kurisu Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 So I've been seeing this woman the past few weeks now, so far we've only actually gone on two dates but talk or text every day. Our conversations on the phone go anywhere from 15min to well over an hour, and the texting goes almost all day, til one of us goes to work. Things, at least in my eyes are going quite well, that is until quite recently. Immediately after our first and second date she, unhesitantly, agreed to another date, problem is our second date was two weeks ago this Wednesday and I haven't even seen her since then, we talk all the time but she can't seem to find free time to actually do anything. Now I'm a reasonable person and can be patient if I need to but today, as I was trying to find out if she has a free day this week she tells me she was out late last night to a movie. As much as we talk of course I know she hates going to see movies so I ask why, to which she tells me she had a date. Again, I'm reasonable enough to be ok with her going on a date with someone else, after all in todays society woman get asked a few times a week on some occasions. W hat really irks me is the fact that she found time to go see a movie with some guy but has put me off for nearly two weeks, and she doesn't seem to care. I've been trying to find some time in her schedule since our second date and she hasn't been available but she found time to do something she doesn't even like with another guy. I mean, women, is that normal for when you're seeing someone? It's not like we're bf/gf or anything but still. I'm honestly ready to say it's over, good luck with the douche who makes you sit through something you hate.
BeautifulMan Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Jeez, I could tell you to stop texting her but you'd probably reply to her within 2 minutes of her sending you a random text. Oh hold on a second a pathetic girl just texted me, "you didnt want to text me or did your phone die?" Put a leash on the women you talk to.
D-Lish Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 As a woman, I can tell you that if I really like a guy, I'll make time for him. If she's making a date with another guy to go and do something she doesn't really like doing= you can bank on the fact that she really likes HIM. This is your cue to say good bye. It's also her clue to you that she's not overly interested or invested. It sucks, but she's telling you that she isn't into you.
nessaaa Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Why the heck would she tell you she went on a date with another guy :S Maybe she's hinting that she is not interested in you.
Author kurisu Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Why the heck would she tell you she went on a date with another guy :S Maybe she's hinting that she is not interested in you. I did ask what she was up to, she said she went to a movie and since I know she doesn't like going to see them I asked if she went with her family and she said it was a date. This is your cue to say good bye. It's also her clue to you that she's not overly interested or invested. It sucks, but she's telling you that she isn't into you. Ya, that's kind of what I was afraid of. I've been getting some mixed signals, to which I won't go into great detail. Some days it seems she's really into me then the next I get almost nothing. I was pretty well set in breaking it off, just wanted someone to throw in their thoughts.
D-Lish Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 I did ask what she was up to, she said she went to a movie and since I know she doesn't like going to see them I asked if she went with her family and she said it was a date. Ya, that's kind of what I was afraid of. I've been getting some mixed signals, to which I won't go into great detail. Some days it seems she's really into me then the next I get almost nothing. I was pretty well set in breaking it off, just wanted someone to throw in their thoughts. Well yes, it does suck- but at the very least, she's playing games. Enjoying your attention, but still going on dates with other dudes? Hell no- just say no to that! Cut her off and move on to the next.
Annoioso Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Try to find some self-respect and completely block her out of your life cold turkey. And the guy is likely innocent, the douche is most likely her as most women are who juggle multiple guys with no shame.
phineas Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 If she has time to talk to you on the phone, she has time to meet for coffee, or lunch, or dinner. I made this mistake before also. spent too much time on the phone with a woman vs. actually meeting her. Now I keep talking & texting to a min except in the very beginning. I tell them I prefer to talk in person on dates. I mainly use the phone to arrange & verify dates. If a woman is "busy" I tell her to call me when she is no longer "busy" & I stop paying attention to her until she contacts me & tells me she is no longer "busy". The lack of contact between dates keeps me from becoming attached to a woman & doesn't make me feel like she wasted my time also. I got better things to do then talk on the phone or text all night with someone.
Author kurisu Posted April 6, 2011 Author Posted April 6, 2011 Sounds good, thanks for the advice. I'd rather not end it in a text so next time I see/call her I'm going to put and end to it. It's a shame, I liked her and I thought she liked me but I don't feel like playing any ****ing mind games.
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