SingVoice Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 SO it's been 3 weeks of NC since my breakup. I'll admit...the first week or so was HARD. I felt like sh**...I couldn't eat...I couldn't sleep. But I absolutely stuck to NC...no matter how hard it was. I allowed myself to grieve...I allowed myself to miss him...I allowed myself to cry when I felt sad. But I NEVER forgot about the bad stuff. I thought a LOT about the bad stuff too. I didn't just avoid my feelings...I allowed myself to feel...and then allowed myself to deal with those feelings. And after 3 weeks of NC...I can say with absolute certainty that I would NEVER take him back. EVER. NEVER. I didn't feel that way the first couple weeks...I thought..."well if we came back and talked about things....blah blah" Now...NO WAY. EVERY relationship has ups and downs. And this one had more downs than anything. I realized how much I gave...and how little I got in return. I realized how much I cared...and how little care I received. I remembered that I am a beautiful, smart, funny, and giving person...and I would never go back to someone who was so incredibly selfish that they couldn't see how great I am. I guess my point is that when you step away from a relationship and really process it all...sometimes you really do realize that you are better off. Once you get over the initial shock/grief...and you REALLY think about things...you realize that it wasn't really all that fulfilling to begin with.
Fufu Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 You are doing great I'm truly happy for you. "I remembered that I am a beautiful, smart, funny, and giving person...and I would never go back to someone who was so incredibly selfish that they couldn't see how great I am." Absolutely well said.
geegirl Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Thank you for posting this. It reinforces some of the things that I am going through as well. Great to hear that you are coming through to the other side. It's a journey that is going to make you stronger and wiser. The long term rewards are well worth the short term pain.
lapse Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 echo what gg said - thank you! I'm so happy for you, SingVoice.
Author SingVoice Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Aww...thanks guys!!! Y'all put a big smile on my face!!!!:D:D:D
whatdoido1717 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Thank you for posting this. I am happy you are in a better spot. I just made a post about how hard it is to wake up this morning (we broke up Sunday night) and thinking about what you posted has giving me a new outlook and a new view to think about everything today. I hope it continues to help all day and I don't revert back to thinking about how much I miss her and glorify all the good things and mentally block out similar things to which you noted (ie. how much I gave and how little I received, how much I cared and how much she couldn't). I guess this is still very hard though because my ex is suffering from severe depression and says she still loves me but needs to make this journey alone.
Mrlonelyone Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 We each have many parts to our brains. Some that are emotional and instinctive, and some that are logical. With time that logical part of your brain that knows he was not all that great, and perhaps knew it during the relationship...will win the argument. When it finally does you will wonder why you ever gave a crap about someone who would not treat you right. Whenever you need to vent in a way that's not acceptable IRL LS is here for you. We don't mind.
Hopeless Girl Posted April 10, 2011 Posted April 10, 2011 great for u! i hope it happens for me as well so i can focus even better onn my studies.... im happy 4 u
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