NaturalDisaster Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 so ive been with this guy for over a year now and ive come to realized that im just not as satisfied as i think i should be. its not that im not happy, hes really a great guy...but for a while now, i just dont feel much when we kiss and the sex usually just doesnt please me. i often find myself wanting to be single just so that i can hook up with other men and i know i sound like a horrible person but i cant help my mind from having these thoughts. i really care about him and hes been a great boyfriend but is it wrong for me to want more? is it wrong to want to feel sparks and to be with someone who you find irresistible or am i asking for too much?
youaretheone Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Couldn't be more coincidential with my situation. What are the chances that the other side is settled or not trying hard enough to keep it alive? Foe example, I have the feeling that my girl is just leaving everything to me. She is very attentive and on her toes when I initiate things but she is too shy to initiate and flirt with me which turns me off. I feel like that girl I was talking about in my post could sweep me off my feet and I want the excitement, not a girl who is sitting there, feeling happy being with me and because I am giving her all the affection. What do you think?
Hopeful30 Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 Just the fact that you are contemplating leaving is enough to say that you should go.
BeginAgain Posted April 4, 2011 Posted April 4, 2011 You sound like you want passion but passion is not going to bring you love. Passion is an exciting but ultimately destructive force while love is stabilizing and nurturing. Passion consumes more than it gives and love gives more than it consumes. If you want a series of steamy, torrid affairs you will know exhilaration but you won't know peace or long term happiness.
utterer of lies Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 i really care about him and hes been a great boyfriend but is it wrong for me to want more? is it wrong to want to feel sparks and to be with someone who you find irresistible or am i asking for too much? What you are feeling is perfectly normal, don't worry. Some relationships are not meant to last, even if there's nothing wrong, just something missing. Break up. Either you will realize how much you both mean to each other, and you'll be back together in no time, or you will find something better.
Alex-P Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 As most people have already said, if you are no longer interested in the relationship and can not see yourself marrying this person then I would just get out and move on. You should not stay in a relationship that is "just okay or lukewarm if you don't feel like it. If you do not see a future with this guy under any circumstances then you are doing both him and you a favor by getting out.
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