iluvmykids Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Ive been dating my boyfriens for over 6 years. We have a child together and i have another from a past relationship. Weve been living together for over 4 1/2 years i just dont understand why he dont wanta marry me? i asked him over a year ago and he said NO and added that i put him on the spot to make him say yes but that was not the case i just figured i would since he would be to scared to ask me. But now whaen i ask him if he sees us getting married he says idk what do i do ilove this man with every thing but idk if its worth the wait since its been this long. All his friends are getting married and they been in there relationships in lesser time then us. Im so damn confussed. He dont like to talk bout anything Can someone help me or even if u have had a relationship like mine what did u do. HELP
Andy_K Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Have you asked him if he believes in marriage? Is it something he'd ever do, or something he wants to do at some point in his life? Does marriage mean anything to him at all?
Author iluvmykids Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Ive asked and he just says yeah but not right now im almost 30 and idk how much more longer i can hold on I dont know if it does mean anythnig to him or not thats a good question to ask him
BeginAgain Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Why do you so desperately need to be married when you are already in a long term relationship? The only difference will be a ring, a paper, and more debt.
Author iluvmykids Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Bc i wanta take that next step in my life. even if we get engaged for the next 6 years i would be happy
BeginAgain Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 But it is a next step towards no where. You already have a guy and kids. They live with you so most would consider that a family. What's left except what I listed previously?
welikeincrowds Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 But it is a next step towards no where. You already have a guy and kids. They live with you so most would consider that a family. What's left except what I listed previously? Tax benefits, and the potential for alimony.
BeginAgain Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Tax benefits, and the potential for alimony. Those incentives shouldn't exist in a civilized society but to her those weren't even concerns.
MarlyStar Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 If you knew he'd never marry you, how much longer would you stay?
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