Sake Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 do beautiful women ever have to worry about feeling alone? do beautiful women ever have to worry about not being able to find a suitable partner to fill their needs? I ask this question because my ex girlfriend was very beautiful and when she left, she left for another man or thats what it seems like because their relationship started in a matter of weeks. (we were together for 3 years). It seems like she'll and beautiful girls like her will never feel the same empty feeling that I've felt for so long because while she was irreplaceable to me(not because of her looks) to her I was easily replaced and forgotten.
SingVoice Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 First let me say this as a disclaimer: I had terrible self esteem growing up. I always felt awkward and weird...but eventually I grew into myself...and lost all the awkwardness. So when I say that I am a beautiful and sexy woman...it's not because I am conceited and think the world of myself. That being said...I am a beauty. I get told this ALL the time...I do get hit on all the time...I have people stare at me. And you know what? I am ABSOLUTELY worried sometimes that I will end up alone. Sure...when you are attractive it's not hard to get a date. But I also am a very creative, intelligent, and passionate person on the inside...and it's hard to find someone who appreciates that as much as my looks.
Mov Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Beautiful women can be vain, (not all i may add). They know they are desirable, so they can be very confident about not being alone as usually they can get another partner very quickly. The downside is that beauty does not last forever, as they get older they lose their looks and have to rely on personality, and unless they have a nice one they end up being very lonely and bitter, thinking about when they were so attractive to the opposite sex. The best beauty is the kind that's inside someone, not on the outside!
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I would do beautiful women, if they liked me in that way.
somedude81 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 do beautiful women ever have to worry about feeling alone? do beautiful women ever have to worry about not being able to find a suitable partner to fill their needs? Not really. From what I've seen, the most common reason a woman ends thing with a guy; is because she found another guy to replace him. If an attractive girl is in a relationship, there's usually a few guys who are just waiting for her to break up so they can get their turn. Obviously that's very different from what most men experience.
lapse Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 First let me say this as a disclaimer: I had terrible self esteem growing up. I always felt awkward and weird...but eventually I grew into myself...and lost all the awkwardness. So when I say that I am a beautiful and sexy woman...it's not because I am conceited and think the world of myself. That being said...I am a beauty. I get told this ALL the time...I do get hit on all the time...I have people stare at me. And you know what? I am ABSOLUTELY worried sometimes that I will end up alone. Sure...when you are attractive it's not hard to get a date. But I also am a very creative, intelligent, and passionate person on the inside...and it's hard to find someone who appreciates that as much as my looks. This ^^ Similar experience and feelings on it. And I think it would be much better to end up alone than with someone who doesn't appreciate your passion and intellect above all else. SingVoice, you're on a roll! I'm so enjoying your posts.
SingVoice Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 This ^^ Similar experience and feelings on it. And I think it would be much better to end up alone than with someone who doesn't appreciate your passion and intellect above all else. SingVoice, you're on a roll! I'm so enjoying your posts. AWWWW thanks lapse! And here I thought you just liked me for my looks....HAHA!!!!:p:p:p:p:p
butterfly2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 do beautiful women ever have to worry about feeling alone? do beautiful women ever have to worry about not being able to find a suitable partner to fill their needs? I ask this question because my ex girlfriend was very beautiful and when she left, she left for another man or thats what it seems like because their relationship started in a matter of weeks. (we were together for 3 years). It seems like she'll and beautiful girls like her will never feel the same empty feeling that I've felt for so long because while she was irreplaceable to me(not because of her looks) to her I was easily replaced and forgotten. --------------- I wrote a reply and it went away some how... arghh anyhow.... yes us beautiful women feel that same empty feeling. I am told I am unapproachble gorgeous and that makes it even worse.... I get my man and I think I am losing him cause I didnt appreciate him thinking he wasnt good enough because that is what people tell me. They tell me I can have any man i want just because I am beautiful and sexy. I just want him back....hoping he will come back. He wants to work things out but I was so mean to him and I want to change that about myself. Please pray for me or throw out positive vibes in the universe for me. I hope your beautiful girl will come back to you
johnnathan Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I was honestly wondering the same thing. The girl im currently on the first day of NC with was extreamly gorgeous. She is actually an aspiring runway model. She tells me she does not have feelings for anyone right now, but has plenty of guys lined up. I couldn't go from lovers to just friends knowing that she may have feelings for someone else one day, especially because of how intimate we once were. It hurts knowing that chances are she does not feel the same.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 To be honest, beautiful women can feel lonely, or be alone. If you have severe social anxiety, you generally don't end up with someone, no matter how attractive you are. A beautiful woman without anxiety, though, is never lonely. She always has more options than the guy in her similar position.
Irishlove Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I can't speak for your gf but guys are not jumping at our feet. In fact alot of men if not most are intimidated and don't come up to me. I was always asked by my ex "why aren't you with anyone" everyone thinks I'm lying that I do not get approached. Men are so scared of getting shot down. I'm far from worried my looks will go away. My mother is in her seventies and is nice looking for a senior. You can't catorgorize beauty with a woman. Each person is different, looks or not. I do worry about being alone because men are worried to approach me. I got dumped for a girl who isn't cute. I'm devastated, I'm hurt. I'm not a brick wall. I'm not a shallow person. Sorry you are hurting. Just takes time.
