MidnightinMadrid Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Hello everybody In honor of a one of your members '1784',i had to post this title. Sorry to bother you all. I promised myself not to write threads galore on this guy. But now his last contact has left me confused. Here's a backdrop of my story [COLOR=#660000]http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261863/[/COLOR] After six months of my reaching out to him and his ignoring my contact,i decided to go NC for good. He finally contacted me last week,via MSN saying he was still ticked off because of our last argument,which to me was silly anyway,and was no reason to for us to not talk things over as friends. However he chose to just shut me out instead,which told me he didnt care,and I have gotten some good responses from my last threads,thanks all. So I took three days to reply,I know everyone would say ignore,but I really had somethings to say to him instead of keeping it bottled up. He said that he couldnt beleive our long time friendship wasnt real and that we should cut the BS and talk. I replied that I thought we were doing so,but instead of talking things over,he cut me off,ignored my reaching out to him for months-so how does he question our friendship if he in so many ways acts as if though he didnt care. I didnt tell him exactly that,but i kept it short,i wasnt rude or anything. What was his response? You got it nothing. Now this is not only ticking me off,he could have replied already I sent it last wednesday,but hurt feelings of this guy;s treatment is so comming back. I valued his friendship,even if part of me always had feelings,but i accepted even that,and dealing with his ambavilence,now i'm here,yes i care,now i'm gone behaviour is putting me back to square one! I just need some insight,or to vent,or some logical answers here. I feel as though i'm in one of those old Hitchcock movies where the guy tries to drive the woman crazy. Need your suuport,Thanks all!, __________________ I'm actually West of the Moon,under the dancing stars in the sky,'round about Midnight.
selena_cat Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Easy,do to him the same that he does to you,take your sweet time in replying,If you want to,folks like him don't deserve an ounce of your energy. You deserve so much better,but you wont get it unless you truly beleive it.
Movingthrough Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Hello everybody In honor of a one of your members '1784',i had to post this title. Sorry to bother you all. I promised myself not to write threads galore on this guy. But now his last contact has left me confused. Here's a backdrop of my story [COLOR=#660000]http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261863/[/COLOR] After six months of my reaching out to him and his ignoring my contact,i decided to go NC for good. He finally contacted me last week,via MSN saying he was still ticked off because of our last argument,which to me was silly anyway,and was no reason to for us to not talk things over as friends. However he chose to just shut me out instead,which told me he didnt care,and I have gotten some good responses from my last threads,thanks all. So I took three days to reply,I know everyone would say ignore,but I really had somethings to say to him instead of keeping it bottled up. He said that he couldnt beleive our long time friendship wasnt real and that we should cut the BS and talk. I replied that I thought we were doing so,but instead of talking things over,he cut me off,ignored my reaching out to him for months-so how does he question our friendship if he in so many ways acts as if though he didnt care. I didnt tell him exactly that,but i kept it short,i wasnt rude or anything. What was his response? You got it nothing. Now this is not only ticking me off,he could have replied already I sent it last wednesday,but hurt feelings of this guy;s treatment is so comming back. I valued his friendship,even if part of me always had feelings,but i accepted even that,and dealing with his ambavilence,now i'm here,yes i care,now i'm gone behaviour is putting me back to square one! I just need some insight,or to vent,or some logical answers here. I feel as though i'm in one of those old Hitchcock movies where the guy tries to drive the woman crazy. Need your suuport,Thanks all!, __________________ I'm actually West of the Moon,under the dancing stars in the sky,'round about Midnight. Ive talked with midnight a lot through her process, and to be honest, i hate to read this. This is so common in the breakup process. The person reaches out, you answer then - gone. Most of the time this happens because they are fishing, they thrown a line, they get a bite then say well i know its there but i still dont want it. A lot of the times the person who is responding is just trying to be polite, sometimes not, but it never works out the way the responder (usually dumpee) wants it too. I would say at this point he needs to be COMPLETELY out of your life, nothing of him anywhere, delete all contacts. You are going in a circle and gaining nothing. At least you know now that there is nothing else you can do, leave it at that.
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