sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 haha, last night i got invited to a party at my ex's house. i was with all my guy mates and i wasn't going to go because i havent seen him since we split up and i thought id get upset especcially if he was getting with another girl or something. i found out that he had been asking about me, if i was ok, and how mad i was with him lol. my friend told me but wouldnt really tell me anything else he asked cus he said he just changed the subject and didnt want to be involved... in the end i decided to go to the party as i knew wed have to see eachother sometime soon as we share all the same friends, i wanted to show him too that i was fine without him... he was absolutely drunk out of his head haha. i didnt say hi to him, we didnt really acknoledge eachother (i know i should have said hi but i didnt really get the chance) and it actully turned out really good...it was awkward with his housemates though because everyone expected me to be miserable but i was confident and happy my ex went to bed after a while cus he was so drunk but im just hoping i made an impression that i don't need him everyones been making comments too about how happy i seem and how well im coping do you think he was asking about me for any particular reason? ive stopped getitng my hopes up about these things but i do still want him back...
Fufu Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 (edited) To me, I wouldn't over analyze why he will ask about you. As long as he's not making any sincere actions to get you back, don't read too much into what's he doing. It will be good for yourself to move on from this past. By then, if he truly loves you and comes back for you to get you back, you be able to think logically from your head if this man is worth to be with or not. At this moment, you will be easily give in to your emotion and thought he was coming back for you but then he had no such thoughts to (breadcrumbs). Right now, you don't have to over think too much and ended up confusing yourself even more. Start moving on and focus on yourself I hope you begin your NC as soon as possible, which means no contact with your ex be it who is the one initiating, and if you know he's going to be at some party, it's better if you don't go because right now you still have romantic feelings for him. Edited April 5, 2011 by Fufu
Author sunnydayze Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 tbh, like i was fine at the party, i do love him but for some reason i can think about it alot more logically already, i do want him back but at the same time i wouldn't just jump back into a relationship with him, i don't know if its definetly what i want. he hasn't thrown me any breadcrumbs really, i think i could cope if he did thanks for all your advice i dont want to stop doing things with my friends either, just cos hes there, i don't want to hide away and also surely if i avoided him he'd think that it was because i was really upset over him...
Fufu Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Don't avoid your friends Not asking you to However, if you do want to be happy again, do cease all contacts with him. Based on your reply, I think you will be fine
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