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Last night me and a guy ive been dating for a while slept with each other for the first time last night.

I really like this guy but he has a very small you know what and i'll admit it was slightly dissapointing but i still care about this guy alot.

So i give him a kiss this morning and he said speak after, i start texting my friend all the details from last night (as girls do) and i happened to mention that he has a small you know what, i then realised i sent this txt to the guy by mistake, i felt phiscally sick!

So i immediately sent him a txt straight away and i didnt bull****, i just basically apologised repeatedly saying how lovely he is and so sorry for hurting his feelings and ruining what we both had as i do geniunly like this guy and i would never leave him over something like that.

So all i want to know is have i said the right thing after sending that txt? how upsetting is it for boys to hear something like that? im such an idiot!

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You pretty much screwed yourself. There is nothing you can do to make up for it. The damage is already done.

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LOL. I would be SHOCKED if you ever heard from this guy again. Poor dude.

 

Always double-check your text addressees. ALWAYS.

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Wow. That poor guy. I don't know him, or you, but right now I really feel for him. He must just feel awful :( Perhaps you should do something other than texting him to let him know how sorry you are??

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Its not funny that it happened to you... but it sure is funny to read about it happening!

 

Yeah I think I would have saved that conversation for being with my friend in person...

 

And by texting that to your man on accident, you are not exactly telling him something he didn't know already. Unless you TOLD him he was huge and was great in bed then whatever you accidentally texted him was the truth.

 

He probably is insecure about his junk because he knows its small already. (I just have to know though... does he drive a large vehicle to compensate for it?)

 

When you two have a face-to-face about this text tell him again that you're sorry and that... yeah... you really messed up there :rolleyes:

 

I would so be trying to stroke his ego if he didn't decide to leave after that one...

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Depends the context of the text but that would be a deal breaker for me. I don't have a small "you know what", but if I got a text like that that also said but he was great in bed I probably wouldn't care. So it just depends how it was written out.

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Was he really that small or did you go in with expectations of foot long pork swords? What was his measurements?

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What EXACTLY did you text him about his penis size? Word for word, what did the text that you sent him say?

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How small is it then?

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Why oh why did you have to report something like that to your girls in the first place. That's just immature behavior.

 

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giving intimate details to others is the ultimate betrayal.

 

how would you like him telling his friend about your hooch? your behavior screams immaturity - you haven't portrayed evidence of a woman who is trustworthy.

 

yep, - trust is earned = and you just ruined it with this guy.

 

stop gossiping to women! that's completely obnoxious!!!!! and UNFORGIVABLE!

 

i hope he never speaks to you again - that way you have consequences for your bad behavior that causes other a ton of pain!

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Maybe her real lover is her friend and the guy is merely a living sex toy so she felt obligated to tell her true lover about her day minute by minute.

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Last night me and a guy ive been dating for a while slept with each other for the first time last night.

I really like this guy but he has a very small you know what and i'll admit it was slightly dissapointing but i still care about this guy alot.

So i give him a kiss this morning and he said speak after, i start texting my friend all the details from last night (as girls do) and i happened to mention that he has a small you know what, i then realised i sent this txt to the guy by mistake, i felt phiscally sick!

So i immediately sent him a txt straight away and i didnt bull****, i just basically apologised repeatedly saying how lovely he is and so sorry for hurting his feelings and ruining what we both had as i do geniunly like this guy and i would never leave him over something like that.

So all i want to know is have i said the right thing after sending that txt? how upsetting is it for boys to hear something like that? im such an idiot!

 

 

The problem is that you were going to text a friend and told her about it. How would you like it if a guy texted friends telling them all you had a stinky one? or layed there like a dead fish?

 

how upsetting is it for him to hear it? Probably killed him. But what is worse is that he now knows you were going to gossip about it to others.

 

I'm sure he is quite humiliated and knows you will be telling other people about his pen!s size.

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I txt something along the lines of he is really small but i really like him and dont know what to do.

I do not deserve this guy at all and he probably thinks im some skanky ho after he read it but im the complete opposite, he knows im unexperienced with sex and ive only ever had one bf.