Kamille Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 i'm not a classic beauty, but many of my friends are beautiful women, aka, hotties. I've been there for them when they were heart-broken, feeling lonely and wondering if they would even find love, or why love was elusive for them. Some of the most gorgeous LS members on here have shared heartbreaking stories (Mea+3, D-Lish) Those feelings happen to everyone. A heartbreak is a heartbreak.
radiodarcy Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 i'm average-looking not a beauty. and a lot of times i fall into that assumption too. but it's really not fair -- everyone has their share of heartbreak and rejection - - regardless of what they look like.
DarkAngel7 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I grew up not being considered pretty, but I guess "blossomed" in my late teens. I am now 21 and yes, people tell me I am gorgeous, exotic,etc. I am persian so not that common to see where I live. Sometimes it's hard because you wonder if the guy loves you for you, or just the idea of you...like do they just want to date some "exotic beauty"? Like the other girls said, we actually don't get approached as much as the average cute girls. Men are more intimidated by us, so yes we do get lonely at times. It depends but my beauty doesn't take away my feelings for another person. Just because a woman is beautiful, it doesn't mean every man that approaches her will suit her needs. I think you are putting her on a pedestal. Even the most gorgeous super models have been cheated on, abused, left. And yes they cried and felt the pain.
Dust Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 You sound like you put your gf up on some pedestal. You talk about her like you believe she is better then you. You can be with some one yet still be alone.
shocked_confused Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 yea, us beautiful women get lonely sometimes. The first few months after my breakup were the loneliest actually. I'm starting to feel more comfortable on my own and i think it shows on the outside because lately, I've been attracting lots of men. But ya, i get what you're feeling. My below-average looking ex went through GIGS since he moved to a sunny state and saw all the gorgeous girls on the campus he works on. His friends thought he was insane when he broke up with me, but he wanted to see if he could do better than me. So far, it hasn't happened. Too bad for him.
lapse Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I'm under a lot of pressure at work today and can't give my full attention to the long response I'd like to leave on this, so I'll try to be efficient: OP, this is an agonizingly superficial and limiting attitude towards women. For you and them both. People are more than meets the eye. Beauty is just one of the factors that affects interaction with the rest of the world, but it's not even the most important. How alienating it must be for you to think this way. And what an insult to women. You really think that their life experience can be condensed into what they look like? Embarrassed for ya, bud.
Chi townD Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I forgot where I read it, but there was a study done about the approachability of women. It stated that a lot of gorgeous women don't get approached as much as one might think because I guy will automatically assume that she has to be involved with someone. Or if she looks that good she has to be high maintenance and vain and the men that do approach them only want one thing. Therefore, the gorgeous woman ends up never really finding that strong stable relationship that average women achieve more easily.
Eeyore79 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 It's easier for attractive women to find someone to take them out and keep them company. That doesn't mean they're in love, or that they feel happy and fulfilled. It's just as hard for them to find love as it is for everyone else.
JimmyB26 Posted April 7, 2011 Posted April 7, 2011 OP, why do you think it is that so many women do go from relationship to relationship, never really breaking up until they're with someone new? Because they're TERRIFIED of being alone.
nana841121 Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 Your title is a pun and i don't appreaciate that beautiful is a subjective feeling confidence is a must
hoping2heal Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 do beautiful women ever have to worry about feeling alone? do beautiful women ever have to worry about not being able to find a suitable partner to fill their needs? I ask this question because my ex girlfriend was very beautiful and when she left, she left for another man or thats what it seems like because their relationship started in a matter of weeks. (we were together for 3 years). It seems like she'll and beautiful girls like her will never feel the same empty feeling that I've felt for so long because while she was irreplaceable to me(not because of her looks) to her I was easily replaced and forgotten. Some of the most beautiful women I have ever known have had the worst RS. I don't even mean abusive (as that's a whole other issue itself). A lot of them were really lonely as they always had after them, but finding a man who loved and cherished THEM and not their physical beauty and/or bodies was a challenge. It may sound cliche but I know a few gorgeous gals who still live that. Having people dote on you and fawn over you is simply not the same thing as having someone genuinely care for you. I have had men interested in me for all the wrong reasons plenty and it isn't nice. In fact, nothing can make you feel more alone than that kind of attention especially if you are intelligent enough to know what it actually is.
hoping2heal Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 BTW Sake, I find your post a bit confusing. I am not trying to imply your only feelings for your GF pertained to her looks but it is kind of odd that is the thing you are posting about. I could just be tired (probably) but I too sensed a bit of pedastol and idol worship. I mean, why was she irreplacable to you? I guess I don't know much about why the two of you broke up to begin with.
sniffys Posted April 9, 2011 Posted April 9, 2011 well beauty is subjective..beauty is inside out .. pretty is physical "beauty".. and yes physically beautiful women feel alone...and depending what kind of people they are, they might feel even more alone. like a beauty queen who got used to being pursued by many during her younger years..all she has is her looks, she hasnt developed any strong ties to other people who care for her beyond her looks..wake up one day and realize her looks are gone..the people who pursue her are gone too. shes alone. but if shes a pretty lady with a good head on her shoulders (she was raised well, had a good upbringing) then she might choose someone who she knows treasures her beyond her physical qualities. also if a woman is physically beautiful, she might be presented with a lot of "choices" at the same time, leading her to become confused or make bad or rash decisions in terms of partners. i used to think..damn..if i had a stunning body like a supermodel..i would never be hurt. i would probably be too busy entertaining men to nurse a broken heart.
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