nineyearsgone79 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Hey Guys.. so I would really appreciate a little advice. Basically my boyfriend and i have been dating since June. Since we are about an hour away normally on fridays i drive over and stay with him till sunday. Recently though he just found out he will have to find a new job and has an upcoming interview on friday. The new job is about 4.5 hours away from me and here and there he mentioned maybe getting a 2 bedroom apt.. but never outright said "would you want to roomate." .. so nothing has been set in stone. Last night however we were having dinner with his mom and she asked what we were going to do.. and he just mumbled to her "i dunno.".. it was all very very awkward. We both had come out of long long distance relationships that ended poorly. We discussed when we first started dating that we would never enter into those again. So anyway... last night (once we got back to his place).. i brought up the topic of what we should do etc about the move and seeing each other. He again just mumbled "i dunno i dunno yet." Anyway... I'm a little confused about what that means and about what to do etc. Just the day before and up until this point he's been talking about planning another vacation together in 2012.. a cruise. I just can't really figure him out. I know i'm not planning any long distance thing.. as I just turned 32.. and don't want to waste another 9 years of my life in another long distance relationship disaster. ... What would you guys do.. ?? P.S. If he wanted me to move in with him i would.. i have the savings etc. .. i just don't know if he wants me to .. given by his lack of response!!??
blackmagik Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Have you flat out even asked him or brought up the subject of moving in together with him and talked to him about the LDR thing and your lack of desire to enter back into one. Us men are simple creatures, we don't like to play games and can rarely see through the smoke to understand what is even going on in the first place. Talk to him about it.
utterer of lies Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I didn't get the impression from what you told us that he is interested in moving together with you. But as blackmagik said, it's best to ask him directly.
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