Emissary Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Theres this girl at work I really like, and for a while I was sort of probing/playing around with her to see if she showed any signs of liking me in a similar way, I didn't get the impression she did. I more or less got confirmation from another source today that I was correct, but not only that, she's pretty sure I like her. I dunno, for this, it changes things a lot for me, I could keep going like this if I thought she just didn't think I like her in that way, but now it feels like it could become really awkward. I'd like to just ask if I could talk to her alone for a little while, tell her that I do like her, but that I'm aware she isn't interested, and that she shouldn't think I was ever running around with the wrong idea in my head. Just sort of open up a little. At this point the pressure is really building up, and if I don't clarify to her what is really going on, I'm really going to do something to embarrass myself.
utterer of lies Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 But 'clarifying' things to her will be much more embarassing than anything you would do otherwise. Just ignore her. You just want to talk to her because you want to believe she surprises you and is into you after all. And that's not gonna happen.
Duckduckgoose Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Just my experience but dating people you work with doesn't end well. I tried it 3 times. It was a mess.
GivenUp0083 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 It is a horrible idea to tell her this. I used to be like you and thought spilling my guts and showing her all my cards was the right move in hopes she would magically say "yes me too!" but that is NEVER the case. Even if she does like you, you're taking all the fun and mystery of ever going on a date with you because you've given yourself up already on a silver platter. Instead, don't approach her, don't initiate contact with her...but start talking to other girls. Maybe she'll see you talking to or having lunch with a girl and wonder what's up. If you're lucky, she may ask herself "hmm, why are these girls into him?" and she'll want to get to know you to know what the appeal is. Otherwise just drop it. Don't be stupid.
Evolo Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 I'd like to just ask if I could talk to her alone for a little while, tell her that I do like her, but that I'm aware she isn't interested, and that she shouldn't think I was ever running around with the wrong idea in my head. Do not do this. You're setting yourself up for failure and basically guaranteeing awkwardness. If you like her, why don't you just ask her out for a casual coffee or lunch date? You don't have to make some 'confession' that you like her - just that you want to get to know her a little better. If she says yes - great. If she doesn't - no biggie. You're adults. You don't have to treat every girl you like as a potential life partner.
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