joshextreme Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 so its been 2 months and some odd weeks since my ex and i have split. i cant remember when i started NC but things are going well for me. so well that i unblocked her on facebook and friended her just to see what was up. to my surprise shes the one actually having relationship problems why im posting is i want to see your views on this. i know maybe i didnt do the right thing but if i let her come to me, which she now can through fb, we could possible pursue a friendship.
whatdoido1717 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 is she having relationship problems with a new guy? Is that what you were saying?
smudge21 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Saying you can be friends and then actually being her friend are worlds apart. Just ask yourself if you can really sit in a bar with her and her new boyfriend/fiance/husband and just be 'the friend'? I know I couldn't.
VJohnson32 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 2 months isnt a long time. It may seem like an eternity to you since she broke your heart... but really isnt and you may not be over her yet. Since shes still on your mind and pursuing friendship. Any further contact with her as much as you think it wont trouble you it will set you back and will bring old feelings back. Friendships arent pursuit, they happen eventually... but you need to have completely moved on with your life and trust me when I say you still have a bit more time healing up. Its a step tho, but you took one back now.
Author joshextreme Posted April 4, 2011 Author Posted April 4, 2011 2 months isnt a long time. It may seem like an eternity to you since she broke your heart... but really isnt and you may not be over her yet. Since shes still on your mind and pursuing friendship. Any further contact with her as much as you think it wont trouble you it will set you back and will bring old feelings back. Friendships arent pursuit, they happen eventually... but you need to have completely moved on with your life and trust me when I say you still have a bit more time healing up. Its a step tho, but you took one back now. Yeah its her relationship with some other guy that Idk. I'm not gonna come out and say oh lets be friends. Ill let her come to me. And if I start to feel uncomfortable ill just go back to square one.
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