understand error is human and has the admirable quality of not stressing over the small stuff (pun intended ). We should all have his strength of character. Well, then I guess most of my guy friends can cast the first stone. Honestly, I find guys not to be as detail oriented as women in this area. as for myself, I only admit details about the one ex who has done similar things to the OP. If they used discretion, then I continue to do so. Guys tend to be more general is their descriptions of sex, in my experience, and talk more about acts. They may say someone is great in bed, or won't give them a bj, but it is rarely about the other person's specific physical qualities and tends to be more positive (nobody wants to admit having sex with a fat/unattractive woman). The female friends I have are much more apt to talk about penis size, amount of pubic hair, attributes of the guy, and whether they enjoyed it/had an orgasm. However, I rarely hear women speak about acts (e.g. he gave great head). I know the penis size of several of my friends due to this (and yet know nothing specific about the bodies of said women). As for this guy not caring, it could be any number of things. If I was enjoying the sex and didn't really see the woman as a long term prospect, I would let this slide as well. Otherwise, I risk losing access to her lady bits. Edited April 6, 2011 by Sanman
Darren Taylor Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I think she should be careful because he might be playing the nice guy simply to get revenge on her for what she said about him. Personally, I think the OP should simply move on and hopefully she's learned a valuable lesson from this experience. That's a possibility and we'd be lying if we said she didn't deserve it. But that wouldn't be taking the high road. The guy needs to move on. I would never tolerate this and I hope he doesn't either(unless he has something planned).
Duckduckgoose Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Yeah it did kind of occur to me that he might have something planned to get revenge on the OP... hopefully not though. I really hope this is just one to grow with. Hell it was awkward the first times I had sex with men, no matter their size. Maybe he is putting it down to one of those awkward moments. If she's not the first chick he's been with he's probably got the "small" dick comment before. If he's ever been in a locker room with others guys or been to public restrooms he's probably noticed a size difference. It would be like a guy telling me I'm kind of scrawny. Yeah? So what? Dynamite comes in small packages. Haha... OP, if your man gets upset that his junk is small tell him that... "Dynamite comes in small packages". I guess I am amusing myself today.
D-Lish Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I sent a dirty text to my dad once- when I first got a new phone, what an effing terrible embarrassment that was:o
westernxer Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I once eavesdropped on a cell conversation between a pair of women talking about the size of their husband's members. It seemed more of a sincere discussion than cheap banter, but still funny to hear nonetheless.
Hules Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I can't believe this thread. I feel like Jesus: Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. You all seriously mean to tell me you have never shared juicy sexual details with your bff? Not even when you were in your late teens to mid-twenties? I don't buy it! Second, you all mean to tell me that your egos are so big that you would want to exert revenge on someone who said you had a small dick (or a stinky cooch) but were otherwise a good lover? Get over yourselves. This guy happens to understand error is human and has the admirable quality of not stressing over the small stuff (pun intended ). We should all have his strength of character. I can honestly say, I have never shared juicy sexual details with any of my friends (even my bff and I've known him for 20 years!), my friends are the same. Its honestly non of their business what happens in the bedroom between a girl I'm seeing and I. We might give each other very general advice based on our experiences but never go into detail or name names. Yep call it ego if you want I call it self-respect. Someone who goes blurting personal details like that to others doesn't qualify as a "good lover" in my books so I would drop them like a bad habit. If you must blurt every personal detail about your sexual lives at least be bloody subtle about it and make sure you SO never finds out....
ChessPieceFace Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 You deserve to be dumped for your actions. No other way to say it, sorry.
BeginAgain Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 If he's ever been in a locker room with others guys or been to public restrooms he's probably noticed a size difference. It would be like a guy telling me I'm kind of scrawny. Yeah? So what? Dynamite comes in small packages. Guys don't go around checking out other guys' packages in the locker room or restroom at least if they're straight. Is this some sort of female fantasy? Do women see men's restrooms and locker rooms as somehow actually covert gay bathhouses, gay bars, and gay porn theatres where men get it on? I wouldn't be surprised with how many men women claim wrongfully of being gay. Besides a man wouldn't be erect most likely in those places so you couldn't do a size comparison. Remember smaller penises grow more relative to their size as they engorge so you can't tell size based on unerect dicks.
Hules Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Guys don't go around checking out other guys' packages in the locker room or restroom at least if they're straight. Is this some sort of female fantasy? Do women see men's restrooms and locker rooms as somehow actually covert gay bathhouses, gay bars, and gay porn theatres where men get it on? I wouldn't be surprised with how many men women claim wrongfully of being gay. Besides a man wouldn't be erect most likely in those places so you couldn't do a size comparison. Remember smaller penises grow more relative to their size as they engorge so you can't tell size based on unerect dicks. I don't know about you but when I use a public toilet I'm fully erect because I'm so excited about taking a piss. I make sure to show every guy there my package so they know how they rate compared to me. They in kind drop their dacks and show me their junk and we have a deep conversation about each others junk. Honestly this must be some sort of female fantasy... Guys don't check out other guys junk.
You'reasian Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 That's great that he's really nice and forgiving. However, please use this opportunity to realize how immature and juvenile it is to talk about another person's privates to your friends, and how disrespectful that is. If you don't want to be with this guy because of his size, that's your decision and that's fine, but not everyone needs to know his size.. anymore than any other guy needs to know about your body or anything "imperfect" about your body. Hopefully he is mature enough to not be texting/talking to his friends about anything he doesn't like about your body. Also, don't take advantage of his niceness. Some nice guys can become bitter not-so-nice guys if they are continuously hurt by "mean" girls. Elaina seems like she is looking for a quality guy
You'reasian Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I don't know about you but when I use a public toilet I'm fully erect because I'm so excited about taking a piss. I make sure to show every guy there my package so they know how they rate compared to me. They in kind drop their dacks and show me their junk and we have a deep conversation about each others junk. Honestly this must be some sort of female fantasy... Guys don't check out other guys junk. Don't cross streams!
orangelady Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 You pretty much screwed yourself. There is nothing you can do to make up for it. The damage is already done. Hahhahaah BeginAgain, you never cease to make me laugh.
Rogue52 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I would be done with this girl if it was me and she probably shouldn't be talking to her friend about the guy's size... HOWEVER, if the girl's accidental text to the friend had been "He's SOOO big!!!" this story and thread responses would be completely different. I've heard girls make comments secondhand about my receding hairline. I just blow the girl off and move on. What else can you do?
orangelady Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I don't know about you but when I use a public toilet I'm fully erect because I'm so excited about taking a piss. I make sure to show every guy there my package so they know how they rate compared to me. They in kind drop their dacks and show me their junk and we have a deep conversation about each others junk. Honestly this must be some sort of female fantasy... Guys don't check out other guys junk. LOL Hules you crack me up...yeah I don't think they do. But you know, I went to an all girls school. And when we were about 15, all of the girls had to change into their P.E shirts and I really hated that because girls would make fun of you if you had a chest.
You'reasian Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Well, if you fall within the statistical average length, girth etc. you're considered small. Go figure.
blackmagik Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 This guy told her "don't be so hard on yourself".. well we know he want be hard on anyone . He is a total disgrace to men by taking you back. I wouldn't even give you the time of day to even respond if I was in his situation.
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