ffomega Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 (edited) Hi. I am looking for advice. I am not looking for anyone to flame me or give me hell on this situation, I am just looking for some support. I began an online relationship with my girlfriend two years ago. I thought we were in love and we were very close. However we live in completely different countries and had talked about meeting eventually to discuss beginning a life together. She told me she wanted to marry me and start a family together. She has gone through a lot of stress and is overwhelming herself with problems she would be able to handle if she would try not to live by the "Rome was built in a day" rule. Three months ago, some family came to visit her and last month, she ended up sleeping with her cousin. She regrets having done so, and at first said she still loved me...but then she decided that whenever she thought about the relationship, it made her unhappy and depressed...mainly because she is afraid that we can never be together. She does not love him, yet says she can't forgive herself for what she has done. She told me that she wants me to find someone else, but I believe in forgiveness considering the situation we're in. I still love her and I would do whatever it takes within my power to keep her. But I believe she is trying to push herself away from me. She won't tell me she loves me anymore, but she tells me and all my friends she still has feelings for me. I have been told that by forgiving her I would be losing my dignity and self-respect, but I know that she is just trying to run from me to make her life a little bit easier. She says her biggest problem is that I am not really there for her (physically). They only had sex one time, yet right before she did it she said she loved me....and the night she told me about it she said she loved me...also, they have both said they want to bury it and make it history because neither of them loves each other. (Without tearing me down....or cutting me off at the knees....or name calling....Please) Tell me what I should do to win back her heart Thanks -Omega Edited April 5, 2011 by ffomega
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