I should not of tried txting my friend but its just something that a lot of my friends do after a date, wanting to know the details etc but ive learnt my lesson now.

As much as i never wanted any of this to happen, im glad it happened early on instead of when things started to get serious, but i still wish it never happened and i just got to make sure it doesnt happen again and i keep my mouth shut :(

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The problem is that you were going to text a friend and told her about it. How would you like it if a guy texted friends telling them all you had a stinky one? or layed there like a dead fish?

 

how upsetting is it for him to hear it? Probably killed him. But what is worse is that he now knows you were going to gossip about it to others.

 

I'm sure he is quite humiliated and knows you will be telling other people about his pen!s size.

 

Totally agree - call me old, call me old fashioned but I can't understand why so many people feel the need to share even the most personal, private information so casually.

 

Honestly, I feel so awful for this guy, what a cruel thing to do to another person.

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best course of action now is to just leave him alone, do not try to contact him again.

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I txt something along the lines of he is really small but i really like him and dont know what to do.

I do not deserve this guy at all and he probably thinks im some skanky ho after he read it but im the complete opposite, he knows im unexperienced with sex and ive only ever had one bf.

I should not of tried txting my friend but its just something that a lot of my friends do after a date, wanting to know the details etc but ive learnt my lesson now.

As much as i never wanted any of this to happen, im glad it happened early on instead of when things started to get serious, but i still wish it never happened and i just got to make sure it doesnt happen again and i keep my mouth shut :(

 

 

Oh no! Has he texted you back?? Also, if you've only had one boyfriend, are you sure that his junk is THAT small? Or just small compared to your last boyfriend? I find that penis size (as long as it is in normal range) does not really matter to me at all!

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The problem is that you were going to text a friend and told her about it. How would you like it if a guy texted friends telling them all you had a stinky one? or layed there like a dead fish?

 

how upsetting is it for him to hear it? Probably killed him. But what is worse is that he now knows you were going to gossip about it to others.

 

I'm sure he is quite humiliated and knows you will be telling other people about his pen!s size.

No even better.

 

She queefs when she walks and it sounds like a duck quacking. I keep looking up expecting to see a duck but it is just her walking by.
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Around here it's pretty common to tell your good friends about your sex life, I don't see the problem in that. The case is that OP probably did blow off her date, just wish he have a very high self-esteem and maybe you'll get a second chance.

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ah i doubt i'll have a second chance, thats it now :(

im sure we've all made mistakes sending a txt to the wrong person, this was actually the first time ive done that, why oh why did it have to be that txt?!

yeh just going to leave it for now and see if he'll respond which is highly unlikely.

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im sure we've all made mistakes sending a txt to the wrong person

I have never even sent a text or owned a cellphone.

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ah i doubt i'll have a second chance, thats it now :(

im sure we've all made mistakes sending a txt to the wrong person, this was actually the first time ive done that, why oh why did it have to be that txt?!

yeh just going to leave it for now and see if he'll respond which is highly unlikely.

 

Lesson learnt don't gossip about crap like this. It's extremely immature, how would you feel if he sent you a message intended for his friend. "My god she was such a dud lay, I wish I could put a paper bag over her head but i really like her! what do I do!"

 

And no It's never happened to me because I don't gossip about my intimate sessions with friends, its non of their ****ing business its between the girl I'm with and I no one else.

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Around here it's pretty common to tell your good friends about your sex life, I don't see the problem in that. The case is that OP probably did blow off her date, just wish he have a very high self-esteem and maybe you'll get a second chance.

 

Let me fix that for you. If he has high-self esteem he will go what a bitch, never talking to her again. If he has low self-esteem he will go back for more.

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i didnt say that everyone has made the mistake of gossiping, i said im sure everyone (or most people) have made the mistake of sending someone a txt that was meant for someone else even when it isnt gossiping.

i know what i did was totally wrong and i know it would feel awful if the same thing happened to me.

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Since you realize what you did, learned your lesson and feel so bad about it I hope for your sake he turns around. However I can't imagine he now does not think you're immature for sharing such intimate private details with other people.

 

So even if he does turn around, you probably are going to have to do some damage control to win his trust back and restore your reputation in his eyes.

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